What is the worst insult or offense anyone ever committed against you?

Question

It can be through an action.
A hurtful word.
A vengeful tactic.
A bullying continued action.

2nd part :
How did it injure you, or hurt you, or anger you, so that you were helpless to know how to handle the hurt?
Did you fall into that immediate desperate wish to retaliate, against your better judgment?
If you did, how did you get over the emotional or physical injury it caused you.
How long did it take you to recover?
How long did it take you to realize, such insults, offenses, injurious actions, are for most projections from the offender's disturbed and hurt angry mind?

And lastly, what did you learn from such a hurtful experience which you did nothing to deserve, except perhaps, awake something negative in the offender's mind . . but NOT deliberately?

Thank you, this may help me understand the reason someone in my present life continues to bait me . . even though I've told him with out a DOUBT . . that if I seemed such a target for his vicious attacks . . to get lost, for good!

Answer 1

About 8 years ago, I was involved with a man who was a radio personality/writer, he was going through a major down time in his life professionally. He wasn't sure what his next move should be. So, he packed up his car with all of his possessions and landed on my doorstep. (We were living in different states.) He stayed with me for a full month and that was the worst time of my life. He would have these anger bouts that would last for days as he weaved in and out of depression. But, one day he met me for lunch at the mall (I worked at the bank across the street) and he had one of his fits. He told me how I "could never understand how hard" his life was because he "was an artist" and I was just "trailer trash". He was quite loud, several tables heard his words and I was stunned. This man that I loved told me I was nothing in his eyes. I was hurt and left sitting there in the mall all alone after he stormed off.

I've been creative ever since I was a child. I write stories, poems, draw and paint. I'm a photographer and I study many religions, literature and alternative medicines, etc. I've always considered myself an artist and intelligent. (Plus, I've never lived in a trailer!) So, when he said those words to me, I felt a betrayed.

I am not a vengeful person. I give people three times to hurt me and with the third time, they are out of my life, friends or family, it doesn't matter. Life is too important to deal with hurtful people. Plus, revenge doesn't teach you anything. You must take what you can from the experience and move on.

When I went home that afternoon, he didn' t even remember saying those words to me, he appologized saying it was just his drama meltdown because he was so depressed and he didn't mean to hurt me. The dating relatinship ended shortly after, but we remained friends. That was the only time he hurt me that way.

Even now, I'm married to a great guy who is not artistic at all. I'm still friends with the radio guy. We talk or email a couple times a month. I learned that two artistic people shouldn't be together. There are many people who can write beautiful words, paint amazing pictures, take breathtaking photos and still be very empty inside. They beauty you see from them by their creation is all they are, they cannot give anymore. It's very sad. But, it's the truth. It's very hard to do both...successfully. Most of my friends are the writers, artists and misfits. That's ok, that's where I fit in, too.

Hope you and your friend get things squared away. It's all about respect.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

He told me "Let's just be friends" and left me for another girl. I know those four words don't sound like much, but in the end they translate out to "you're not good enough for me."

I didn't want revenge at first and I'm still trying to convince myself that I don't

I'm still not over it.

Answer 4

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