should i have sex with him or not?

Question

hi i'm 14 and there is this guy in my grade who is really popular and looks amazing! he keeps asking me if i will do it with him. but i keep saying no because i am scared of doing. I really want to but just scared that my parents found out. i also want my first time to be with someone with i really love and not just as fun. Any advice?

Answer 1

No, No, No! At 14 I don't think you need to be worrying about sex. concentrate on having friends, doing well in school, and having a good relationship with your family. Statistics show that if boys or girls start having sex during their teenage years, they are 5 times more likely to contract an STD (sexually transmitted disease). Alot of STD's are untreatable!! Do you really want to have to tell the man you want to marry 10 years from now that you have Herpies or HIV? Nobody will want to marry you if that happens!

Plus, If you start now, it will be VERY hard for you to stop. 14 year olds aren't known for having long term relationships, so chances are you will probably develop a lot of sexual partners over the years if you start now. Believe me, no body wants to settle down with a girl that has had lots of sexual partners.

Isn't it crazy how guys want to sleep with you now, but then want to marry a virgin?! Take it from me, woman to woman, you don't want to get into sexual relationships at this age. It's best to wait till you get married, but if you can't wait that long, at least wait until your mature enough to get a job, get on birth control, and mature enough to handle the responsiblities that come along with sex. At this point, I don't think you are.

Please know that I'm saying all of this with sincerity and love. Please don't make that mistake! Wait!!!! Your first time should be special!!!

Answer 2

Wait.

Don't do it.

Don't have sex at 14, no matter if he's cute, rich, popular, has a great car, thinks your cat is wonderful, gets good grades, and his father the pope said it was OK.

You're too young, and he's just trying to use you. Trust me - I was a 14 year old boy at one time.

If you're scared, you're not ready.

As a rule of thumb, you should wait until you're 18, you are using at least 2 methods of birth control that offer protection against disease, and you've dated the guy for 6 months.

Does that sound restrictive? It should be - you're the one that can get pregnant, you're the one that has to deal with raising a baby, or giving it up for adoption, or getting an abortion. And so you're the one that should be picky - DAMNED picky - about who you have sex with.

Or you can be nothing but another notch in his headboard. The choice is yours.

Answer 3

I think you should wait until you are ready and you find someone that you are in love with. I know that the media has people sex crazy and they make it seem like sex is a guiltless pleasure-but the fact is there can be serious consenquences. Even if you use protection, there are still chances of you contracting an STD or getting pregnant-are you willing to risk that at 14? And just so you know, everyone's first time is very awkward, and for a woman, it can hurt a lot, especially if your partner doesn't know what he's doing. If your partner isn't in love with you, chances are he will not take his time with you or worry about hurting you. Well, I hope things work out girly :-)

Answer 4

Hey I lost m Virginty at 11 and I wish I would have waited until High school at least. You're going to do what you want regardless. Alot of times your body will tell you what it's comfortable with and what's not comfortable.

Being nervous is a clear sign you don't trust him. Do this though give him a lil attention you know Making out and what not Don't go all the way. Wait a few days at school and if everyone knows about it, then he doesn't give a Rats A**. If he keeps it to him self then some part of the guy cares about you, at that point just follow what you feel is right.

Use a condom please, Lifestyles is a good choice.

Answer 5

I think you're way too young to be thinking about having sex. It sounds like the guy just wants to use you. It's not all about being popular and having good looks, it's what's on the inside that really counts. If you are scared of having sex, don't do it, you don't want to have any regrets. Wait until you are older, it will be worth it.

Answer 6

I'm sorry to get all "parental" on you, but you're too young. As much as might feel you're mature enough, we don't realise what an effect casual sex has on us until we're much older. I'm 26 and am only now realising the implications that casual sex has had on my self-esteem. You give a part of yourself to someone when you're intimate with them, and that person leaves a part of themselves with you - and that's not always a good thing. Sex, while physically pleasurable, is much more than just a physical interaction. I would suggest you wait a couple of years until you're more in touch with yourself and have a better developed sense of self-worth. The point is to for the act of sex to leave you more enriched, not to be left feeling empty or used.

Answer 7

Don't do in less you plan on becoming a mother . Wait you still have a lot of time ! Sounds like he just wants one thing.

Guys have two heads and think with the one between their legs at that age. Good luck young friend !

Answer 8

You've answered your own question. You're scared and you want your first time to be with someone you love. He's not even your boyfriend. He's just asking to have sex with you.

Answer 9

Once you do it, you can never get it bck and I would guess as young as you are, he does not know about protection as well. Save it for the reasons you already said - you will be glad you did!

Answer 10

No save yourself for someone you love he just wants to use you. If he loved you he would say so and he would wait,