2007-03-28 12:21:11 · 21 answers · asked by laurie_sunshine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i was able to work thru an affair and end up with a much healthier marriage. if you both love each other and are willing to try it can definitely work. are in interested in counseling/church or things like that? if you're both willing to do your part you can put it behind you eventually and start over again
2007-03-28 12:28:11 · answer #1 · answered by just asking 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No... you should not stay. A cheater can not be change.If he did love you , he wouldn't have cheated on you because he would have respect for you as a person. Remember that there is a better person out there for you. My husband cheated on me a month after my baby was born and we are currently legally separated . I don't see us being together because the thought of him touching me again after all these other women,makes me sick
2007-03-28 23:28:56 · answer #2 · answered by Snow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, the thought of having the guy touch me again, made me want to vomit. The visual of the guy pronging another lady was nothing I would have ever been able to erase. And any counselor will tell you it is two years in counseling before the trust even begins to come back, and that is not guaranteed. Hon, glad I left. It broke my heart,--he was the absolute love of my life--, but ya can't unscramble and egg (you can make other things with it, but ......) but I packed up my dogs, the stuff I wanted, and left. And NEVER looked back.
2007-03-28 19:32:45 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no / in any relationship trust is always has to be top 3 and the other is respect , cheated on breaks the chain and pain will never go away ,lay in the back of the mind until it takes over ,
old saying once a cheater aways a cheater
2007-03-28 19:29:17 · answer #4 · answered by rev frank 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me personally dont believe the saying that once a cheater always a cheater and ill tell you why. i was married and i cheated on my husband. well we broke up and i deserved it. he treated me like gold. and i can kick myself in the ***. but now im in a relationship and its been a while. and i have not cheated or thought of cheating. its cause i dont ever want to hurt someone like i hurt my husband. and i never want to be hurt either. so i learned from my mistakes. so everyone can change. i feel if there is enough love and you both want it you can do it. you just cant keep bringing up the past. you need to start fresh. honestly i wish i would of got that second chance but i didnt. but now i love the man im with so its all worked out for the best....good luck
2007-03-28 22:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by grniz07 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have never been cheated on but I couldn't imagine staying in the relationship and being happy, it seems like you would always have doubts about your partner and him being faithful
2007-03-28 19:31:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater. How could that make a person happy? I guess some people would like it that way, but from personal experience I have been pissed since it happened to me.
2007-03-28 19:26:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I am. I realized that I contributed some and she contributed some. We are all sinners and we came together to the cross of Christ and He reconciled our marriage and it is now about 10 times stronger than it was
2007-03-28 19:31:01 · answer #8 · answered by nolet93 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once they cheat they will always cheat , The trust is gone.
2007-03-28 19:30:08 · answer #9 · answered by Larry M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope...the resentment will never pass and their opinion of you becaomes that of a door mat. Best get out while you have dignity left!
2007-03-28 20:02:07 · answer #10 · answered by purple toes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋