hi im preg just over 2 month!
my parents dont know im preg and im under 16 (im 14) and want to know if when they find out if they could make me have an abortion coz i dont want one!
2007-03-28 10:07:20 · 64 answers · asked by bo-boop-de-doop! 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Don't be pushed into anything you don't want to do, you will only regret it later in life, your parents can't make you do anything, they should respect your decision, but don't not tell them they need to know♥
2007-03-28 10:16:50 · answer #1 · answered by ♥~shona~♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They cant force you even though you are a minor.
I think that you should tell your parents or another responsible adult as soon as possible. Do you have another relative that you are really close to because if you told them first they might come with you for moral support when you tell your parents. Your parents might be really angry to start off with but this will mostly be shock because you are still their baby, despite how grown up you feel. Where is the father of the baby in this??
Please look at all options because i know you dont want to even think about abortion but maybe adoption would suit you.
You are still only a child, please dont chuck your life away to live in a cr*ppy flat with no money. I am not just saying this. I know people who have had kids when they were your age and whilst they dont regret it, they do wish that they had waited about 10 years until their lives were a bit more sorted.
You need to carry on with your education no matter what so you will need to inform your school.
2007-04-01 07:16:00 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Claire - Hates Bigotry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want a baby at 14? I'm 19 and have a 2month old son and believe me it is hard work. Its not all cute babygros and designer buggies. Its not just a social life that you miss out on either, you won't be able to eat your dinner without the baby crying for a cuddle or watch your favourite TV programmes. Your parents can't make you have an abortion. Nobody can but I advise you to tell them straight away. I know it seems terrifying but you can't carry a burden this big by yourself.
Your only 2 months so you have a little bit of time to think about your options. Can you support a baby financially? They are ridiculously expensive and you can't expect your parents to cover all the fees. They have already been through all of this. Whatever you decide, please think about your baby and what type of life you could give it.
2007-03-28 10:48:24 · answer #3 · answered by MrsMatsuyama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They cant force you as far as I know but it is whats best for you as you would miss out on so much that would not only give you a normal teenager life which will be over as soon as you have the kid as you have no idea how much it will take away.
Plus if you terminate this one, waith say 14 years
You will have all this experience of being a teeanger and grown up and have a nice job, house and lots of things to give a baby so it will have a nice life and you will be a good mummy then.
Now it may not appear so but it will be more hard then you can imagine and parents having seen other 14 year olds and 16 year olds friends suffer as growing up and how things went wrong.
They dont want that happening to you as love you
2007-03-29 05:47:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The straight answer to ur ? is no they cant. Do you really think you could handle a baby they take up all ur life, can you talk to ur parents, i was in the same situation as u when i was 15 i could not talk to my mum. Unfortunatley i lost my baby probaley cos of all the stress that comes with bing preg. have you got any close family relative you can trust, if so talk to them it will help. Pleases think hard about this as it will change your life so much. U are still so young urself.I know what your going through.Please get help from some where ie your doctor, family planning clinic. Good luck with whatever you decide to do but rember your mum will find out in the end as you are still classed as a minor so you will have to confront this at some point,and your mum will know.Darling i wish i could do more to help you as i know what this feels like
2007-03-28 11:12:13 · answer #5 · answered by staffymum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No they can not force you to do anything of the sort.. it would be considered child abuse. Also if you were brought to the clinic or doctor office you can voice that you do not want to an abortion and they can not do anything til you consent to it. So please make sure you tell your parents and start some prenatal care immediately so you can have a healthy baby, Start taking vitamins preferrably prenatals, but if you can't get any you can take 1 or 2 children vitamins and get the necessary vitamins you need. You will need to apply for Medicaid because some insurances will drop you as a member if you become pregnant and your parents may not be able to help you pay for this. You will need to be responsible and do alot of this research on your own so you can prove to your parents that you can handle this baby. It is not going to be easy at all. It is very hard being a parent at all and especially since you are so young it will be even harder. But you will need to see a doctor and take good care of yourself. Please tell your parents soon. Read this website.. to help you out!
2007-03-28 10:43:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
first off You seem way to young to want to have a baby..but again, I do not know you for you...so I will not judge you. But, having an abortion should really be up to the individual, not anyone else. Having one can cause health problems in the future and can take away the possibility of having another child in the future. If they try and make you, you might want to talk to someone about that. It should be up to the soon to be mother of the unborn baby, not her parents or ANYONE ELSE. Hope I helped!! and good luck, I hope everything comes out great!! :)
Over and Out
2007-04-01 02:27:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you thst stuck for advice that you're going online for it? I'm not putting you down but right now you should be talking to your parents as in reality it's your mum and dad who will now possibly be looking after 2 kids.
They cant force you to have an abortion but they will advise you one way or another...
I had a baby very young but not quite as young as you are now and it was so difficult. My family didnt help me and very often I hadn't any money to pay for anything bar some very small amounts of food.
It's very hard to survive on what the government pays in assistance, it goes no where and baby supplies are very expensive.
You will always have this child and the child will be your priority - not your parents. Make no mistake about that.
Think long and hard about this situation. I dont condone or condemn abortion. I believe it's a personal thing. In the end of the day there are plenty of options, it's just a matter of finding the right one for you.
Good luck.
2007-03-28 11:42:15 · answer #8 · answered by puddytat 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay, I got pregnant at 14 and my mom said I had to have an abortion, that they could decide that for me, but that I had to call the doctor and schedule the appointment myself! Of course I realized that this meant I was the one who made the choice, and I chose to keep it.
So anyways I had my little girl at 15 years old and even though it's been extremely tough she is the best thing that has ever happened to me and I don't regret it, not one bit. I'm in college right now and working full time and she's a straight A student who's just beautiful and hilarious. Like I said, it'll be rough, but it's worth it.
Good luck with whatever you decide!
2007-03-28 11:31:10 · answer #9 · answered by analicia_d82 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No they cant force you to have an abortion at all. i don't mean to be rude but i think this country is stupid because i was pregnant at 15 and i wanted an abortion and they said that i could do it without my mum finding out i had a miscarriage though at 8 weeks but in school you need permission from your parents to have a paracetamol tablet. you do realise that you are throwing your life away I'm 19 and have 3 kids and i don't have a life anymore I'm not a teenager anymore i cant do what my friends are because i am a mum. you cant go out when you want to and the things you used to take advantage of like having a bath when you want to that all goes out the window. have an abortion and don't throw your life away like i did.
2007-03-31 12:08:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the laws in your state, but usually no. It has to be your decision. They can try, but to do it they would have to get a court order, and that's a lot of money and time. If you feel like you don't want one, then tell them you have made a decision. You are considered of legal age to make medical decisions for yourself. You can even pick your own doctor now! So be up front and honest with them and tell them that you don't feel an abortion would be the best thing for you. You do have other options, and because of your age, I would suggest adoption.
2007-03-28 10:13:58 · answer #11 · answered by odd duck 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋