What does a husband look/need from their wives that would help him be a better man, feel good about himself, and happy that he's married?
2007-03-28 10:01:41 · 16 answers · asked by gurlielash 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Love and Respect.
Respect that his view is going to be different. Acknowlegement that many things called right and wrong are not, they are just differences in perspective. (Some things are right and wrong, so I'm not arguing that there is NO right and wrong.)
For example, it's not wrong for him to want a motorcycle, nor is it wrong for you to want a Laura Ashley styled bedroom.
So learn how he demonstrates his love towards you, and not just expect that he loves you ONLY the way you want to experience it. When he kills the spiders, he is showing love, or when he fills up the gas tank in your car.
That may not be something you read in a romance novel, but it sure is a loving act.
So appreciate and respect that he is not you, and has his own perspective on things, different talents than you do, and in many cases different preferences.
None of those are right or wrong issues. So love the differences. You didn't marry yourself, you married him. So don't try to change him into your model of who you want him to be.
2007-03-28 10:10:16 · answer #1 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Attention and space as mentioned by another. He wants to have the most beautiful woman that he married and so you should always take care of yourself and look nice. He as well should do the same. Have a string attached , but place some space in it.
Good luck.
PS sex does not have to stop or change after marriage.
2007-03-28 19:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by Clay R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Good looks.
And that doesn't mean that he wants a "model"... Good looks means different things to different men, but to most of us, it means taking care of your body in such a way that you're able to enjoy some of the things we enjoy (not just sex).
2) Play partner
To most men this is extremely important. We don't marry so we do our thing and our wives do their thing. We feel very much respected when our spouse takes real interest in our activities and does things with us. Like for example I like gardening. I enjoy it a lot when my wife and I can do this together. Unfortunatelly this doesn't happen a enough.
2007-03-28 17:13:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People, in general, can only make themselves better. You can be supportive and understanding but in effect you should be allowing him to better himself in his own way. Mostly, if a wife gives her husband trust and respect then everything else is frosting on the cake. Don't get me wrong I think it should go both ways.
It's nice to hear a person genuinely want to be a positive force in her mates life. I think he's a lucky guy to have someone like you. I hope he knows it.
2007-03-28 17:14:00 · answer #4 · answered by IveBeenThere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How cool is it that you want to meet the needs of your husband. Most people as so selfish they only think about what their spouse should do for them.
There is a really good book called "His needs, Her needs" that speak directly to your question. Each person has different needs. This book helps you to understand the needs of your spouse so you can meet them and build each other up. If each person cares enough to meet the needs of their spouse - life is a lot more enjoyable.
2007-03-29 08:56:16 · answer #5 · answered by tom t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the things they look forward (Im one of them) it's to have someone that cares about them. Make him his best meal, pack him lunch, call him in his lunch break, let him know how much you love him, be on his side all the time, watch his favorite TV show with him (even if you hate that show) and connect with his friends. His friends are a good source to get his attention. For example if his friends see how much you care about him, they can tell him that. That way he sees more how much you love him?
2007-03-28 18:37:27 · answer #6 · answered by Blue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I being a Husband need to feel loved, encouraged and handsome to be happy in a marriage. i like it when my wife leaves me notes in my lunch i also like it when i wife get up with me in the morning and kiss me off to work. and the best thing is getting cute love email throw out the week.
2007-03-28 17:28:43 · answer #7 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman that supports his goals in life. One that is on the same page with him in their personal life. Then one that you feel will be there no matter what and not bolt at the first sign of a rough time in life.
2007-03-28 18:19:03 · answer #8 · answered by ShoelessJoes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex: I didn't get married to be celebate. If I can't even convince my own wife to have sex with me, what kind of man am I?
Support: I will tend to think of myself more in terms of how I think you think of me.
Authority: if I have at least one place, my home, where my word is final, then I can act with confidence in the rest of the world.
2007-03-28 18:03:07 · answer #9 · answered by Sean J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a good friend that can be easily read and can read his
emotions and needs. Willing to snuggle or get out of the
way and when/how to do both -- make him feel important
to you, and make him so he is important to you ----------
do what you can to be an equal 1/2 to a fantastic whole
2007-03-28 17:19:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋