"what do i do.. I have a girlfriend we both love each other and want to get married, but her parents are against us because of Religion? and i dont want to run away and get married? what do i do?
2007-03-28 12:50:11 · 14 answers · asked by vijay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just run away and get married.
2007-03-28 13:13:55 · answer #1 · answered by alexandria1_1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Religion is a big deal.... it will be something that the two of you will argue over for most of your marriage if you are not in agreement. You're in lust right now, and it appears from where you are that it will mean nothing. Surprise!!!!! When you get a little older, it will mean most of it. Marriages succeed when a couple have lots in common--- common race, religion, politics, intellectual level, life goals, agreement on if to have children,--- it's all part of the first two of the four Biggies that make a relationship: respect, admiration passion and trust.... The first two keep your relationship going. Don't run away and get married.... you can marry anytime. And what you like at 16 or 17 or 18 or 22, isn't what you will like at 30. And hopefully, you will wish your marriage to last more than 4 or 5 years....
So, to answer your question, don't do anything, except prevent pregnancies.... for sure the two of you are not ready for children. Kids don't bond, hon, they are divisive, and as my mom said, "kids can destroy anything, even a pretty solid marriage....." So, don't think that that will cure your problem --- it will only add to it...
Good luck, hon.
2007-03-28 20:08:54 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are both of age parents really have no say in it. Stay and get married. Invite the parents. If they don't come it's their loss. But definitely have the wedding of your dreams, that way at least you have those good memories. If you run away, you have the parent issue AND disappointment of a quickie wedding. Congratulations and good luck.
2007-03-28 19:57:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean because of religion? Are you both the same faith or different? It really is your choice who you want to marry and your parents will just have to learn how to accept it and let you live your life. How old are you both anyways? They may be concerned because you do not share the same faith.
2007-03-28 20:32:51 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you guys should just get married because you are not getting married to her religion or parents you are gettting married to the women you love
2007-03-28 20:02:05 · answer #5 · answered by changes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your both of age and sh is willing and so are you to deal with the fall out then you get married you realize they might not come or help and so it is what it is but anything worth having is worth fighting for right! so they will learn to except it or not but in the end you guys will have your life and family together and will be happy! if you guys have a plan on how you will still honor both you religions then share that with them but they cant live your life one day they will be gone and you two will still have each other!
2007-03-28 19:55:22 · answer #6 · answered by peterpansdate 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How are you going to raise your children? Which religions are you? Its alot easier to work through something if you talk it out and see what you both want. The best thing to do is both teach your children about both of your religions as they are growing up, take them to alternating services (Mass one Sunday and Temple the next weekend). Explain what you plan to do to your families and ask for their support and suggestions, but make it known that you will do as you both see fit, and as God shows you.
2007-03-28 19:56:19 · answer #7 · answered by liebedich85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are both over 18 who cares what your parents think as long as you 2 are happy
2007-03-28 20:14:01 · answer #8 · answered by mommie_29801 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless the two of you are underage, there is no reason to run. Adults make their own personal decisions. State to them that you are your own individual people, and you will make your own decisions. I found out a long time ago that sometimes all it takes is standing up to the in-laws (or in your cas, future in-laws).
2007-03-28 19:55:22 · answer #9 · answered by Mommy-fied 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't do much, if noone can get through to her parents then you should just run away, or just get married there..they can't really stop you
2007-03-28 19:53:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋