I myself am straight, but today my BFF just told me she was bi-
what can I do to assure her that I support her decision, and admire her for being brave and coming out???
2007-03-28 12:48:24 · 17 answers · asked by Jordan♠ 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I know that she doesnt like me, and thats not what I'm worried about - she is scared and afraid of being humiliated. HELP!!!!
2007-03-28 12:54:33 · update #1
I know that she doesnt like me - thats not what I'm worried about. I understand that this is a normal thing in our societey, and I'm okay with that and I'm okay with the choices she makes. How can I help her from being scared and humiliated??
2007-03-28 12:56:16 · update #2
Just tell her what you just told us.
2007-03-28 12:51:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you're okay with it and that you will support her every step of the way. There isn't a special protocol or system to accepting a person's sexuality, you just want her to know that you aren't going to betray her or harass her, and that you will stand up for her if she is in a situation where her sexuality is an issue. That's all!
2007-03-28 20:05:00 · answer #2 · answered by Waverly Pascale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just support her, as you commented to us in your question. Also, do not dwell on what she told you and do not let it affect your friendship with her.
Some of us have been treated very meanly by people who were supposed to be our close friends (both men and women) once we came out to them -- or shortly thereafter. And what we got was more than abondonment. Remain friends with this girl and don't treat her any differently than you treated her before she told you. Her sexuality is part of who she is but quite frankly, it is not everything. People are so much more than that.
2007-03-28 20:49:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her exactly the way you just told all of us. Just be straight and to the point. She will love and respect you very much for that, see because she was probably afraid to tell you. I am straight too and I have nothing against being gay.
2007-03-28 19:56:40 · answer #4 · answered by ashinningstar2006 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her and tell her not to be scared. Look her in the eyes and tell her that you'll be there for her as a friend.
2007-03-28 22:48:16 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what kinda girls she likes. FYI: it is probably not you at all.
But like you know some friends like TommyLee and others like Jude Law, etc.
Find out her girl style! It will be fun
2007-03-28 19:52:49 · answer #6 · answered by i.c. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what you just told us. Wow the guy ahead of me thought the exact same thing.
2007-03-28 19:51:28 · answer #7 · answered by Appono Astos 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not a choice. Just tell her she has your support.
2007-03-28 20:13:01 · answer #8 · answered by sydney77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her exactly what you told all of us. Honest and to the point. JUST BE HER FRIEND AS BEFORE.
2007-03-28 23:09:56 · answer #9 · answered by DOUGLAS P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then simply tell her what you said in this question, let her know that your still her friend no matter what and that won't change, and that your there for her if she needs to talk and she feels no one will listen.
2007-03-28 20:08:10 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This confuses me. If she's doing something that is decent and honorable and good for her life, I don't see why she would be in need of support. And what is brave and admirable about doing something decent and honorable and NORMAL? Hmmmmm.
2007-03-28 19:54:09 · answer #11 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋