I am divorced and have joint custody with my ex-husband for our 5 and 7 year old (I also have full custody of my older 3 children from a previous marriage). I am considering a relocation due to a job opportunity and wonder what to expect in regards to the courts and requesting primary placement for my children due to the relocation. Our initial divorce was not pleasant so I can't imagine my ex won't fight them moving. I am willing to be meet him often for the kids to go with him for extended breaks and time off from school, but just wonder how this might all go down. Any experiences to share???
2007-03-28 09:53:42 · 11 answers · asked by Nutzzzzz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That is really difficult. You may not be able to relocate and the only one that can overturn a decision like that will be a judge. Try working something out, just the two of you. There's nothing better than working together for the sake of the children. Who better than the both of you seeking the best interest of the children. No Judge can make that decision. If it can be worked out than the children as well as the both of you will be able to appreicate and embrace each other even after a nasty divorce in regards to whats still important.
Hope everything works out, best of luck****
2007-03-28 10:06:17 · answer #1 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With all that has happen with the children involved u probably paid an attorney ask him. Relocation sounds find if u both can come to agree. A new job that pays more and it could be a before environment for raising children. Again, ask the attorney you paid all that money too if your husband does not agree. If he does not give you any problems. What do your children think sit down like a family with paper in writing if you can agree with X maybe he is willing if the some of his children want to go with him and you visit. Communication w/o all those fees.
2007-03-28 17:06:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Presumably you have a custody order already, which was hammered out in the divorce. You're talking now about unilaterally wanting to modify the custody order in your best interests (a new job opportunity), not the kids' best interests (to have a strong connection with their father). Unless he's failed to take advantage of opportunities to see the kids, I don't think you have any chance at all if he or his parents decide to fight you on it. If he objected, it's more likely to play out that custody would be switched to him, and that you are granted visitation so you can come back from your new job to see them.
2007-03-28 17:01:18 · answer #3 · answered by Neonzeus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No experience personally. But is he a good dad? So let him know why you need to move and work out a plan with him just so he doesn't feel slighted.Joint custody involves court so both need to agree on the move .
2007-03-28 17:01:02 · answer #4 · answered by tastyflow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Share with him your employment opportunities, and your positive willingness to see that he remains part of their life.... If that is what you want. You may also push really hard, and suggest that HE be the main person with custody.... which he may not wish, and therefore be more willing to give you what you want.... In any event, you know him best... (would a push work?)
Unfortunately, all of this involved courts and attorneys --- read $$$
2007-03-28 17:01:59 · answer #5 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a bad idea. Your kids have already suffered the break up of their family, and the older 3 kids have gone through your love-life mistakes twice now. Moving everyone away so they can "visit" their dad on their breaks sounds cruel. If your job is so important, let the kids stay with their dad and YOU pack up for extended breaks and visit them.
2007-03-28 16:59:34 · answer #6 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
from what i know depending on the state and what your agreement is he can stop you from doing this if it is in another state even for a better job they may tell you if he does not agree that you can not remove the children from the state i have know this to happen to a friend of mine her ex said no and so the courts here in California said to bad no means no! as for in the same state again he can try and i have heard of several judges who said you can go to another town but it will not change his share of the time he gets unless he is willing to change it to accommodate you so even if it meant you have to drive like 6 hours to get them there every weekend the its to bad unless he is willing to change it so i would talk to a lawyer but i would get ready for a fight!
2007-03-28 17:02:50 · answer #7 · answered by peterpansdate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should just be honest with their father and maybe put a plan of action together for their visits with him (how often, how long, when , where will you meet) prior to speaking with him so that he will see that you have their best interest at heart. Keep your cool and discuss things with an open mind he may have ideas to go along with what you have put together.
2007-03-28 16:57:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you want everything your way. You are always free to move. Your ex cannot prevent you from moving.
What he can prevent is interference with his parenting time. You are free to leave the kids with him and ask for liberal visitation as well.
Such an action would certainly demonstrate good will on your part.
2007-03-28 17:00:02 · answer #9 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-30 14:24:39 · answer #10 · answered by Khushi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋