If your close friend (who was once a flatmate too) got a new fella and pretty much forgot about you and doesn't make the effort with the friendship but has now split up from him (after 3 years) and is asking for your support, would you be there for her?
2007-03-28 09:51:42 · 39 answers · asked by farleyjackmaster 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
it would be hard, its never nice to be left behind, but yeah, u should be there for her. thats what real friends are for. maybe one day you will need her like she needs you. support her, and when it passes, sit her down and tell her how you feel, that you want to be there for her but you were a bit dissappointed when she ignored you for three years.
2007-03-28 10:05:28 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs_W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am always there for my friends even when they are never there for me. Then I get the stress of the world on my shoulders and I feel miserable while trying to make them feel good. I still haven't figured out the point or maybe I should just give up and move on? I guess I am definitely the wrong one to be answering this!
2007-03-29 14:40:01 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Trying♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, as annoying as it is when friends basically ditch you for a guy, it means the guy must really have meant a LOT to them. So she probably needs you now more than ever, now that they've broken up! Trust me, she never forgot about you, she just wanted to devote time to her relationship all this time to make it work. Be there for her & it'll mean the absolute world to her.
2007-03-28 09:57:28 · answer #3 · answered by blondie22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay well I would help her. Even though she has been pretty mean to you, she still WAS your friend. But be sure to tell her that you really don't know why all of a sudden she needs your help and tell her it hurt you when she just disappeared like that. That's what I would do because I was in that postion before and I just told her it hurt and she appoligised and now we are still good friends!
2007-03-28 09:56:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how tough this situation can be, but yeah I'd still be there 'cause I'm nice like that :)
Often friends can be unintentionally shunted when a new lover comes into play, and I'm sorry to hear you're at the receiving end, but stick by her - one day you may need her help.
2007-03-28 09:57:52 · answer #5 · answered by FuzzyCloud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm.. ok, If you're asking what I'd do, hmmm well I'd tell her, "go ask HIM for help, you didn't need me before" otherwise she'll just think that she can do it again, and will. And when she tries to talk to me about it, than I'll tell her what she did while she was with him, and we'll think of something together. And she would probably apologise and say she won't do it again, and than I would see what happens next time she gets a boyfriend, and if it happens again, I'll be offff!
2007-03-28 10:11:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As tough as it may seem at first, you were/are once her friend. Friends are there for support, and she needs you. But make sure you explain to her about how you feel, and that it isn't fair for her to blow you off for some guy, and then come back to you when it is convienent. She needs you, and if it were you in the same situation, how would you feel?
2007-03-28 09:58:49 · answer #7 · answered by raiyn4502 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to tell you the truth girls tend to do this alot.when she gets a fella she kind of forgets about you but you have to understand theres hardly time for another person when a relationship begins coz people want to send time tegether all the time.give your friendship another try but be ready to walk away incase she gets a new fella.
2007-03-28 19:55:38 · answer #8 · answered by carrot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men will come and go, but friends are always yours.
She may have neglected you for a while, but she needs you. And I'm sure you would need her if it was the other way round. If she hasn't been a good friend, then demonstrate what one is by being there for her, at least you know you were always there.
2007-03-28 14:23:05 · answer #9 · answered by ButterflyQueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would be there for her.
She was probably so in love with this guy that it was just him and her in this little bubble of love... If that makes sense o_o
I think now he's split with her, she realises that there are more important people that she left behind, and she was stupid to ever forget you!
I think you should forgive her, you never know, maybe her boyfriend persuaded her to spend all her spare time with him and no-one else.
2007-03-28 09:57:59 · answer #10 · answered by Neffy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about your relationship. Deep down you know if someone's a user but sometimes you just ignore that fact because you haven't experienced a situation (like what happened) with them. Make a judgement on if you see them as a real long term friend.
2007-03-28 09:57:56 · answer #11 · answered by D.W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋