2007-03-28 09:57:26 · 21 answers · asked by Hot Coco Puff 7 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
You are familiar with the term Distance lends enchantment to the view and After you get what you want you don't want it
Have you noticed that that special Handsome person begins to look devilishly attractive fer perhaps 2 weeks and you start to see imperfections . well your crating them because you are bored with them and as no one is perfect you start looking around Again !!!
2007-03-28 21:35:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's change "always" to "frequently" and I will give it shot.
Many if not most breakups are one sided. That is one party or the other chooses to dissolve the relationship. Since it is unilateral it leaves the other party with a loose string in their life.
I am sure you have heard the word "closure". A child goes missing, foul play is suspected or known but the child is never seen again. Well the parents of that child will spend the rest of their lives with that open chapter. They don't know if their child is alive or dead, happy or sad, healthy or ill. They will suspect and even imagine any number of things trying to resolve the issue.
Well a unilateral breakup is similar. It is an open chapter in your life. It is unresolved and you will forever wonder all the possible "what ifs". What if I had done this or that, would we still be together? Did the breakup have to happen? Is it possible that we might get back together? Is he happy? Is he sad? Does he think about me? And, the list will go on as long as you live.
I left for Vietnam in late 1969 and returned a year later. I was so in love when I left and when I came home to find that woman with another man I was literally crushed. All I wanted was for her to be happy and I hope she is but I will probably never know.
OK, I have to break that off. I am sure you get the idea.
2007-03-28 17:19:46 · answer #2 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I believe it is because life is trying to push us harder than necessary. If the love of your life really is the love of your life, then you will go to extremes to have that person. And most importantly, it should be mutual. I dont believe the one you love is the love of your life, if the love is not returned. A lot of the times, we are in love with somebody as much as because of who they are, but also because of the way they love us.
So, if two people are mutually each others' love of their lives, they can't be with that person because they are not trying hard enough. To make it work you must try, if its distance, build a bridge. If its society, break loose; Whatever the reason the two can't be together there is always a solution. And i think that even if it takes you 40 years to be with the one person you genuinely believe to be the love of your life, and you are willing to run cross country for them, in the end it'll be worth it.
and if it never comes to be, it was never meant to be.
2007-03-28 17:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by RIF 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, im not sure that what you have said is true. But if we assume it is, i think the reason is because when you cannot be with someone- or have never been able to go out with them - to a certain extent you put them on a pedistal. In your head you make them perfect. So they are always the one that got away, until you have them and lose them or leave them.
To me someone can only be the love of your life if they are the person sharing your life. Its one thing to like to party with people, its another to want to wake up daily and brush your teeth with someone.
=)
2007-03-28 18:14:14 · answer #4 · answered by shea 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm,I once called my Husband "the Love off my Life",but after 3 Mths of seperation and a lot of soul searching, I now call him the "Bain of my Life" lol
Next time I'll pick a winner,but don't belive in the love off my life people change.
2007-03-29 05:37:16 · answer #5 · answered by live life 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uf! It would like to know me the answer to this question!
Perhaps because to the human being it prefers to be looking for the ideal, instead of resigning itself to the imperfection. Something that “you have it”, you let see it “perfect”. For that reason you dream about the impossible thing and so, you coexist with the idealisation of which you would like that it was.
I like to think that when something is yours it comes to you. If it doesn´t come, it never was for you. You don´t blind with illusions. It is true, the big loves they are so, even though the distance. But we must live.
Be brave, live.
2007-03-28 17:47:46 · answer #6 · answered by Desah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because usually you fall in love with someone you cant have. love grows stronger the more you cant have them so you think you love them more than another person you have loved or will love in the future but it is because they are out of reach. its like playing hard to get, it makes the other person want you more because they cant have you
2007-03-29 08:08:30 · answer #7 · answered by Lethal-Lizzle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this is ALWAYS true. There are exceptions to most rules and my parents are the exception to this question.
I know for certain that my parents are the love of each other's life and there not apart. In fact they have been happily married for 36 years.
2007-03-28 17:48:18 · answer #8 · answered by AthenaGenesis 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because Limitations cause Temptations
2007-03-28 17:00:50 · answer #9 · answered by Lorena A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nonsense. you just would never call them that to their face, they'd get a big head :)
it's only when you step back from the situation a bit that you realise this term applies. so maybe people can only identify the loves of their lives when they are no longer near to them.
2007-03-28 19:43:12 · answer #10 · answered by spiralling 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋