I know someone who is searching for God and her spouse does drugs and alcholol.
I have noticed a decline in this spouse and he is very verbally abusive and he is in torment because of his addictions.
He has stolen money, lied about using, does not want to repent or get help, goes to counselling with his wife but feels he does not need to change.
They have 3 kids and this person does not want to get help, there marriage is badically over and it looks like the will divorce.
I feel if this person does not repent she should proceed with the divorce. How can I be a help to this person and even though God does not like divorce will God still watch over her and will God make all things better and new for her? My eyes fill up with tears as I write this because this person has gone and is still going through hell.
I dont want to be a "fundie" and bible bash her that is the last thing she needs What can I do to help and be there for her?
2007-03-28 10:00:52 · 11 answers · asked by encourager4God 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All you can do is be there for her when she needs a shoulder. As far as the church condemning her for divorce, I don't think God turns his back on people who divorce. The only sin that does not have salvation is suicide, because you can not as for forgiveness and repent. i think she will be fine once she begins to rebuild her life. Just be strong for her. My prayers are with you guys.
2007-03-28 10:10:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The bible has been interpreted in many ways by many ppl.
I believe in god but not all the writings as there are books of the bible never put into the king james version.
Back to the problem, Let's discuss human nature, I'll assume your a god fearing christian, BUT if someones about to butcher your kids will you not take action? I would rather ask for forgiveness than permission.
I was married the first time in church, she cheated got divorced
Church wouldn't marry me again, guess what 12 yrs later this wife is who god put into my life. and were still going.
I have never felt the way i feel about her, She is the last love I will ever have as I feel god put us together.
Do you see where I'm going? Sometimes I believe it goes to the greater good. If she's a good person and your doing nothing to help her aren't you just as guilty as her husband? If her husbands beating them with a board over the kids heads is it ok? Because the bible says spare the rod spoil the child
Because your watching the soul and life being taken from someone and doing nothing about it.
I would rather stand at the gates, and say I may be wrong but at least was trying to better a sisters life, who knows she may get away from him and start going to church with you. Was it wrong then?
This is a personal choice that you'll only find the answer inside yourself. I hope you find the right answer, sounds like more than your morals are counting on it
Hope this helps
2007-03-28 17:18:01 · answer #2 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue to pray for your friend and their marriage. If possible pray with her, if two or more are gathered God is in the mist. Divorce is defeat and is a trick of the enemy but what God has joined together let no man put asunder. Tell your friend that she needs to seriously fast, pray, and cry out to God. Things might seem hard but God said cast all your cares and worries on Him for his yolk is easy and burden is light. I will lift you and your friend (marriage) up in prayer. If you would like me to pray with you both please feel free to email me at wisdom_women @yahoo.com and I will give you my home phone number.
P.S. God Bless You both and remember the kingdom suffers violence and the violent take it by force.
2007-03-28 17:36:11 · answer #3 · answered by wisdom_women 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is a long journey for better or for worse, but if he is not ever going to change, then she needs to find an outlet. She is a mother, and her children come first. God will always love her and know that she tried, but she can't change her husband.
2007-03-28 17:08:15 · answer #4 · answered by raiyn4502 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but there is divorce . In the good book it condemns husbands or wives to mistreat each other.THIS IS MISTREATMENT.God wants us to do right and for every step we take for good he takes 2-3.Remind her that marriage means trust,loving,caring,faithful and clean partners for life. He let a man ( drug dealer) come between them and it's over
2007-03-28 17:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by tastyflow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her to listen. Do not try to tell her what to do. You are not God. Leave matters to God. If her spouse's behavior is getting worse then prayer is working. Keep praying for them both.
2007-03-28 17:07:32 · answer #6 · answered by Stefka 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God is already watching over her. Your friend does not need what she already has.. What she needs is a good friend that will just listen and be prepared to be there for her when she asks.
2007-03-28 17:11:59 · answer #7 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
b there 4 her and listen but dont get involved b/c she has 2 see a way out 4 herself
2007-03-28 17:32:07 · answer #8 · answered by sarah71397 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see that you are a bible thumper. Just be here friend listen to what she has to say never force your beliefs on her.
2007-03-28 17:08:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont get involved, you come out with more problems with them than what they have!!!
2007-03-28 17:07:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋