There is this girl named Kayla in my school. She is the same grade and everything. This is a long story but please help! She is so anti social and she only has me and another girl as friends. She tries to be funny but she never is. Whenever we have a fun thing to do she has to make it perfect. She always tells me and other people that she hates it when people think she is smart. But wat can we say, SHE IS!!! All she does at recess is study and tests us when we dont care! She always snaps at us for making stupid comments bout ppl. and all she does is talk and talk and talk on and on, way fast. She is so annoying. We always want to tell her wat we feel, but if she takes it wrong she will get mad and has no other freinds, i really dont know what to do. I realy cant stand her anymore and sometimes i want to explode in front of her!!! I wish she can have other friends and be more social. I really donno what to do, I am a nice person and i dont want to hurt her feelings. But wat can i do?
2007-03-28 10:59:36 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Here's what I would do. I think you should tell her nicely that recess is the time when you just want to relax and hang out. If she wants to study, then that's fine. But you should tell her not to pressure you when recess is your time to chill out.
I also think you should make an attempt to be the girl's friend (but be honest about things when they bother you). If she says that she hates it when people think she is smart, she obviously wants people to see her as cool. Maybe she feels bad that she doesn't have a lot of friends. Perhaps you can introduce her to some of your other friends (or other people in your grade).
2007-03-28 11:10:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take her aside and tell her the truth about how you all really feel about her. Try to tell her nicely so as not to hurt her feelings(very important!)Also tell her that as a friend you want her to grow as a better more sociable and friendly person. And it's the duty of a True good friend to be honest and to help each other grow. So it's your duty as her friend to tell her the truth so that she can learn from her mistakes and change! Good Luck!
2007-03-28 18:17:29 · answer #2 · answered by ♫ Melody♫ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her you really feel because in the end not only are you hurting her but you are also hurting yourself. Remember that a key to friendship is honesty and right now you are not being honest which doesn't really make you true friend. Think about it. Good luck..
2007-03-28 18:04:29 · answer #3 · answered by Sweetie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there was this one girl in my class just like that last year her name was samantha. OMG. this girl drove me nuts she always folowed us around and always thought she was right about stuff when she wasn't. sometimes when we were eating lunch a little late she would ditch us like in the middle of a conversation at lunch and start running away saying she couldnt be late to class. It was so annoying. but one week my bff was gone on a trip the whole week and my other friend had student counsel meetings for some student counsel week thing. so I was stuck with Samantha. and at first I was just going to stay home from school the whole week but I made myself go. and we talked and I reliezed she wasnt that bad. sure she was dorky but she wasnt that mean. and I figured that there is absolutly no reason to drop a friend unless they are mean and very rude to you. so I kept hanging out with her and we joined the softball team together and went one weekend somewhere to practice and I reliezed we had judged her totaly wrong she wasnt this extremmly weird rude girl.
Just give the girl at your school a chance unless she is very rude or mean. just think, how would you like it if the girl in your circle of friends that no one liked was YOU. give it some time. and try not to talk bad about her to your friends to much. if you have to talk to someone about it talk to you mom or sibling dont keep raging on her to your friends. This can be very frustrating but be paitent. and who knows your kindness might brake her out of her shell and she sould be the most poopular girl in school. Hope this helps
2007-03-28 18:37:14 · answer #4 · answered by island gurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well its good that u care for someone. Well just try to avoid her in a nice way. or try to get another one of ur friends to hang out with her. or the other friend u were talking bout ditch her and leave her with that KAYLA girl.
Nina
2007-03-28 18:04:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go and talk to her apart and tell her how you guys feel(like you guys things that she talk a lot, and if she can try not to talk that much)But try not to hurt her.
Good luck!
2007-03-28 18:04:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People always remember how you made them feel.Who knows she may become famous and will only remember how you ditched her like a sack of potatoes.
2007-03-28 18:05:49 · answer #7 · answered by jois 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe if u cut off the relationship she will be forced to find some new friends
2007-03-28 18:03:26 · answer #8 · answered by star 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you like her, it would be better for you to tell her the truth
2007-03-28 18:04:59 · answer #9 · answered by solstice 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋