there's this girl, and she and i used to be bffs. now, i really don't like her, she's immature, rude, and selfish. i don't really want to be her friend anymore.
my other friend who is friends with her found out that i don't like her anymore, and promised that he wouldn't tell her, then a couple mins later, right in front of me, he told her, but not directly, and then later told her the truth about how i feel. she was so sad when she foound out, and so ii called her and said that it was all a huge misunderstanding and that i was sorry about everything, and that we're still friends.
but i really don't want to be friends with her!!
what sould i do and/or how do i talk to her about it?
2007-03-28 12:08:22 · 5 answers · asked by Lilli G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You just have to come right out & say it, or make yourself unavailable to her until she gets the hint.You either tell her & let her be hurt for a little while, or keep being friends with her & be miserable.
2007-03-28 12:23:13 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to feel bad. People outgrow friendships all the time.
As far as disengaging yourself goes, it's not so much what you do as what you don't do:
*Don't pick a fight unless she did something really sh*tty to you. (And from what you've written, she hasn't.)
*Don't be rude to her or encourage others to do so but don't be too friendly, either. Stop socializing with her. Avoid places where you know she'll be. Change your phone number and email address if possible.
*Seek out other people--preferably people who don't much like her.
*Don't confide in her and don't allow her to do the same.
*Be extremely consistent. If you engage in these behaviors all the time, she'll get the point and move on.
*If she calls you up crying again and asking to be friends again, let her down VERY GENTLY. Say something like, "I don't hate you but I don't want to be friends anymore." DO NOT EXPLAIN WHY!!!
p.s. Stop confiding in your guy friend. He obviously can't keep his mouth shut.
2007-03-28 19:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by e_d_ellis2004 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS IS NOT MY BEST ANSWER!!!
anyway, juz tell her and get it over with. tell her why u want to break the bond between u 2. if she really doesn't understand, try explaining further. talk to her on the phone, though. she might want to start a fight. and if she does, prepare for the next time u see each other. but juz tell her!!! it'll remove ur anxiety and get things over with. u may feel guilty afterward, but if u really don't like her, u'll get over it fast. hope i helped!!!
2007-03-28 19:15:20 · answer #3 · answered by kiddie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't please everyone, and lying to people and saying everything is ok when its not is bad form, just be honest with her - tell her what the problem is and if she can't hack it then I'm sure you'll find better friends who are actually worth your time!! And I'd also question your friendship with that other friend if they can't even keep something to themselves that you tell them in confidence!
2007-03-28 19:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by Emma B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel but say the things that you don't like about her as constructive criticism not as reasons why you don't like her anymore.
2007-03-28 19:19:07 · answer #5 · answered by FengHuaXueYue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋