My ex wants to get back together but I'm not ready...?

Question

My ex gf of 4 years wants to get back together but I don't think I'm ready for a serious relationship again. We broke up a few months ago and I think I'm too afraid of the commitment. She's telling me that she is having a terrible time dealing with this and wants to get back together or move on because me being in her life but not as her bf is too hard for her. I love her to death and want her to be happy but I don't think I can be there for her right now like I used to. Do I suck it up and start the relationship back up or do I stick with my gut and let her move on. I really don't know what to do, I don't want to lose her but I don't want to see her in pain like this. I need help, fast...

Answer 1

It sounds like she's not ready for a true relationship either, she's just having a hard time making it on her own. There is nothing in her words about building a life together, finding out what went wrong the first time, or generally how she feels about you. Let her go.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

why aren't you ready for a serious relationship again, it's only been a few months since your split? if you feel that you're not ready for a commitment then you'll have to let her go... but with that said... if you do let her go, she might find someone and then if you want her back it would already be too late. so you really got to think about this. it's a tough call but what is the reason you two broke up? and why is it that you can't have a relationship w/ her again? you haven't really told us the whole story. but i can tell you that if you won't committ to her... she will move on.

Answer 4

You have already answered your own question.....by saying "do I suck it up"?. This implies that you have already made up your mind that if you did get back together, you would not be happy.

Trust your gut feelings.

Good Luck