I would like to ask everyone a question? Have you ever had a friend or people who you thought were your friends and all of a sudden they just completely ignored you and only talked to each other or other people?
My heart is breaking because I thought these people were my friends and I can't understand why I am all of a sudden getting the cold shoulder? I never say anything mean to anybody and even if I can't stand the person,I will always smile at them and say hello. I am just so confused and my spouse is telling me that these,"Supposed friends,"of mine aren't worth it,but in the end,my heart is breaking because I just don't understand why SOME people think that it is ok or acceptable to completely ignore someone who is their friend? Please share advice or suggestions on what I should do about this?? :-(
2007-03-28 09:54:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes, and my experience has taught me two things:
1. They are NOT your friends
2. One or more of them is jealous of something about you or your life and wants to sabotage you.
Therefore they take it to the group and begin slandering you in some way, shape or form. (this assuming that you have NOT done anything or said anything about them or their friends/family that you shouldn't have). Rather than coming to you to find the truth, the rest of the group simply accepts what they're hearing as true and believes it. Perhaps they're all jealous of you in some way - makes it easier for them to willingly accept what they're hearing and behave this way.
Consider: If you work with them, are you getting more positive attention from your management or higher ups?
Are their lives miserable (i.e. do they complain alot? are they generally unhappy people?) Sometimes unhappy people simply HATE for others to be happy, and will target them.
Regardless, the reality is you've discovered a horrible truth about these people - they do not care about you and were never your friends. Fortunately, you've discovered the truth about them, and you need to act appropriately - don't let them bring you down!!! Seek out a new "friend" and show them they can no longer steal your sunshine!
2007-03-28 10:10:51 · answer #1 · answered by sjrae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Precisely the same thing happened to me. And I really dont think it was a coincidence that all this started when I was in not so good times. Either ways it's been like 3-4 months since this happened. Now also when I meet those people there is a slightly bad feeling in my heart but what to do? The worst part is I am staying with my supposedly 'best friend' to whom I don't even talk and he still is doing everything possible to irritate me. Sometimes I go so mad and feel so helpless. Now still I am moving on. Look around , distract yourself. Go out, you will definitely find someone who is there for you. I am still in the hope that once I move out of the place I am currently staying , I will try finding new friends who are better and considerate. We all make mistakes, similarly we have made mistakes in choosing the right bunch of people as friends. We have to let go.... Keep me informed what happens to you...
2007-03-28 10:15:11 · answer #2 · answered by ashu2sinha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like me. My husband has a hard time understanding it too. He thinks most women are just jerks...LOL. He sees how nice I am to people and I will go out of my way to help people and then when I really need someone...no one is there. I go to a fairly large church and I grew up in the church. I have been friends with these people all my life. I left the church and went to some others but I always felt like the outcast there too. I had one woman finally step forward and invited me to a Women's Summit and I was so excited that someone was finally befriending me. When I showed up, I sat by myself and no one would even talk to me. I left the church crying. I long so much for friends and I try to be so nice to others. Through this trial, I am looking for what God is trying to show me. I must be going through this for a reason. We both want a friend so maybe we could be friends. Email me if you want chat more or just vent!
2007-03-28 10:06:44 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Trying♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh yup this is been going on for 21/2 yrs now and i dint understand my self. i think they cant handle Harving more than a couple friends at a time.hav e they wanted you to do something for them and you could not do it. and it seem like that's when they started acting like this. because that's what my situation was and then i decided to move away but i moved back and now they act like i dint exist. this was my best friend who is treating me like this. its very discouraging.honestly i think its because they cant stand them self's and there for they have to have someone to pick on and you,r the one they chose for some odd reason.just remember this friends dint last for ever no matter what anyone says.
2007-03-28 10:40:32 · answer #4 · answered by angelblossom1963 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes Yes Yes! Oh my this is happening to me also. I'm so confused and don't know what to do. My friends...well they were my VERY close friends! and now they ditched me like...i dunno some analogy. I think that they just got bored of me and stuff but I'm not sure thats the answer. Hun, stay strong and just sit down and talk to them. you may not get the answer but at least they know that you feel the way you do.
2007-03-28 10:00:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK this is what you do i have been in this problem before. All you should do is drop them as friends if they ingnore and just find new ones.....But if you don't want to do that figure out why they are doing it if you did something wrong.
2007-03-28 10:09:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should find a new group of friends that r actually there 4 u when u need them
2007-03-28 10:06:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. Your friends all suck. Find new friends.
2007-03-28 10:32:07 · answer #8 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What?
2007-03-28 09:58:04 · answer #9 · answered by kent j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋