I am currently in a relationship which started out as a friendship. The man I am in this relationship with is in a (long distance) relationship with someone else - they see each other every weekend. However, now our feelings toward one another has grown to more than friendship. We have not been intimate (kissing, sex, etc.). We spend a lot to time together usually IM and talking on the phone with each other from 10pm to 2-3 am in the morning (3-4 times a week). We have a great relationship! And we see each other at least once a week. When we have discussed our feelings for one another and admitted that to one another that our feelings are deeper we have desire toward one another, my male friend thinks we can continue with our "friendship" as long as we maintain our boundaries. He says he can control himself and if I can keep my feelings in check we can still be "friends" and still hang out as we do.
2007-03-28 09:56:06 · 8 answers · asked by black widow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He has admitted to you that he has feelings for you, so that says that his feelings/heart is not fully with the person that he has the relationship with. He need to search within himself and figure out some things. The first thing being can he stay in a long distance relationship, and two why is he REALLY conversing with you until the wee hours of the morning. And you need to set boundaries before your feelings get hurt and the friendship gets ruined.
2007-03-28 12:37:22 · answer #1 · answered by reddchilds 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To start with I would have a problem trusting this guy. He sounds if he wants to be a player. If you want to remain friends with him, first make his girlfriend aware of the fact that you are his friend and you guys talk that much, then start a new relationship and see if he still wants to be your friend. Chances are very good that he will take a hike.
2007-03-28 10:27:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know why you'd want to spend so much time on a "friendship" that's going nowhere. I'd devote my time to finding someone who wanted a relationship, rather than someone who wants to remain friends. Talking on the phone until 2am just prevents you from meeting someone better for you.
2007-03-28 10:01:52 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can remain friends with him and if you really want to be with him in a relationship...you tell him her or me!!!
And before you get in the relationship make sure that if you guys break up it won't affect yall's friendship!!
Because friendship is more valuable than just being in a relationship!!!
2007-03-28 10:08:10 · answer #4 · answered by Proud to Be Mommy!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish you could step outside yourself and read this! You really think this is worth hanging around for. If you want to do it, I don't care! I'm sure I'll see some interesting questions down the line when it come to this wonderful thing you got going on! Wow!
2007-03-28 10:04:24 · answer #5 · answered by the anomaly23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO - obviously he's very happy to leave things as they are and although likes you as a friend - really isn't that "into you".
You seem to want more out of this - and you will only be hurt - move on!!!
2007-03-28 10:03:38 · answer #6 · answered by brenny_boo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's "double-dipping" - tell him flat out to break off his other relationship if he wants to pursue you, or tell him to get lost. Chances are that if he does this to someone else, he will do that to you in no time.
2007-03-28 10:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
err...no
2007-03-28 10:22:36 · answer #8 · answered by sarah71397 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋