there is a chick Im friends with who doent understand I dont want anything from her (relationship or anything else)I have been moderately rudein some of my attempts to get the message through but nothing seems to register and she only tries harder what can I do to make it clear to her( and going gay is no option)
2007-03-28 09:57:42 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Erica F i have tried that I have gone as far as graphic sign lanuage ilustrating sex. and its not that she s unatractive I dont want any relationship right now
2007-03-28 10:20:05 · update #1
cristin I know a bit about psychology done all of that
2007-03-28 11:08:06 · update #2
mmm tricky i have had the same problem with male friends - there is no easy answer unfortunately if their hooked - their hooked. the only thing i would suggest is for you to tell her how you feel and make her understand that her suggestions or advances are spoiling your friendship - make sure you dont flirt even in fun and when she is making suggestions towards you just ignore them and if she carries on then she is only thinking of herself and being selfish - sometimes its better if you get one of your other friends who she is friends with too to explain to her how much this is annoying you sometimes girls get embarrassed by the thought that someone else knows (other than the direct person - you) they are making a fool of themselves - good luck mate. xx
2007-03-28 10:09:24 · answer #1 · answered by victoria r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her straight forward that you want to be friends, but if she keeps on nagging for a relationship you don't even want to hang out with her. If it continues to the point you can't take it, then don't hang with her.
Since you are friends, I can see why she would think that perhaps she can get you to like her. The message sometimes just doesn't register when you really like someone. Be firm above all else! Have a serious talk that you want the flirting the stop, and that you would much rather be a friend than be stuck with someone you aren't attracted.
I'm sure she is a very good bud, we all just get a little naive sometimes. Assure her that you definately don't want to go out or anything, and soon she will understand
hope you guys work it out
good luck
2007-03-28 17:01:27 · answer #2 · answered by Corinne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, she's infatuated with you. And she's so confident she won't take no for an answer. What's the deal?
Have you tried using the 3 "life" excuses yet?
(In order from least to most hard to say)
1) I like the single life
2) I don't need or want a woman in my life
and;
3) It's MY LIFE!
This isn't acceptable behavior from her, but make sure your behavior IS acceptable. Don't lead her on. Don't go out to lunch or ecspeccially dinner 1 on 1. Just don't!
I suggest getting the guidance of another friend who is a girl, particullarily a mutual friend, because if her friends think you're into her that's a HUGE source of fuel. Everytime you turn her down her friends will likely tell her to "Keep trying" and she will adapt that attitude. You need a girl to give her the news that it a'int ever happening.
GOOD LUCK!!
2007-03-28 17:16:27 · answer #3 · answered by Cloudyheartgurl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately some people are thick...they can't take hints, subtle or otherwise. So, the only way is to tell them straight up - in plain, clear, calm language.
" You know what? I'm fine with just being friends with you. I am not expecting more and I do NOT want anything more. I hope you understand that."
Good luck.
2007-03-28 17:11:53 · answer #4 · answered by Inday 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she really deadset on getting you to go out with her? My best advice would be to be straightfoward with her. Every girl/woman I know wants honestly. Have a discussion with her about it, tell her why you don't want a relationship RIGHT NOW. Try to get her to understand that you two should just be friends without showing how annoyed you are with her attempts. If you feel that you two are starting to argue, back off, and try bringing it up later.
2007-03-28 17:07:37 · answer #5 · answered by Ana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just sit down and tell her how you feel and don't just attempt to get the message through. Try not to be rude or hurt her feelings or anything. Good luck, sorry if I'm not much help.
2007-03-28 17:08:13 · answer #6 · answered by Angela D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U might have to be a more harsh with her.tell her point blank u do want a relationship with her.tell her u only want to be her friend.but that pro bally won't work.so tell her not to call u or have any contact with u that she is driving u crazy.i would also try like Mary Q suggested see if a friend knows someone who will pretend to be going out with u.since u have tried to tell her u do not want to be with her.good luck
2007-03-28 17:34:34 · answer #7 · answered by angie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her straight out that you're not interested in being anything but friends w/ her. (make sure you're not leading her on ). If she still doesn't get it- start talking to her about other girls you're interested in. It may be kind of mean- but, If she isn't getting the clue- that should help. Good Luck!
2007-03-28 17:02:40 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs.know.It.All 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in some cases if she dosen't get it maybe gay isn't a bad idea?? maybe she is one whom dose not like rejection, and feels like she has to conquer a challenge in some way try reverse actions and maybe it would scare her away or maybe you need to be careful she dose not seem to have all the marbels in the right place (i mean in the head ) and she could be a weirdo stalker i wish you luck and maybe last but not least she knows you are a good catch as well??
2007-03-28 17:04:19 · answer #9 · answered by PAULINA S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems like you have tried almost anything. maybe find another girl that you are interested in and take her out to dinner or go places with her. this other girl may get the point. good luck!
2007-03-28 17:00:59 · answer #10 · answered by lc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋