I've been going through depression for over a year and there can be many causes of it, any solutions?

Question

I've gone through a lot of crap in the past year. My parents have been divorced for almost two years and I lived with my dad up until last June when he remarried. I now just live with my brother. I'm 21 he is 19. Last March things went completly downhill. My grandma's cancer returned, i was fired from my job of four years for an unknown reason, I found out my childhood home of 17 years was going to be sold as a result of the divorce, I was given the news of my dad's abrupt engagement and I found out my soon to be "fiance'" had been cheating on me for 4 months. All within about 3 weeks. I used to cry everyday up until about September. I thought by now I would be fine and things have settled down some, but it's like I'm still searching for something to make me feel more at peace. My dad and his wife have expressed to me that I should get on meds, mainly due to my negative take on life and thoughts of suicide. I'm just out of ideas.

Answer 1

Well, you have constantly been handed the short end of the stick. It is very possible that you are suffering from depression, especially if you have numerous times where you feel really down or feel like crying. Being a pessimist is also a sign of depression. Go and talk to a doctor, it is very important. He will ask you different questions regarding your mood and will be able to help you and discuss treatment options. The fact that you have had suicidal thoughts tells me that you need a doctor asap! Depression does not go away on its own, and with everything that you have been put through it wouldn't surprise me if you were depressed, I would be. You will feel better once you have seeked treatment, its the only way so you can start to live again.

Answer 2

I agree it has been a crappy year and people who tell you to move on don't understand. You may be seriously depressed. You can become depressed by a situation and it is not the same a chemical depression. Which may mean that when you get through this you will not get depressed again. First you need someone like a psychiatrist to talk to. Friends are not always enough. If you can't afford one there is probably a mental health group that is free. You can call your doctor or sometimes pick up fliers at the library. Start with your doctor and he/she will help if you need a psychiatrist. If he thinks this is just temporary he still could give you drugs to help you get through it. Anti-depressants are not addictive and some of them even in a low dose will help you sleep. Things always look better when you have slept well. Don't underestimate walking in the sunshine. If nothing else it will get you out of the house.

Answer 3

I am in the same boat different circumstances though but a person can only take so much. I don't think medication will resolve the issues of continual problems perhaps you need to pray until something happens I did

I was in an abusive relationship, lost my job, abused more had no where to turn for help, at one point pregnant, my then bf failed to pay the rent so I had no place to stay, he fought physically with my sister and i had to make a change.

Moved to California left him came back and finally decided he was no good. At this point i really want to make a positive change in my life towards my career. I was placed into the predictament of an abortion while I was in California and never really got over the feeling of a child. My parents weren't supportive to me I was raised in foster homes then to an aunt then a grandma in the midwest. i was in a state of depression for several years and I'm trying hard to find the positivism in life. i want a child and am moving forward in my objectives its starts with one step at a time.

You should email me so we can talk maybe we can help each other sometmes talking to someone who can understand makes things a bit easier. A good support system [e-mail]

Answer 4

Suicide is permanent and not the solution to any of your problems.
You have a lot of emotional weight on your shoulders and never had the chance to grieve one thing without something else happening. Your feelings are validated.
I think you can get through this without being on medication, but speaking to a professional may help. And I think if you were to speak to those who hurt you deeply (father and new wife, ex boyfriend, etc.) and let them know how angry and let down you feel, that may start to peel away some unresolved inner issues.
Your grandmothers cancer and your childhood home-----nothing you can do about it.

Grieve at your own pace and KNOW that it will get better, little by little everyday.

Answer 5

Oh man I know exactly how you feel. I've battle major depression from being separated from my wife. I'm just starting to come out of it (after 6 months). I've been on medication for about 4 months now and it helps. I've lost 50 lb which I guess has been a good thing (the only good thing). What has helped me cope is exercise, reading my Bible and a whole lot of prayer to the Father.

I would highly encourage you to do these things b/c I'm telling you no one can do it alone. Beleive me I tried. He has helped me. He can help you.

Answer 6

Dear Shan, Yes, it sounds like you have had your share of disappointments. But suicide is so permanent, and your problems will pass. Dump the boyfriend, find a new job, who cares if they sell your childhood home, and start living in the NOW. Go see a doctor if you think you need too, but don't live in the past you cant change it. Look forward to the future.

Answer 7

Wow. You have been through some SERIOUS negative turmoil. No wonder you're depressed. See a therapist. You'll be able to talk some of this out, and THEY can decide whether you need meds or not. I mean, you've been through A LOT recently, so depression is not a crazy response. But a therapist can help you determine whether you're still just naturally greiving or are truly stuck... you're still alive, though, right? Things can *al;ways* get better until the day you're buried...

Answer 8

Dont think about that! Just sit down take some deep breaths, relax, go do some things you like and try not to think about this as much as you can. Bad things happen in life, but what you need to know is that all of this will change, dont think of suicide you are here for a reason =)! And just STOP Talking to your dad and his wife if they coninue doing that, you DO NOT NEED TO GO ON DRUGS. Do it the natural way, go to a favorite place of yours, or hit the beach if your near one and try TO STAY AWAY AS MUCH AS YOU CAN from anyone or anything that reminds you of this. oh an go see a therapist! he/she will help you! :)

Answer 9

First of all get a lawyer and sue the company for wrongful termination then get your self together and don't think about the impossible but of the possible, because only you can make things happen in your life, you choose your own destiny and don't let nothing hold you back. When life gives you lemons you make lemonade. In turn you will drink of your fruits and so will the rest of the world. Here is a prayer for guidance in your life: Dear God, pleas purge my agenda today. Take out of my life everything and everyone that could possibly take my focus from you. Take out of my mind every thought, every belief, every intention, every motivation that does not make you the priority in my life. Take out of my heart every experience, every memory,every desire that does not serve your purpose for my life. Remind me that your plan, your love for me is my salvation. Everything else is a figment of my imagination and a function for fear. Today, dear God, I recognize that I don't even know what to pray for, so I will leave the blessing up to you. And So It Is!

By Iyanla Vanzant

Answer 10

Wow. I HATE getting all stressed out. Well, anyways. If you're having all these problems, then at the start, you would've prayed to God, he'll make things better. If you just pray to God, and believe in him 100%, anything is possible. So, I want you to do, is pray to him right now and I want you to have the faith. And trust me, he'll make things better. And don't expect things that you think is gonna be your way, just let God do the work. And if you do everything right what I just told you, Then he'll make a promise to you. Not right now after you pray, but, when it's the time.

I hoped I helped

Good Luck!