im 19 and my husband & i got pregnant & had our 1st daughter then 2weeks later i found out he and another couple he was friends with went out on a double date.i was home with the baby.they had gone out several times beforei found out including during my pregnancy so when i found out i was crushed. anyway i forgave him and got married 3months later. that event however never left my heart.they kissed and held hands thats what resulted they were always in public when theyd meet...so during my pregnancy we had been hanging out with one of his coworkers that he had gotten close to. so after a few months and after the wedding and i lost the baby weight i found myself attracked to his friend and i realized that hey his friend had been givn me the eye as well..to make a long story short we ended up having sex one day before my husband & i had our 1month wedding anniversay and it continued to happen until i became pregnant with my second daughtr.i have feelings 4him bt i love my family.now wt??
2007-03-28 10:18:39 · 15 answers · asked by alwaysroyal 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ive stopped the relationship with the guy and want to devote myself fully to my family and husband.
2007-03-28 10:33:48 · update #1
Tell him what you did.He shoudlnt have the right to point a finger at you because he still cheated,and regardless of what you guys did,and didnt do its still bad.2 wrong does not make it right.So you guys should come clean with that,and then let it be part of the past.That is the only way that you guys can start fresh.If there is no trust..ther is nothing.
2007-03-28 10:30:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK are you planning to come clean with your husband on this? You know he's cheated on you or at least really suspect it by what you wrote before the marriage. Then you cheated on him within a month of the wedding vows. Why did you get married if you're not done playing the field. Do you even know if this is your husband's child or is it possible that it's your lover's? The "Now What" is the fact that your life is about to change one way or another. Either you can keep the family together or watch it blow apart. If your husband doesn't know until the delivery room or later then you're about to experience the latter of the two. The only way to be ahead of those changes is to come clean to everybody before it all hits the fan.
2007-03-28 10:33:02 · answer #2 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
is your second daughter really his or is it his friends.
You should come clean and tell him what a whore you are.
You should pat yourself on the back for the job you have done and keep doing it till your arm breaks.
If you loved your family you would have kept your legs closed the first time. After 1 month?
what is wrong with you?
sounds like your "family" is just a pack full of lies and is based on lies. Who knows, maybe he will forgive you if he is stupid but if he finds out (its highly likely he will because it is his friend involved too) he will be even more pissed.
2007-03-28 10:47:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay if you love your family stop playing games you have already cheated and more then once-so tell me again you love your family?? You are way young at 19 to have a baby and one on the way -you are playing teenage games and bringing children into the mess! Grow up or please use birth control!!! sorry to sound mean-but gee what do you expect-you know you are doing wrong!
2007-03-28 10:36:30 · answer #4 · answered by roxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stupid is as stupid does.
Revenge sex never works out. And here you are bringing another child into the world to grow up in a dysfunctional family situation.
Here's some unsolicited advice.............grow up.
2007-03-28 10:28:31 · answer #5 · answered by Ella 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
all messed up,u will be judged ,and i dont have any right to judge u here ,only advise ,u did it one year back ,is it still going on ,if so stop it,and if u cant better start speaking to your husband about seperating,
2007-03-28 10:25:29 · answer #6 · answered by reifguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your 2 of a kind you should get along real well . I wouldn't say a word do you think he is.
2007-03-28 10:31:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep on pressing forward, the past is the past.
2007-03-28 10:32:38 · answer #8 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now nothing leave it in the past where it belongs and move on with your life.
2007-03-28 10:23:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess we will try to stay focus on whats important from now on, huh?
2007-03-28 10:34:12 · answer #10 · answered by the anomaly23 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋