My cousin is now living with my nan becaus eof problems at home! Being the oldest i have always been nannies girl! But now shes living there i seem to be pushed out and she is the favourite! i dont like going down there no more because i have seething jealousy wen i do? should i feel guilty?
2007-03-28 12:16:04 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ppl u need t realise sumin a min! B4 u go on t anser my question nd u's who have anserd listen up! Im only 15 myself so i do kind of like my nan nd carn jus 'grow up nd live wivout a nan'! Nd anuva fing is i dont h8 my cuz or i wudn eva do nethin t hurt her i love her to bits and we get on very very well we are rly close that is why i feel guilty because i kno that i shwdnt be jealous ov sum1 i love nd care 4! I love my nan and my cousin to heaven nd bk a hundred times so dnt judge me until u kno me! The situation i want u to judge not me!
2007-03-29 04:33:49 · update #1
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2007-03-28 12:31:43 · answer #1 · answered by coffee37man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy will eat you up if you're not careful. Don't forget she is your cousin's nan too and your nan will have enough love for all of you. Don't waste good energy on negativity - turn it around - remember your cousin is there because she is having problems at home. What looks like favouritism to you is probably some of Nan's TLC you are witnessing. Why don't you give your cousin a ring and see if she fancies going out somewhere? It will make you feel so much better inside and Nan will think what a lovely first born you are.
2007-03-28 19:29:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's really kind of a childish attitude on your part. Your nan is just being a good grandma by taking in your cousin. Family members should be there for each other. With her living there, they would naturally have the opportunity to grow closer. If you spent MORE time there, and not less, you might feel more a part of it. But unless you are actually living in the household, you aren't a part of the household. I think you need to bend a little, and do fun things with your cousin. Be her "friend" and help her get her mind off her home problems.
2007-03-28 19:31:23 · answer #3 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is a normal, human emotion. You shouldn't feel guilty! Keep going over to visit your nan; you never know when you won't be able to anymore. Eventually, your jealousy should fade - just don't let it get in the way of your relationship with your nan (or your cousin). If you want some alone time with your nan, try setting up a weekly meeting for just the two of you - you could grab some coffee, play a board game, whatever. Make it your "special time" with her; she'd be very flattered if she knew that you wanted some one on one time with her every once in a while.
2007-03-28 19:21:25 · answer #4 · answered by Delvala 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is hard to control, so you shouldn't feel guilty exactly, but you should try really hard to make sure you're the only one who knows how you feel. Your nan has done a nice thing by helping out your cousin when she needs it, and your cousin is obviously having a really hard time so you certainly shouldn't try to make either of them feel bad about the situation. Anyway, if you've always been the favourite, chances are you still are, even if you aren't seeing as much of your nan as your cousin is. Don't stop going and visiting her, that's just daft.
2007-03-28 19:23:50 · answer #5 · answered by f0xymoron 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure your Nan will have enough love for both of you. You are just being jealous of your cousin when really you should have more compassion for her since shes having problems at home
2007-04-01 12:42:37 · answer #6 · answered by sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jelousy is completely normal and everyone faces it at some point. Just try to be understanding of the whole thing. Don't break your relationship with your Nanny over this. If all else fails, wait until you know that your cousin is not there to drop in.
2007-03-28 20:08:50 · answer #7 · answered by Mommy-fied 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your nan would do the same 4 you, wouln't she, go down to your grans and get involved in what their doing, show interest, not jealousy,be there 4 your gran to help your cousin, cos if you act like a child over this, and somthing happened 2 your gran (god forbid) then you would feel guilt like never b4, sorry sweety, but theres more people in your grans life than just you and she has to share the love round, just like you, if your cousins having problems and needs help, you should be there 4 her aswell, good luck
2007-04-01 08:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by fay y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ought to feel guilty you selfish little twit. Your cousin is more in need of nan right now than you.
2007-03-29 01:24:28 · answer #9 · answered by Skully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your feelings are honest. But know that they are jealousy. Talk to nan about having time for just the two of you.
2007-03-28 19:20:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you sould not feel jealous. ask any one in life pepole get jealous. ask you nan if she would like to do something just you and her. something that yous would both enjoy. am sure your nan dont love you any less than she did before. best of luck with that.
2007-03-28 19:25:40 · answer #11 · answered by gthknox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋