Husband Question?

Question

I am 6 mnths pregnant and my husband and I haven't fought in awhile. We used to fight because of my mood swings during pregnancy. Well, yesterday I came home, cleaned the house, put the chicken in the sink to defraust and I asked if my husband give me 5 minutes to rest. He put the chicken in the oven and then told me that I could handle the mash potatoes and vegetables. I kind of sighed and he said no don't worry about it, I will handle it. I took it as if he was being sarcastic and got mad but didn't say anything and started working on dinner. I messed up the mash potatoes & he got mad at me for wasting food. He said that he couldn't believe I messed up mash potatoes. Just the other day he burnt the garlic bread and messed up rice-r-roni, but I didn't complain. I ate it. What in the world? I feel like a terrible wife but I was in a lot of pain yesterday and needed to rest. I'm pregnant for goodness sake. Was he out of line? How can I explain to my husband pregnancy & how crazy it is?

Answer 1

My husband and I got into a few little spats while I was pregnant.. I usually didn't feel so hot, and cranky, my husband (little did I know) was worried about fiances and being a father.. we were bound to bump heads. My husband and I sat and talked a really long time, basically just got everything out in the open. I learned he had a lot of fears and insecurities, and sometimes had hard time understanding what I was going though. So, I'd sit down with him ask him whats up. Tell him how you feel, and how now, more than ever need him to try to be as understanding and supportive as possible. You guys are in this together. Who knows, maybe your husband has fear and insecurities that you are unaware of. I wish you guys the best! Enjoy the time you have, soon you guys will have a beautiful little bundle of joy who is going to change your lives forever (in a very good way!). Good luck!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Pregnancy comes with so many hormone changes, as a result you might be more sensitive to anything your husband says and does. It doesn't seem like it's an every day thing he makes you feel bad. Don't feel like a terrible wife, if you are tired and hurting, you sit down and rest, not only for you, but the well being of your baby. If it helps, why don't you write him a letter explaining how you feel? I'm suggesting this because I know when I was pregnant I would cry over everything, and sometimes nothing, and writing a letter helped me explain without bursting into tears in the middle of an explanation.

Answer 4

My husband doesn't understand the mood swings either. Last week I was feeling really depressed and he was out of town. When he called home I started crying for no real reason and he got mad and yelled at me for being annoying. I tried explaining to him that its the hormones and I can't help it, but he just got more frustrated because he thought I was using it as an excuse to act however I want. He eventually realized what a jerk he was being, but it still sucked.

Try talking to him about the mood swings when you are feeling better. It is easy to get crazy and upset if you try to explain it to him when you already feel like crap. Tell him that you are tired and need help around the house, and that that's not going to change when the baby is born!

On another note - I think some men have "sympathy mood swings" when their wives are pregnant. I think mine is just as crazy as I am, he just won't admit it!

Answer 5

Some men will use sarcasm as a form of humor... If you're in a lot of pain, and don't feel like hearing that sort of humor, tell him.

Just the other day, I was making some rice, and forgot to put in the spice packet that came with it. He laughed it off, saying that pregnancy is starting to make me absent-minded (I'm almost 8 months along, btw). The next day, I made yellow rice, and let it sit on the burner for a bit too long, and a bit of it burned on the bottom of the pan. Again, the pregnant absent-mindedness. Things happen... Laugh it off! I mean, how much does a packed of mashed potatos really set you back? Ha ha!

Answer 6

Well, hes not the one that's pregnant, so he has no idea of what you are going through. He dont understand that you get tired easier and that you do get more stressed out because of the hormones. I am sure that he thinks that it is easy being pregnant, because men dont have to go through all the changes and everything.
I wouldn't bring up the burnt bread or messed up rice-r-roni, because its already in the past.
If your not going to pregnancy classes, that could be an option for you, then he could sit in an hear some of some of the things that you are going through. Look up the website at the bottom of the page, it could help.
Good luck and I hope that everything works out for you!!

Answer 7

You first responsibility is to yourself.He doesn't realize that you are giving him a very precious God given gift.All pregnancies are difficult. And you could be at risk if you are having pain.Go to a doctor and get checked for the sake of you and the baby.Take some time out for yourself everyday. Warm bath soaks and chamomile tea
.You can let him cook the dinner and you do dishes Let him do the laundry and you fold and sort. etc.If men had to have a baby we'd be extinct.Don't let him bully you.This is a very stressful time for the both of you.Use your love to open up and work this out,If he doesn't listen write him a note and put it in his lunch box.And forget to praise him and remind him how much you love and appreciate him.Men feel left out at this period of your pregnancy.They need reassurance that you still need them as much as ever.Share the decisions together .I hope you have a wonderful healthy baby.Good Luck!!

Answer 8

It doesn't sound like you guys are in crisis mode...yet.

Both of you need to find a little quite time with each other and talk about expectations and needs - for yourselves and with each other.

This is a really tough time for you and he does need to be supportive and sensitive.
But he (and you) are human and subject to emotional flare-ups.

Try to set some ground rules for anger management so that you both can communicate what is going on at that moment.

Do NOT close each other out.
You guys are bringing in a new life...and from now on, it isn't about you or him, it's about the baby.
The baby needs BOTH of you to be responsible, loving parents.

Can you dig it?

Answer 9

Choose your fights, he may be going through mood swings too. Its alot of pressure on him to remain neutral and not stress you out because of the pregnancy. I would say allow him to get away with it this time but dont hold a grudge. We seem to forget that they are also nesting in a weird sort of way as well, just not physically if you will. Good luck, take it easy

Answer 10

poor baby (not being sarcastic) yes he was being out of line but some guys are just like that. they they to have complete control over you because their scared you'll leave (this is especially true if ur cute and hes not) odds also say he's jealous of the baby because he thinks when it come you'll love it (not meaning to call a baby it, i just don't know the gender) more then you.
i know so many guys just like this, my ex tried to force me to sleep w/ him two days ago and my best friends bf hits her when she doesn't organize his shirts right.
i highly highly suggest deciding NOW where the line will be when his self-esteem issues over way how much you love him. if you don't do it now you will always say he's right and your being unreasonable
He also probably doesn't see like he has self-esteem problems but the more macho he acts the more problems he has, trust me
I really feel for you and hope this helps, you were right and he was wrong, just decide where the line is and ps. the book Breathing Underwater explains guys like i think ur hubby is really well