I feel like weve been through so much together and I am so scared to leave him but he dosent love me anymore. What should I do.
2007-03-28 11:38:02 · 24 answers · asked by lori3331 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he doesnt love you than leave. My soon to X was the same way. He would say things to me i could never imagen or forget. best thing for you to do is pack your bags and start a new life. what is the worst that could happen... you'll end up feeling good about yourself !
YOU DESERVE SO MUCH BETTER!
2007-03-28 12:25:56 · answer #1 · answered by I♥Karma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel like anything is there than little by little move on. I know it is pretty scary when you have someone that you loved and cherished a relationship with because it tears your heart apart. If he is mean to you why be scared? Maybe he is the one who is scared because you might leave him so he can't handle the pressure. Just be nice no matter what and move on. You will always hold on to the good memories.
2007-03-28 18:48:35 · answer #2 · answered by Ms.Flirtz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that. Why would you stay in a marriage when you are not happy? I think it is unhealthy for you and your marriage. 1.) Either you can talk to him and solve the problem or 2.) end the marriage (sorry to say) and find another man who will treat you right. There are millions and millions of men out there where you can choose from and by the time you find that person you will realize why you were clinging on to someone who has been hurting you and wasting your time. If he loves you, he will not hurt or harm you dear. hope this will make your desicion. good luck
2007-03-28 18:53:01 · answer #3 · answered by gurlielash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to stay with someone who treats you so badly? Don't be scared to leave. Make a plan & leave, maybe while he's at work or while he's asleep. Have a friend or family member there for support. Pack what you need to get you by for a while, then go back later with a police officer for protection. Be strong!!!!
2007-03-28 18:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you shouldn't be scared of your spouse. If you are for any reason, then there is something terribly wrong. He shouldn't be mean to you either. It's just not right. Even though you've been through a lot of things together, it does not give him the right to be mean to you. Get away from the situation. Good luck, I'll be praying for you.
2007-03-28 20:27:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember!
In ones life time:
Who is in the first place = me!
Who is in the second place= me!
Who is in the third place = me!
If you are in good condition with yourself, you will be in good condition with everybody else; even with you husband.
Consequently, you seek for your own happiness, even if you have to give up fear to the unknown, start all over again, explore new horizon, and keep or let your husband go, etc.
You are the architect's of your own life, make an art piece.
2007-03-28 19:40:56 · answer #6 · answered by sar_4u2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so you have been through alot together, this does not give him the right to be mean to you---------my question to you is how is he being mean to you,??? physically, emotionalyy? or jujst acting out mean as in blowing off some steam and not really directing it towards you? If he is being physically and emotionally mean then you definitely need to leave before anymore of this nonsense happens.
2007-03-28 19:10:27 · answer #7 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it all depends on how much cash is involved. U dont want to *** yerself outta what cha got comin to ya. so i advise
cooking a nice dinner laced with arsenic. hopefully the prik will have a nice size insurance policy to help ease the painfull
separation. hope that helps.
2007-03-28 18:45:56 · answer #8 · answered by NONAME 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's mean to you and he doesn't love you... why exactly are you staying in this relationship?
Ask him to join you for couples counseling to work out your problems and save your marriage; if he refuses, then there is nothing more to do but pack up and leave. You need to start taking care of yourself, since clearly he isn't interested.
2007-03-28 18:42:55 · answer #9 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
instead of looking at his faults.....and I AM NOT SAYING that you are wrong...
try empathy..try to understand where he is coming from...wear his shoes (as uncomfortable as they might be)...
THIS IS NOT A WARRANTED REASON TO SNOOP OR CARRY SUSPICIONS...BUT
what apart from you bothers him?
pet peeves?
what are his complaints? are they justifiable reasons to get upset?
are you pushing his buttons without trying to? Are you nagging him?
do you have access to his email? THAT may be considered private to him...
it may mean that he is hiding something but don't go that route...because he might catch on...
in the end hon..kill him with kindness...take all of his complaints away...try it for 3 weeks..EVEN if you initially disagree...
the idea is if you take everything that he has to get mean to about away...he is gonna scrape the barrel looking for something that he can't find...like clean socks in a dirty hamper...
explain that you are doing everything with the same passion and caring as you did before you got married and through that first year...because ultimately..you DO love him...and continue to remind him that you DO love him and see what his return is...
if this experiment is going over poorly...then give him the ultimatum...look..I have really overlooked all of your flaws and have done verything I can to reduce my own flaws as well..
if you do all of this..and he has no appreciation...then you need to consider whether he deserves you.
2007-03-28 19:20:33 · answer #10 · answered by juanes addicion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋