My husband will go sometimes 2 weeks or more without showering! I will ask him every morning if he wants to take a shower. I even bring him clean clothes and towels to encourage him. I have even offered certain... bedroom favors ... if he'll just take a shower daily! Or even every other day!
He goes to work like this! He's also a smoker, so it makes it worse! Please, someone help me figure him out, why won't he take a shower??
He's also not shaved or gotten a hair cut in over 6 months. Is this some sign of something I should be worried about?
2007-03-28 10:05:05 · 37 answers · asked by Sick of the Stink 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, I think it may be a sign of something worse. Schedule a doc appointment for him and make sure you go with him and hear what the doc has to say.
2007-03-28 10:15:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you experience is a result of a condition unseen to the eyes. I believe that depression could be the basis of such behavior. How long this has been going on? Understand that "bedroom favors" will not cure his condition. There is much more underlying and you must pay attention to a state that is much less physical but emotional. Good luck!
2007-03-28 10:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by alpha & omega 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he like this before you married him and if so what did you see in him? However, you did marry him but I would tell him point blank that you do not want to be with such a slob and you are going to leave him. If that does not change the way he is follow through and leave. That kind of laziness is uncalled for. Oh yeah...I would certainly not want to sleep in the same bed as him let alone have sex with him. Would not even want the man to touch me. Of course, only you can decide to do something about it.
2007-03-28 10:23:10 · answer #3 · answered by susie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not daily shower but a least every 2 to 3 days. Talk to him and if he wont talk to you then you know there is an underlying problem and he needs to get help for it. If not then get naked in front of him and run to the shower and tell him he has to get in with you to have you!! Take turns lathering each other up, and scrubbing each other, its really fun to do!!!
2007-03-28 11:18:14 · answer #4 · answered by hotmoma_37 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! I can relate! My husband is not as bad as yours but I know what you're talking about!
My husband will go for days without showering. When we first got married, he'd go all week. But then I started bugging him about it everyday because I couldn't stand it anymore. He got a little better. But still now he will go like 2 or 3 days without showering.
I just don't get it! It MUST be a man thing! He doesn't smoke though and he does shave and get his hair cut on a regular basis.
I think it's that men don't think that they can smell.
The only thing I can tell you to do is keep bothering him about it everyday and maybe sooner or later he'll get better like my husband did! Or maybe ask him to take showers with you. I would tell my husband that I wanted him to take a shower with me because I thought it was romantic, and he would. Just keep at him. Let him know it upsets you.
Good luck!
2007-03-28 10:14:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ummm...I don't really know what you could do to help him, except tell him straight out that you're tired of it and you want him to take a shower and be clean...maybe instead of offering favors, don't do anything in the bedroom...I know it sounds mean...but something obviously needs done
2007-03-28 10:10:34 · answer #6 · answered by IndiHippi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh, man...this is dis-gust-ing... (sorry). How can you stand "favors" in the bedroom??? Oh, yuuuuk.
Now to get serious...he has a BIG PROBLEM and it's called LAZINESS! Lazy people are the hardest ones to cure, really.
You could get a jacuzzi tub and hope he loves it...? You could spill something really stinky on his head by accident? You could eat stinky cheese and blow it in his face? Stop flushing the toilet...that might make him recognize something?? You could read him and article (written by you, of course) that people who don't bathe get scabies (which is probably true). You could rub some 'extra stink' on his clothes so that even he would smell it! Hey, I like that one!!!
The man needs psychiatric help! Meanwhile, separate beds!
2007-03-28 10:34:59 · answer #7 · answered by Eve 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hope you are not having sex with this guy..... Well, if he isn't taking a shower often, maybe you guys can do that together. Keeping a good hygiene is very important at work, too. If you know some of his co-workers, maybe you can tell them to point that out. Sometimes it's more effective from someone not that close to you and he will realize it's not just you complaining. Good luck.
2007-03-28 10:10:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Please, do not tell me he was like this when you met him! The freaking smell from him must be something serious! 2 weeks? Does he at least brush his teeth? I wouldn't expect to get anything from a women if I didn't wash my a**! I didn't even know women dated, let a lone married men like this! Hose that man down on the lawn...drive through a car wash with the windows down!
2007-03-28 10:17:02 · answer #9 · answered by the anomaly23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he just recently( in past 6 months) started doing this or has he always been like this--------------if he has just recently started doing this and letting himself go then maybe something has happened to cause him to act this way-------other than just being plain lazy. Have you tried talking to him and trying to find out as to why he is doing this. Maybe he needs somekind of psychological help-who knows. I think if it were me and I have tried talking to him to find out what or if there is a problem then I would seek professional help
2007-03-28 10:16:53 · answer #10 · answered by nickle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋