Men !!!!!!!?

Question

Y when a woman ask u what u expect from her to make this relation ship work. The way u answers are good... I was in a relation ship for 5 years and I asked my man at that time what he wanted in a life time partner he told me that “some one who was sexual competitive to him. Some one who would keep her self in all aspects of the word.” He also said “someone who would respect him.” I did all that and more…. What got to me was he cheated on me with one of his ex girl friend that had cheated on him when they were together becz he didn’t have a car or a good job at the time. My question is Y would u leave a good person who cares and loves u unconditionally and cheat with some one whom did u wrong?????

Answer 1

he wants spice in his life at anyones expence --move on girl u deserve better

Answer 2

Having "everything we want" in someone is not always good. It takes away the need to try, to be creative, the yearning for the unknown, the challenges of spontanaity.

He obviously eploited you, and you gave to him in loyalty and to please him. You did nothing wrong, and he obviously didn't care with what YOU might have wanted.

ADVICE to WOMEN from a MAN whom Understands Women:

Never give all of yourself to satisfy. Leave enough of you in want by the man to keep him focused on you. Keep tugging on the stick and dangling the carrot.

If you give 100%, how much does he have to try? Is he giving 100% too? Love, Marriage, Relationships are a two-way street, and if one gives too much, it usually leaves the other without any clear responsibility in the relationship.

Keep it Fresh, Keep it New, and Keep it Challenging! I've seen too many women get hurt by giving too much to a guy and not getting the same in return. However; I've seen Men get burned the same way, but not as much.

CHEATING however; is NEVER condoned or right. Regardless of the situation. Once someone finds the need to do this, they are weak, and don't deserve a relationship or marriage, ......and they don't have the scruples to know how to make it work. It's a self-serving act, and it's ones own fault that they strayed regardless if it is beyond a failing or otherwise good relationship.

Anyone that carries a relationship on their back/heart more than their partner..... is getting emotionally and morally ripped-off IMHO!

Answer 3

Probably he was saying things you just wanted to hear. A manipulative guy is what you had. He really didn't care for you, otherwise he wouldn't have cheated with his ex-girlfriend. Anotherwards, you beat him in all the things he couldn't really do, so he decided to take the easy way out by being with another woman whom he could beat and who he was sexiual competitive with. And he will probably keep going that way until someone shuts him up!

You don't need someone like that in the first place. Not sure if you were married, but if you two were together for 5 years, he never saw any commitment for marriage.

Answer 4

quote... when a woman ask u what u expect from her to make this relation ship work

There is no answer to this unless the question is 'what do I/we need to do TODAY to make it work'... and the q is repeated regularly. People and relationships change constantly.

The cheating on you has nothing to do with love... men don't need to be in love to have sex, whereas a lot of women do wind up in love as soon as "it" goes in.

The fact 'she' cheated on him before just doesn't mean anything, sex is sex, and to reclaim something lost just may some extra allure for him.

It doesn't mean he loves her, even if he has told her he does... surely you must realise if the passowrd to Alladdins cave was "Open Sesame", the password into the Hidden Forest is "I Love You". Mind you the words "I need you" can yeild a temporary pass.

I gather you are in your 20s.... if so its possible neither of you have yet matured sufficiently to settle into long-erm stable relationships. It takes a lot of personal development (will power) to pass up an opportunity to use the passwords when standing at the gates.

5-8 years is crunch time for most relationships. You need to review your own conditions of entry and decide whether to change the passwords or give them to someone else.

Answer 5

Because men are stupid !!!! well not all of them but for example my ex left me for a girl who was 4 yrs younger than him we where 24 at that time he got married with her and after couple of months he start looking fo rme again but ofcourse i said NO... because he said she was partying too much, she didn't knew how to cook or didn't have a clean house or clothes that he had to cook for both of them and do all the shores at home .... and i used to do all that when we were married even make lunch for him to take and sexually I used to pleased him in EVERYTHING .. is like they said you don't know what you have until you loose it .... they just looka t a a "perty" body that will open her legs as soon as he said but hey don't see if she is worth it or not ... I will said the ayre just brain damage !!!

Answer 6

Oh crap here we go again MEN and WOMAN do that not just the man woman are just as guilty as the man .This is what i feel happened in your case ,The person that you was with was a phony another words he projected an image of himself to you and you perceived it to be what you where looking for .This person had you fooled in believing that he was the one .He was a user he read you like a book . It happens to guys all the time to.

Answer 7

men ahte loosing at anything and love to even the score, and they don't consider the conciqences later. If you truely have self respect remember haow you feel right now when he comes back to you in a few months weeping about HIS mistake and wishes you could be together again. DON"T be that girl that gives second chances to loosers!

Answer 8

is a committed relationship the same as marriage. After five years, he'd not proposed. Get my drift. He was drifting when he was able to define what he wanted. Since one woman whom he was committed to went out on him, he figures they all will. He went out on you before you could go out on him. After all, you are his competition, and able to do anything he could do. so it's just a matter of time. Women may love you, they may not, but they are all willing to put you in your place. Love to some men is being hen pecked by another. Some men define sex as love, the poor misguided souls, but others wonder around behind some woman they're in love with, unable to break the ice, but doing all kinds of favors for a woman who tells them they are in love with another man. And she just doesn't get turned on by her slave labor. The men begin to go for the women who go for them. It's not love, but love is expensive, unpredictable, and may not yield the results intended. Let the poor man go, wait awhile, another will show up. Watch him gyrate under the effects of female company. Lust is predictable It might help if you could cook, in heels. Eventually you'll settle for decent company.

Answer 9

men are "pigs"throughout history women had to put up with infidelity tho they claim that htey luv their spouses yet with evry opportunity they'll cheat.you can be 9 out of 10 in evry aspect of a perfect woman.tendency for men to cheat you can never tell.if you had given him a second chance to cleanup his act,but continues,you better move on.i'm not saying All men but 90% are pigs.

Answer 10

this has happened to me, and i blamed my self the 7 years i went thru this. men expect you to be perfect but he can do what ever he wants. then i got rid of him just to fall into the same circle. married man(red flag) oh i sleep on the couch im not doing anything with her(red flag) i have a child with him, then the confessing starts.if a women is willing to get a mans attention sexually then the man dont care who they hurt.im sorry you went thru this.

Answer 11

Many people can't tell a fake Rolex from the real deal...

and many people simply do not know when they have gold in their hands.

You have been hooked up with a loser, and although he may not be a good person, it does NOT reflect poorly on you.