HELP!!!!!!! Seriouse help!!!!!!!! Need Advise BAD!!!?

Question

ok, when I give my man a bj, he says i use too much teeth, and i dont go down far enough. I gag so bad though, and I absoulutly hate doing it. How can I make it better for him and more comfortable for me. Does taking a lozenge help numb your throat so you can do it better?

Answer 1

You sound young, and just because your boyfriend wants a BJ, I hope you make your own decision and do something like this when you are ready and when your partner respects you, not when he asks for it so he can brag to his friends. I was 21 before I did it and it is not something I do with every guy I date.

Anyway, if you are serious here are some tips I use to give my boyfriend a bl0wjob. So far, he hasn't had any complaints. And, by the way, what's good for the gander is good for the goose. I hope your boyfriend takes care of you before you move on to something as intimate as a BJ. Slow down, you are still young.

The very first thing, and the very biggest thing, is to be into it. Sounds like you are so it shouldn't be a problem. Enjoy what you are doing, and be excited about it. Everyone wants to think that the things that turn them on turn other people on too. The wrong way would be to give the guy the idea that you don’t like to do it, then he feels like it is bad, or dirty, and no one likes that kind of judgment.

Just before you start, put on a fresh coat of lipstick, let your guy watch you do this. Have his pants down by his ankles with him ready to go, and then stop to put on lipstick. The anticipation kills him.

Get down on your knees in front of him, whether he is standing or sitting – unless you are in a car or something that would prevent that. Every guy LOVES seeing their girl on her knees for them. It is a much bigger turn on than him laying down with you on top.

Get him warmed up by rubbing him over and between your boobs, while you tell him how excited you are to be doing what you are doing and how much you are looking forward to what is coming next. You can also use your hair brushed lightly over him.

I start with his balls. Softly run your nails over them. Lick them, and suck one and then the other into your mouth and flick your tongue over it... once when you are getting started, and then later when you need to take a bit of a break from the “main event;” be gentle... Keep them cupped in your hand after you have moved on to other things, and softly kneed them, be gentle, and don’t tug.

I am sure that a soft tongue feels wonderful on a genital. Lick up and down, and make sure to lick the underside, and top of the tip... get everything nice and wet before it even goes inside your mouth.

When you are ready to take it inside the first time, close your lips softly, and push them against him so that he pushes your lips open around him as he slides inside. It reminds him of pushing in other lips.

As you get started on the main event, ask him to hold your hair out of your face. This serves two purposes – first it keeps your hair out of your face, and mouth (always a good thing) and it gives him permission to put his hands on your head and provide you with some guidance (which most guys are unfortunately too timid to provide without permission). Be prepared that he will start to guide your head with his hands – and that is a good thing, he knows what he likes best – and that as he becomes more and more excited, he will provide more and more guidance... follow his lead unless it gets painful for you. TRUST me – guys – all guys, even the ones who don’t want to, LOVE that.

When you take him into your mouth, hold him inside and hum softly while he is pressed into your throat.

Try to keep eye contact with your guy. It won’t be possible all of the time, but look up at him as much as is convenient for you.

There is always the question about should I swallow when he cums. Swallowing is the difference between a happy guy and a guy who brags to his friends. It is in your mouth already, it might as well slip down your throat. Personally that is my favorite part, it feels so sexy, warm, and so yummy – and guys LOVE it. Of course – they sometimes like to go other places as well – so be prepared for that, on your face, or boobs – but wherever it ends up smile, giggle and enjoy it. Remember to at least act like it is as exciting to you as it is for him. Nothing will ruin a good buzz like judgment, so don’t ruin it at this point after all this work.

Of course – like anything else make sure that you are playing safely. Use a condom if you don’t know that the guy is clean. On the plus side, there is NO way that you can get pregnant from it.

Answer 2

I know how you feel. I had a boyfriend that I could never accommodate. Maybe with practice I could do better, but he'd always get impatient and push and cause me to gag as soon as he touched the back of my throat, so I never had a chance to work at it. I understand that if you tilt your head way back, it opens up your throat, but like I said, I never got that far. If you don't like doing it anyway, then don't. If it's just the gag reflex that bothers you, just keep trying to go further each time. I don't know if numbing your throat would keep your gag reflex from kicking in.

Answer 3

Ha ha, women the world over have the same problem. It totally makes me gag too. I would say, if you must give this bloke a bj then use your hands on his shaft and tongue the head. Mostly i think your guy is a bit unsympathetic and demanding. I would explain your difficulty, ask him what else you could do, and if it is still not to his liking, you can tell him that he should go and pay for an expert to do it. Anyway, how good is he when it comes to giving you oral pleasure? My guess is "inexperienced".

Answer 4

It just takes practice - you need to learn to relax. Buy a dildo from a sex store about the same size as your husband. Also get a bunch of flavored condoms (the latex doesn't taste good). Practice with the dildo, so you can get comfortable deep throating without having to worry about him. Once you are confident with the dildo, you'll be able to give much better head to your man.

Answer 5

Sorry i cannot help you on this , I also have the same problem, and I just try my best to his liking. But, as far as him likeing it oo well if he does. There is nothng you can do or I. There are some women that can go all the way and there are some that cannot. so, don't feel bad about this problem. There is other ways to please him. Talk to him about it, and if he undertsands he will let you know some other way.

Answer 6

GIRL! what is wrong with you!? If you don't want to do it, STOP! Better yet, stop having sex period. It is obvious, neither one of you are mature enough to be engaging in that activity, in the first place. You need to wait until you are married on the real. Plus if you feel pressured to do it, that's not good at all. You don't know if he has been double dipping with other people, then you gonna put your mouth down there? Uh no.

Answer 7

Get a new man that respects you and appreciates your efforts instead of criticizing. If a real man doesn't like the way you give oral, he won't put his precious tool in there!

Answer 8

there are throat numbing gels you can buy to help with that.... some have a more senstitive gag reflex than others... and the teeth thing....... just learn to keep them out of the way

Answer 9

if you do a lozenge, make sure that it has 10% benzocaine in it...that is the strongest numbing agent made on the market for OTC use
good luck

Answer 10

The best of advice I can give you is to be honest with him and to work this out as well as you can with him at your side. You can't pretend to like it for him forever -- or maybe you can but that will not strengthen the relationship.

Best of luck to you!

Answer 11

I never tell my wife what to do.I would rather go south on her,so she will reach heaven.
I think you man needs to become a gentleman.