If a woman is raising a child that's yours alone, but doesn't ask for child support or any help...?

Question

would you be obligated to pay?

Hypothetically speaking, of course.

Answer 1

Not legally obligated..

Answer 2

Legal obligations depend on your local laws. In most places in America the woman may, at any time, go back to court and seek child support up until the child is 18. So my best hypothetical advise is unless you don't want to end up paying for all the back years that you didn't pay, it's best to go ahead and pay now. Since she can change her mind at any time.

Or better yet let the Mom know that you are putting the money aside for the child when he/she is an adult. With the costs of college tuition rising and the cost of living soaring, it's not a bad idea to give him or her a little nest egg.

Answer 3

There are all types of obligations...there are moral obligations and legal obligations, presumed and assumed obligations. You should offer to pay support if not asked. If someone is man enough to create a child with someone they ought to be man enough to support the child. You can discuss this with the child's mother or apply for services to establish a child support order at the local child support enforcement agency.

Answer 4

Everyone has a different opinion here on this type of question I guess. But to answer just the question....No, you would not be legally responsible unless she filed for child support against you. I don't know the situation either, does the dad see the kid, does the kid know his dad, does the mother just not want the man in the child's life?........I mean, as a mother and a woman, I don't think it is fair for a man to have to pay out the butt for child support on a child or children whom he doesn't get to see or be part of their lives.....It is a hard deal either way.

Answer 5

Am the same way. I have 3kids and two fathers between them. 2 with the first marriage and 1 with the second marriage. I don't ask them for nothing. I don't mind if they what to that's up to them. If they want to give to their child or not. Do I think they should yes as their father I figure their dads know their child haves needs I shouldn't have to tell everyday, he a grown man. I day his kids and so are yours could though that in your face, that you never helped or supporting me. If this bothers you then you should set a set rate every month in pay something. But am like your ex . It don't make a different to me but to the child it really doe's.

Answer 6

I always get bent out of shape when I see these kind of questions. Children are not stray animals to be dumped on someone else. If you donated HALF the DNA, then you need to foot HALF the bill, whether or not she asks for it. (I am not dumping on men....I am a woman paying child support on three boys who decided to live with Dad, and do so gladly, because I do not want MY boys to do without ANYTHING!)
If she ever wanted to, she could take you to court for back child support, and in most states, even if you weren't employed, they CHA-CHING up a bill for you as if you were making at least minimum wage the whole time the child was here on this planet. I don't know about anyone else, but I'd rather just take my responsibility upon myself, rather than have it forced upon me because I was a dead beat.

Answer 7

YES! if she is getting any assistance or help from the State or County that they reside in, YOU WILL HAVE TO PAY THEM BACK, then your going to wish you had paid child support from the start!

Answer 8

It would be morality correct thing to do, and if your respectable father you'd would be there financially, emotionally and physically.

Come on your a man of the law, you should know about dead beat dads, hypothetically speaking of course.

Answer 9

thats a moot point, because the honor system doesnt work, thats been proven. thats why the state/federal gov passed stronger laws; they are tired of parents who dont pay for thier children.

GONE are the days of hiding til the child is 18, today, arrears are FOREVER.

CHILD SUPPORT CALCULATOR
http://www.alllaw.com/calculators/childsupport/

YOUR STATES CS POLICY
http://childsupportcenter.org/stateprofiles.php

ABANDONMENT (NO SHOW PARENTS)
http://www.alllaw.com/articles/family/

NOT ALL PARENTS LOVE THEIR CHILDREN
And "RATIONAL LIES"
http://www.alllaw.com/articles/family/child_custody/article7.asp

FREE LEGAL HELP IN YOUR STATE
(just click on your state to find contact info)
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LAWS
http://www.divorcehq.com/spprtgroups.html
http://www.divorceinfo.com/statebystate.htm
http://www.divorcenet.com/states
http://www.divorcesource.com/
http://www.divorcesource.com/info/deadbeat/deadbeat.shtml
http://www.divorcecentral.com/
http://family.findlaw.com/
http://law.onecle.com/new-jersey/ (change the state to yours)
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/unpaid-support/support-orders-enforcement.html
http://www.divorcehq.com/deadbeat.html
http://www.divorceinanutshell.com/
http://www.lawchek.com/Library1/_books/domestic/qanda/childsupp.htm
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-laws/state-child-/
http://www.supportguidelines.com/resources.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/links.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/laypersons.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/articles/news.html
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-basics/
http://www.spiesonline.net/deadbeat.shtml
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/index2.html

STATS
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/acesstatistics.html

FINDING DEADBEATS
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http://www.usarecordssearch.com/
http://deadbeatsnitch.com/
http://www.wantedposters.com/skiptrace.htm
http://find.intelius.com/search-name.php?ReportType=1&
http://omnitrace.com/Missing-Persons-Search.html?OVRAW=deadbeat&OVKEY=deadbeat&OVMTC=standard
http://www.discreetdata.com/index.html
http://www.identitycrawler.net/people_search.html
http://www.peoplefinders.com
http://zabasearch.com/
http://www.crimcheck.com/personalreports.htm
http://www.easybackgroundchecks.com/
http://www.abika.com/
http://www.freeprf.com/
http://www.efindoutthetruth.com/
http://www.netsleuth.com/
http://netonlineinvestigators.com/index.asp
http://www.backgroundcheckgateway.com/
http://www.backgroundcheckgateway.com/locate-people.html


FED AGENCIES
http://www.ncsea.org/
http://www.nfja.org/index.shtml
http://www.naag.org/issues/issue-consumer.php

REGIONAL FEDERAL CHILD SUPPORT OFFICES
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/oro/regions/acf_regions.html

FACTS AND REGIONAL FEDERAL CS OFFICE INFO
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/fct/fct4.htm
http://www.divorcesource.com/WI/ARTICLES/beaulier11.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/opa/fact_sheets/cse_factsheet.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/index.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/faq.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/passport.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/fop.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/faq/faq.htm
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/extinf.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/grants/grants_cse.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/index.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/region2/index.html
http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_childsupport.html
http://www.govbenefits.gov/govbenefits_en.portal
http://www.fedstats.gov/qf/
http://www.fedworld.gov/gov-links.html
http://fatherhood.hhs.gov/pfs92/ch3.htm

SSI AND DISABILITY
FOR CHILD SUPPORT
https://s044a90.ssa.gov/apps6z/ISBA/main.html
http://www.ssa.gov/policy/docs/policybriefs/pb2004-02.html
http://www.ssa.gov/notices/supplemental-security-income/
http://family.findlaw.com/

FIND YOUR REPS
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http://www.usa.gov/Agencies/State_and_Territories.shtml
http://www.nga.org
http://www.naag.org/attorneys_general.php
http://judiciary.senate.gov/

CHILD SUPPORT LIEN NETWORK
(some states work with them)
http://www.childsupportliens.com/

COLLECTORS
http://www.supportkids.com/
http://www.supportcollectors.com/faq.php
http://www.deadbeatdadfinders.com/
http://www.deadbeatdadfinders.com/links.html
http://www.childsupport-aces.org/index2.html
http://www.divorcesource.com/info/deadbeat/deadbeat.shtml

TAX INFO
http://www.taxsites.com/index.htm
http://www.divorceinfo.com/taxes.htm
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc354.html
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc422.html
http://www.irs.gov/faqs/faq4-5.html
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/advocate/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/publications/p525/index.html

http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_childsupport.html
http://www.irs.gov/publications/p504/ar02.html#d0e563
http://money.cnn.com/2007/02/14/pf/taxes/do_not_miss_tax_breaks/index.htm?postversion=2007021411

REPORT DEADBEATS
WORKING UNDER THE TABLE
(in writing, to your local and federal IRS offices)
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/compliance/enforcement/article/0,,id=106778,00.html

SEX OFFENDERS
http://www.mapsexoffenders.com/
http://www.scanusa.com/
http://www.nsopr.gov/
http://www.familywatchdog.us/Default.asp

Answer 10

If you want to be in your child's life and be a father to your child, I think it wise to help someway financially.