any help please?

Question

hi i have just found out i am pregnant, but my husband isnt convinced as the 2 preg tests i have took have come up with faint lines with the most recent havin a more darker faint line if u understand. any way first of i am havin a hard time tryin to tell him that the earlier u r in preg the fainter the line will be n he is giving me a bit of a hard time as we have had a faint line preg test b4 but wen i didnt have a period for 6 months as was previously on de-po. tellin me not to get my hopes up ias im gonna b gutted wen the doc confirms a neg result. plz help me find a way to over come this prob. also although i know wen baby no.2 (the 1 i am preg with) is born that my dh will be over the moon, at the moment his outlook on the preg is not god thinks cant afford it but we can just wee need to cut back on amount of take outs we have and learn to manage money better i no i can do that but he is just puttin me down in this respect n duznt believe i can how can i not let this get me down?

forgot to metion we already have a 15month old baby boy who took us 4 years to concieve which is why im upset at the way he has been acting aboutit all. hes already told me that he would never want to abort the child as he thinks is wrong which i am glad about. i also know that money actually isnt an issue, i no that although that we are a 1 wage family we actually get more than the average 2 wage couple. the only reason he thinks were gonna be skint or cant afford the baby is coz lately we have been pretty skint weve had rent to pay and we have just had to sort a load of work out on our car and it still needs work doin to it. but in general i know we can afford this baby

Answer 1

Go to the doctor and get the test confirmed. Planned Parenthood pregnancy tests are free with instant results and they are early tests. Get proof. They what can he say?

Answer 2

There is a new pregnancy test out, over the counter, that doesn't show lines. It says pregnant or not pregnant. Get that one, maybe he will then feel better. Or, better yet, go to the doctor. Your pregnancy test will give you the best result the first day after your missed period, however, I had a really faint line that showed up 4 days after I had sex. Surprise! The faint line was right! From what I understand, that line will only show if there is HCG hormone in you. Your body only makes it when you are pregnant. So, Congratulations!

Answer 3

Perhaps he was as disappointed over the first wrong diagnosis as you were and is trying not to get his hopes up. He is probably trying to keep your feet on the ground too, as he knows how much it means to you. Stop mucking about with home tests, if you are more than 6 weeks overdue, get down the doctors and have a proper test done. This will stop all the am I, am I not and let you both know what is what. If you are pregnant then you should be getting antinatal advice and checkups from the get-go. It will also let you make the adjustments to your financial situation well in advance, instead of a last minute rush to get things done. Babies are expensive and you need to save money right away to get the items you need.

Answer 4

I am sorry you are having difficulty convincing your husband you are truly pregnant. I would suggest heading to the doctors and ask for pregnancy confirmation as the 2 HPTs you took were quite faint. Your doctor can order blood work that can pick up your HCg level at a lower level the many HPTs.

If you are willing to wait a few weeks, just pick up another box of tests and use it in a week or ten days as your hormone levels should be doubling if all is well. You could go all out and get a digital one that spells it out either pregnant or not pregnant.

Answer 5

hi there, firstly congratulations!!!!!!

there is no possible way a preg test can show up positive if you are not pregnant i am pregnant w my second child (38 weeks) and on both pregnancy's the tests always showed up with very very very faint lines ( i did about 6 on each pregnancy lol) my GP told me that u cannot have poss result unless u def are pregnant!! i took the final test wand to my local chemist nd asked the pharmacist to have a look under microscope and he didn't mind at all and confirmed it for me

so well done and good luck..... your hubby is prob acting this way as he might be trying to protect you from getting hurt/upset and also himself plus he cud be being like it just because sometimes men do!! lol good luck anyway Hun x

Answer 6

Hang in there sweetie. Everything will be fine. Time will tell him if you don't have the money for a doctor visit just yet. Also, while you are still feeling good, look around for some neutral baby stuff on Craig's list, Thrift Stores, and friends who have had children. You don't need all new stuff for a newborn. They grow out of everything sooo fast. If you still have stuff from your first one, pull out the first things you know you will need. You can save lots by using used stuff and there is nothing wrong with that. Good luck, and don't forget to take care of yourself for this new life inside of you. It is a most precious gift. How lucky you are!

Answer 7

First of all if you got two lines on your test then I think you're definitly pregnant. The faintness of the line just determines the level of hcg in your urine. I can sort of understand where he's coming from coz he doesn't want to c you upset if your not pregnant but it really sounds like you are. He sounds like he's worrying about the money prospect but if you start to cut back and prepare for this baby then you'll be fine. Sit and talk with him as his concerns are just as viable as yours and talk through it together. It's bound to be a big worry but you'll be fine. Good luck

Answer 8

Go to the docs prove it to him. if you both want the baby then money is not an issue, Iv been trying to have a baby for nearly 2 yrs and no luck as of yet he does not know how lucky he is good luck stick to what you want .Also dont let this get you down he should b grateful go for it and b proud you have done it there are many people out there that cant

Answer 9

listen,give it a week do another test and find out 4 defo then,dont make money an issue as youve said youve another child,save all his things anyway some will come in useful,i know you both will be over the moon but i think hubby is being very negative and he has no right to be that way himself or towards youyou need all the support you can get even if its negative

Answer 10

a faint line means positive and if he doesn't believe you go to the doctor (which you obviously need to do anyway) and have him come along, then get it confirmed. if it's faint it usually means your hormone level is low but it's still there. just because money is an issue doesn't mean the baby's not coming. it'll work out.