I have been in the same relationship for 4 yrs and it seems like im the only "survivor" of the 2. Ups and downs, lies (mainly his behalf, i'm real to him) and empty promises. When I sit down and want to talk about where things are going and how he feels about me I get "uuuhhhh i dont know" etc.... I'm desperately running out of options and patience and I don't know if it's me or is there still a "relationship" to look foward to?
2007-03-28 13:33:27 · 8 answers · asked by Ebony da *Dimepiece* 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
4 years to long. Move on he does not want a commitment with you. No communication, just sex. No time to lose. Someone else out there will communicate and make you feel the way you should. He does not want you and does not want anyone else to have you. Then u will be old and really stuck on stupid.
2007-03-28 13:43:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only problem I see here, a big one at that, is the less than truthful. If a minor lie is told to preserve your feelings that is one thing. Big lies without purpose is another issue. As far as avoidance of expressing feelings, perhaps some history of less than loving response by you has him shut down. Look at and own your responsibility. From there take a new approach with an adjusted attitude. Look at your question - is it loaded. Too often loved ones have an expectation of response and when they do not get all heck breaks lose. If you want honesty then be open to whatever comes your way. Agree and follow through making appropriate adjustments. You can only check yourself.
2007-03-28 20:47:32 · answer #2 · answered by Healthy Lifestyle Geek 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont think its you with the problem. Four years is a long time and if your constantly trying to fix the relationship, being lied to and not getting any benefit from the relationship, sounds like its a dead end. You need to think of your well being and your happiness. I think you should tell him what you want from the relationship and if he's not willing to meet your needs i say end the relationship and move on. You deserve so much better.
2007-03-28 20:44:03 · answer #3 · answered by romerelax 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
babe.. just ignore him for sometime.. and when he comes to talk to u.. u do the same thing to him "uuuhhhh i dont know" etc.. and see his reaction.. probably he will get annoyed.. but let him feel what u feel!
communication is essential but if he is not willing to listen to u .. so IGNORE him for min 1 day.. and see.
2007-03-28 20:40:18 · answer #4 · answered by DJ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Stop wasting time with someone you aren't married to. One thing I wish I had done was stop working so hard while dating. Dating should never be hard... if you aren't married. MOVE ON. If you are - get counseling.
2007-03-28 20:40:18 · answer #5 · answered by lucki female 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Write it all down and give it to him to read,if you get a reply its a starting point,if you don't you would be wise to look after your own future.
2007-03-28 20:40:21 · answer #6 · answered by RAINBOW 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is usually the answer you get from them. They don't know this or that. They don't want to confront the problem so denying it makes it worse.
2007-03-28 20:47:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kick his a-s-s
2007-03-28 20:37:44 · answer #8 · answered by alexandria1_1999 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋