I have been married for four and half years. I am an American and my husband is Australian. We got married when we were 18 and he was19 years old and we have two girls and one baby boy due in a month. And my husband and I have been been having a trouble with our relationship, I moved back to the US and left my husband in Australia, hoping that he would follow me back to the states. He says he doesn't no when he will be coming to the US and when I call him on his phone he is always to busy and can't talk to me. Or doesn't answer his phone at all. When I talk to him I say that I miss him and love him alot, I still want to work the relationship problems out with him.. and he cant even tell me that he loves me sincerely.
2007-03-28 12:50:17 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
go to a marriage councilor
2007-03-28 12:52:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
to be honest if you want to make this work you should not have left he may feel a little abandoned right now and if it were me i would really think if someone loved me why would they move half the world away from me and to say it was because you hope he would follow you well maybe he hoped you would stay for him? now its time to decide if its worth saving then you need to tell him after the baby is born you want to come home or ask him to come visit you guys use the baby as a reason like i really want you here for the birth etc and go from there but remember everything you feel because he did not follow he maybe feeling because you left even if when you did he was all OK with it sometimes people say what they think someone wants to hear but in their heart they mean something else!
2007-03-28 20:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by peterpansdate 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend moving back to US hoping he will follow you is your first mistake. Stop and think. What was that about. I don't get my way so I am going country hop on you and you need to chase me. Hugh. Not. No wonder he won't talk to somebody carting around that attitude. Try that over. Accept poor judgment and give up some remorse. You have three children with this man. What did you hope to accomplish by hide and seek. All is not lost. Let him be heard. Too often we all want to be the one heard. He heard you all right and this is his response to your expression. Do you blame him for not wanting to play a game he gave up playing fresh out of grade school?
2007-03-28 21:15:50 · answer #3 · answered by Healthy Lifestyle Geek 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is upset. Separation is never good. If you truly want to work things out it is forever. Nothing is going to be perfect. He probably loves Australia. If you wanted to work things out you should have worked them out there. Do not call him. He will call u when he is ready. Since you still love him forget about divorcee wait and see what his next move will be. You probably took his children too. Time to grow up and be a woman. Go back home you and the babies. You will have your new born with daddy. Sad. Love covers up a multidude of sin.
2007-03-28 20:00:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he truly loved you and the children, then he would ahve come back with you. If when you call, the phone is always busy or he will not answer it, then this out to signal to you that he is too busy for you now.
He is probably fooling around on you and is probably in a relationship that you have no knowledge over.
You need to get someone that you know, a friend, from where he is living to sort of spy for you and let you know.
When you find it out, file for divorce, get him for alimony, spousal supprt and child support.
Let him suffer on his own. You deserve better than this and he is not worth you wasting your time on for waitng for him.
Move on---life is too short not to enjoy it.
2007-03-28 20:11:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it wrong of you to have left him over there. Considering there are 2 children and one on the way. I suggest you swallow your pride and go back. The way he may see it. She left me. And if that is what he is thinking your the one who is going to have to move. That's if you love him and want him back. Because if you leave it has is. It's going to be hard being a single mother with 3 small children. They need a father and who better for their father then the one life gave them. So if he was a good father to the children do it for them.
2007-03-28 20:08:30 · answer #6 · answered by Sunset 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well i have never been married before but that happened to me wit a boifriend and the thing is he's cheating if he can't say he misses u back..and not being mean but wat posed u to move away from him he's a man and u know u have to keep an eye on them...but serious ya'll need to talk about were ya'll gonna stay at in australia or america than ya'll have to talk about the kids thats the most important thing ya'll really need to focus on and if none of that works go to a counselor they might have help but i wouldn't trust them that well they've steered me wrong before so yeah ya'll should really talk about it
2007-03-28 19:58:27 · answer #7 · answered by princessansah9 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Communication. Discuss the things that cause trouble for the two of you and try to find a compromise. Relationships work best on honesty and compromise. Did you talk with him about your decision to move back to the US?
2007-03-28 19:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by C C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is afraid to come to the US. I don't see how you can work on your problems if you are apart. With 3 children to worry about you need to at least try to talk things out with your husband. Good Luck
2007-03-28 20:21:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes two. If one isn't willing to work on it - there's not much you can do. Not sure why anyone would move to another country thinking that would help anything. All you did was give him a free ticket to do what he wants. Now he is a bachelor and you have 3 kids. Hello? What would you do?
2007-03-28 20:23:30 · answer #10 · answered by lucki female 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You want to make it work, then go back to australia, and confront him. Be with him and put the family together. Don't let him get away with not talking about the issues. Go see him, move back, If you don't, the issues will not get resolved and that becomes a bigger and bigger problem.
2007-03-28 19:56:06 · answer #11 · answered by Rose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋