Does life really get better/easier? I'm not happy but I know we could be. Will it get better???????
2007-03-28 10:54:37 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would say I'm happy 50% of the time, right now in my life. Somedays better than others.
2007-03-28 15:51:52 · update #1
We have been married 28 years. I won't lie to you. There have been times it wasn't easy or fun. I hung on to the faith and the meaning behind my vows. I cried, I screamed, I had to find my own way at times, but we have survived all that and I can honestly say we are happier than we have been in years. The relationship changes as we age but I feel like I now live with my best friend. We enjoy each other more than we ever have. Most importantly, we like each other. I'm not sure we always did.
2007-03-28 11:01:46 · answer #1 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love my husband with all my heart, and went into this marriage with 100% confidence of success til death. I will be honest - there are moments when things are rough, and I ask myself "why did I marry this man?" Then I cool down, we work it out and move forward, stronger than before.
I would also be cautious about thinking that children will make you happier. They sometimes can throw a big wrench into your relationship. Some couples concentrate so much on the kids, that they forget why they came together in the first place. Remember you were a couple first. Always make special time for you and your husband without the kids.
I have a friend whom read Dr. Phil's - Relationship Rescue. She loved it. It basically states that if YOU change, then your relationship will change.
Best of luck to you. Don't sweat the small stuff in life. It's not worth it.
2007-03-28 18:27:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt necessarily get easier but you actually learn to just live life. You accept more once you realize you cant change everything and it really doesnt matter if you can or cant. You become mor thankful for what you got and had over the years and really thankful if youre still here one more day. Life is just as hard but you look at it differently. In marriages, we grow complacent and think our spouse will always be there til the day we all dread. We just grow together so long that we actually become one acceopting each others weaknesses and shortcomings, how we will react to anything. So in essence we are better off today than yesterday but not as easy as we will have it tomorrow.
2007-03-28 18:11:58 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what the unhappiness is caused from. Many things in a marriage you can work on with good results. Some things not so much. The key to any good marriage or relationship is communication. If you have that then the majority of any problems you face are easy enough to fix. Marriage like anything else is constant work to make it successful. It may seem easier, but anything you enjoy can seem easy.
2007-03-28 18:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married almost 18 years. There are some really TOUGH times in a marriage, but yes it can work out. Sometimes we have been our strongest AFTER those hard times, and have felt closer to one another. Marriage, even when it's good together, takes a lot of WORK, but it's worth all the rewards.
2007-03-28 21:10:54 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just as life has its ups and downs, marriage also
has its ups and downs, Have been married for
20yrs and the majority of the time 96percent, I am
happy, nothing is perfect so with 4percent not
being happy at times believe me that is nothing to
even worry about.
2007-03-28 22:16:15 · answer #6 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
26 year marriage it was not getting any better I left, married now 6 years and he is a lying dog who cheated and did a lot of things that CRUSHED my heart adn my self confidence I am in plans now of getting my life together and leaving... may even take a few years cause he has messed up my credit
If its messed up now I think it only gets worst..
2007-03-28 18:51:19 · answer #7 · answered by Peggy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone who has made it past 10 or 15 years will tell you it gets better. Those who did not make it will tell you it doesn't get better. Just depends on what the real problems are.
2007-03-28 18:05:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is of God. And it is what you make it. If you work hard at it , it will be prosperous. If you don't work hard at it, it will be boring and you will want a divorce. I have been married for quite some time and it has not always been good but my husband and I work hard and made a choice to always love each other to make our marriage work. But I must say, you have to love Jesus first and He will show you how to love and make your marriage work.
2007-03-28 18:03:03 · answer #9 · answered by wisdom_women 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could get worse first and then get better--------------it takes both of you to make it work----------it is never easy, but it can be easier with the two of you working together instead of against each other
2007-03-28 18:00:32 · answer #10 · answered by nickle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋