Right now....I just don't see myself wanting to settle down. At all.
I want to focus on my career and travel the world. See things i've always wanted to see. Be free before just staying in one place. And get married.
Is that so wrong? I have my bestfriend...its not like i'm lonely all the time....I just want to be able to stand on my two feet and be able to fully depend on myself before I start beign with someone. and going steady and trusting them, depending on them alittle and for them to depend on me alittle as well in a team to make the relationship work along with the love.
Is that wrong?
Solitude?
2007-03-28 12:34:59 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
just by the title of your question: no
you can be satisfied with casual dating and lots of friends and be happy with life at the same time. family can help you be happy. but once you've found that special person, you'll know cuz the sun begins to shine brighter! :) i know that with my boyfriend....
2007-03-28 12:37:55 · answer #1 · answered by ** i Am hiS giRL ** 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not !!! U GO GIRL ! Not everyone can say that they want to focus on their career and all that. Keep doing what you're doing. Love and marriage isn't for everyone. When it's time, things will fall into place. Don't let anyone tell you any different. The only sad part about that is........by the time you realize you may want to settle down.....life is really short and you'll be 50 ------ then what? You're not crazy --- if you're not happy with yourself - you can't make anyone else happy. Love yourself first......YOU come first. Good luck honey.
2007-03-28 12:41:37 · answer #2 · answered by apache_lizz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can focus on your career and be happy, but there will always be a part of you that you wish to share with someone close. Dont mix work and pleasure, they dont go together well.
Not everyone is feels like they will be losing their freedom if they get married. Some of us never had the opportunity to find somebody thus leaving an empty void in our hearts.
If I can find someone with whom I can share my life with, then I will be perfectly happy.
As for you, it's obvious that you have never actually been "alone" as I have. If you had, then you wouldn't want to experience the emptiness ever again.
2007-03-28 12:42:22 · answer #3 · answered by snipertkc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my goodness no its not wrong. in fact, thats the best definition of a good relationship that ive ever heard. being able to be fully stable and independant is what everyone needs in life and just because people get married does not mean that should be taken away. i hope i can do the same thing when im older...just be on my own and focus on what i want to do for a while...not focus on someone else.
2007-03-28 12:42:03 · answer #4 · answered by Jenna M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Solitude.
Not wrong if it completes you.
Some people need a human crutch to be happy. You don't.
Maybe some day, your feeling of solitude will change. And you will, at that time, fill your life with something more. However, if at this point in your life, you are most happy and content, you should not change.
Be free in your own way. We all find that happiness comes to us in the weirdest packages. You just happen to find happiness..in absence. ;-)
2007-03-28 12:41:18 · answer #5 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go you Miss Independent! I don't think there's anything wrong with that, as long as you're meeting new people and have friends and family to talk to. But don't be so negative about men that you just ignore any that come into your life. You could pass by Mr. Right because there are probably guys who feel the same way you do too.
2007-03-28 12:38:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong for you to not want to settle down and get married. I can understand where your coming from. You can be happy doing what you want to do. You don't have to be married or have kids to be happy. I think we single gals can do just fine with out a man in our lives. So I say go for it. Work on your career and travel the world. When your ready to settle down it'll happy but don't do it if you don't want to and don't do it just because your friends are wanting you to or pushing you to. It's your life not theirs so do what you feel is right.
2007-03-28 12:41:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello duyenie,
No, you dont have to get married to be happy! Some people are not meant for marrage, and want to focus on their career. You sound like one of those people.
But If you do find somone, I encourage you to settle down and live a life with your family. When you grow old, you will then have your husband, and relitaves there for you!
I hope I helped,
Elsie
2007-03-28 12:39:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with your attitude--just be glad you live in today's world, where it's POSSIBLE!!!!!
Even 50 years ago, you would have been pressured into early marriage & a house full of kids--no career, no travel, no nuthin'.
So give a shout-out to the sisters who came before you and fought to make lives like yours possible!
Oh, and lose the guilt---you deserve to make your own life happy as you see fit!!
2007-03-28 12:47:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is perfectly fine. I know alot of people who not have that strong need to be around people. They are more secure by themselves. Some people need the verification of others to feel good about themselves. Other few people who are fine being alone don't have that need. They can deal with things w/o the support of many friends. It's just a different way of living life.
2007-03-28 12:39:00 · answer #10 · answered by Rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, of course not, there's nothing wrong with your point of view. And you do mention that you are looking towards beginning with someone, ultimately. And being able to depend on yourself is an attractive quality. As for your primary question, humans are social critters and studies have shown (if you believe such things) that people tend to live longer if they are not alone.
2007-03-28 12:41:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋