What do you think???

Question

Last year my dad hit me and fatured my face. He is the type of person who won't accept the fact he was wrong. And now I am not aloud to see him, unless I say okay. Should I still talk to him?? I wrote him a letter and got some things off of my chest, but I just don't know. He always made look and feel stupid and always pushed my ideas to the side. What do you think??????

Answer 1

I don't think you should talk to him unless he has changed his behavior. What he did was wrong and abusive to you. He should have treated you differently with showing love instead. Plus, he should have been arrested for assault.

Don't see him until he changes and until he apologizes to you. It will probably be even more safe for you to just send him letters for right now. You don't need anyone telling you hurtful things or making you feel stupid, because you are not stupid.

Hopefully, by staying away from him, he will realize what hurt he has caused you.

Answer 2

Have either one of you had any counseling after this.? Where charges filed, and what did the judge say? That said, sweetheart, people who not accept responsiblilty for their actions do not deserve a second chance. I don't know your age, but someone must have said it is your decision if you see him or not. Since it is your choice, do you choose to be around someone who belittles you? I hope not. Go on with your life. You are responsible for your actions not his. If he has not accepted he did this to you then by all chances he will do it again and still will not think it is his fault. At this point you need to make the choice to be around people that will encourage you. Writing him was good, as it let you express to him how you feel. But if he didn't answer then that tells you again he just flat out does not care. And that is hard, but it is better to care for yourself then to be beat. Best wishes

Answer 3

Just because he is your parent does not mean it is okay for him, or for your mom, or for anyone...brother, sister, boyfriend, friend, etc. to physically abuse you. The fact is, this man is your dad, and sometimes we can't agree with our parents. Because you have a choice to see him or not, you are the only one who can know if you want to see him. Honey, if he fractured your beautiful face, then it is perhaps best for you to continue writing your feelings down and mailing it to him, or speak on the phone. My advice is that you DO NOT go visit him ALONE ...Please! Make sure that you have witnesses and help in case. I don't know why he would hit you, but in his mind he probably thinks you deserved to be hit. Please understand that nothing you did or said caused it, and you did not ever deserve to be hit. I think it is good to love your dad for whoever he is but also know that whatever made him hit you, it is something wrong in him, in how he thinks. I never had abusive parents, but I do know how it feels to be a victim , for I was one over ten years from my husband. who, byu the way, never went to jail. please do not let anyone hit you, you are a beautiful person, and need to be strong, letting people hit you will break down your self esteem , I know. I am 43 and feel like a child in my mind. but now been divorced for over six years, and it will take the rest of my life to continue to fix what he damaged. take care.

Answer 4

You dont say what led up to the abuse, was it an ongoing thing, or a one time deal? Not to say that makes it okay because it doesnt. My dad and his wife beat the living hell out of me when i was 16 just because I had a bad attitude for a minute, but it was a one time deal, I also did not have to have any contact with him, but when I graduated from high school when I was 17 I chose to invite him and we have more or less had a great relationship ever since. I think he felt horrible for what he did but never apologized, maybe see what happens, but never let yourself be abused again. good luck

Answer 5

i think you should not say yes. first of all he was so wrong to put his hands on you and second the man has no scrouples when you hit your child and fracture your face! you should not even think twice unless you guys are supervised with any more visits. there needs to be some serious couseloring here.

Answer 6

sweety.. but whats the reason for your dad to hit u? is he an alcoholic? or did u do something that annoys him always? as for me.. my dad till today never once laid his hands on me.. but unfortunately my husband did..which my dad was there to protect me.. and give me shelter back.
you should probably think about why is it YOU that he hits.. does he hit your mom? or your other siblings? if no.. than there must be a big reason behind. find that out first.
take care gal.

Answer 7

well u have to forgive an dforget and yeah i know it's a very hard thing to do but u hsve to be the bigger and better person
persona;;y i too would have a differnetculty doing that i owuld continue to right him and hope that our friendship and family ralationship brgans to get better !!!

Answer 8

as long as you wrote him a letter explaining how he makes you feel, you dont have to see him if you dont want to, you will later on in life when you are old enough and proud enough to stand up to him, no matter what he says or thinks

Answer 9

you need to talk to a counselor on abusive relationships.

something is very wrong with your father and you probably have issues too

so get some professional help...as children of abusive parents tend to be abuser too..let us hope not ..for your loved ones sake.

Answer 10

it's better to stay away from toxic people until or unless they change completely around.it's hard but sometimes you have to basically 'divorce' people around you because even as the Bible points out "bad associations spoil useful habits".