My fiance gos outside to talk on his cell to his exgirlfriend and her daughter..?

Question

I told him its a slimy thing to do- something men who cheat or have something to hide would do- He says he does it so it won't upset me- Mind you- this is not his child and she cheated on him.....What do you think ladies? Men who have nothing to hide dont...

Answer 1

I would tell him to go sleep in her bed and get out of mine!

Answer 2

I think it is sad when people break up and children are involved and the men cannot continue to talk to the children or be friends with the ex. This is because of jealous insecure people like you. This has happened to me many times where I cannot even talk to the father of my child because of his new girlfriends petty jealousy.Grow up and realize that he would still be with her if he wanted to and he is not hiding this from you. If you cannot trust him then it will never be a good relationship anyways. I think it is nice when I am dating someone and they are on good terms with there ex,I think it speaks well of the man.I think you women who are so jealous really need to get over it,there is nothing wrong with being a friend to a person you cared deeply about and that child you cared deeply about but the relationship just did not work for whatever reason. As for the guy going outside,why should he carry on his converstation in front of you so you can listen to him and be all paranoid? If you can't take it break up with him but don't continue this jealousy,it does nothing but push him away.

Answer 3

Men whose girlfriends don't snap at the littlest thing have nothing to hide if they're being good. Men who have girlfriends who are known to get upset over nothing don't want their girlfriend to be mad at them. To avoid that, they'll do things that seem sneeky, because what they're really doing isn't a problem.

Become the kind of girlfriend that he *can* be in the same room with and talk to his ex-girlfriend. Don't get jealous. Tell him that you're not going to get jealous, invite him to stay in the room when he talks to her next time. If he's had problems with it in the past, then he may be resistant, so try a few times. Then let him talk to her in the house, and do exactly what you would do if it was one of his guy friends, except kiss him after he hangs up and thank him for trusting you.

Answer 4

It may not be his daughter but was he with her for a long period of time where the daughter respects him more than just her mom's ex-boyfriend or maybe he rasied her? Either way if you don't want him to hide his phone calls then you need him to know that your not insecure about him speaking to them. You shouldn't tell him who he can speak to, that should be done on his own. There is a reason why he continues to keep in touch with them after knowing you get upset. Obviously, her cheating was not an issue for him if he's still allowing her to call him... You need to decide for yourself how you will continue to deal with this. You can't change him nor why would you want to. If you need to find ways to change a person then you should be thinking about whether this is the person you want to be with and Marry of course.......

Answer 5

Even if it isn't his biological child, he may feel a duty to continue communication with the kid if he's ever been a father figure to her.

Obviously you know who he's talking to, and he knows you know, so he isn't "hiding" it from you - he's just having a private conversation.

What is really upsetting you, and what you ought to be discussing, is your concern that there is a continued relationship between him and his ex. You need to stop accusing him of things, and talk to him calmly and rationally. Tell him that his continued friendship with his ex bothers you, and you wish he would end it, or at the very least make it clear to both you and his ex that his interest is purely platonic, and in no way romantic or sexual.

If you can't trust him, you need to break up with him. If you do trust him, then you need to stop flipping out over every phone call, and know that even if his ex is hitting on him, he loves you enough to resist.

Answer 6

He may be attached to the daughter and the ex-girlfriend maybe using that. I think this is not healthy for you and the daughter. She will be confused as if he is the father. Also, talking outside is worse. You won't hear what they are talking about and if I were you, I'd even think he is talking outside because he doesn't want you hear. He is your fiance and you don't need this for the rest of your life. Ex is ex and there are some reasons behind that. You should tell him how you feel and if he doesn't understand your point, call one of your ex boyfriend outside to see how he feels. You should take care of this before marrying him. Good luck!

Answer 7

Well i think the fact that it is not his child, thenhe should not be having a thing to do with his ex period! So thats the slimy thing! As far as going outside to talk to someone he shouldnt be tlkin gto in the first place just plain disrespect and rude to you-It shouldnt upset you if he talks in front of you if he is not saying things he should not be-so i dont go with his reason for going outside--the only reason he does is so you dont hear what he is saying to someone he shouldnt be talking to period!only my opinion

Answer 8

Either way it is a bit weird of your fiance to still be in contact with his ex. this would naturally put you on edge. With the daughter it could be that he built a lot of rapport with her and that the relationship might that the daughter see's your fiance as a mentor

Answer 9

You are excepting this type of behavior from him now, don't complain when the two of you are married and he's still doing the same thing. You put yourself in this situation. A man will only do what you allow him to do. The longer that you ignore the matter the worse it will get because he is thinking that you are cool with his situation.

Answer 10

That does seems somewhat suspicious from your perspective. However, don't you think he is just good friends with his ex and he just likes children? Either way, it is kind of odd that he is socializing with a woman who cheated on him. Before your relationship moves any further, consider speaking / confronting him about your feelings, because few months or even few years later you don't want to regret not speaking frankly with your fiance.

Answer 11

He has no reason to be talking to his ex girlfriend, something else is going on, He doesn't want to upset you? Why is he talking to her in the first place? Surely not about a child that isn't his! Girl, Wake up! Whats wrong with this picture???