Do you think that we should get married?

Question

Me and my girlfriend wants to get married in 2 years. Right now I'm 18 and she's 19. I will be 21 and she will be 21 too. We have known each other for about 2 years now and have been going together for about almost a year. We both come from different worlds. She's white and I'm black. To see a pic of her you can go to http://www.myspace.com/bigcheweyme... and she is my first friend on there. I love her so much. What do you think. Should we get married or should we wait.

Please mature answers please or you will get reported.
Thanks in advance.

I'm not trying to make the black/white thing an issue. I still love her no matter what. She means everything to me and I told her that I wanted to wait at least until I'm finacially stable.

Answer 1

I am glad that this hasn't been turned into a racial issue. But I believe the fact that you are on here asking our opinions should tell you that you have doubts about marrying right now. I believe you should wait until you both turn 21 and then you will have time on your side. If you are still together at the end of two years plus the year you have dated then chances are alot better that you have found your soul mate. Good Luck.

Answer 2

You have a unique problem in that you both need to talk about children as they will mixed, if your families are OK with it. And lets not forget the general public. Love does concurs all, if your both in it to win it.

Having said that If your in school finish if your not start, the both of you. Get that outta the way first.

You'll not see financial security without an education for a better paying job.

That way neither of you feel your being taken advantage of, even if it means night school.

If you get married unprepared, I won't say it can't be done, but why add that extra stress about low paying dead end jobs.

Use your youth to your advantage, grab all the knowledge while your young. before you get drug down by life, trust me you'll both be thanking me.

Then you can afford the ring, wedding and life you both deserve.

But what do I know, Hope this helps, email me if you need

Answer 3

You are too young to make such a decision.Colors could never be an issue you are a man and a woman that love each other but consider this twice before doing something so serious.
People grow up and change.You will change too sometime,it's how things are you can't avoid this.
I am with my bf 5 years and I'm 22 years old I really want one day to get married with him but I think its too early we are too immature to decide I don't want to regret it one day.
It's your life you are talking about do not ever take it without a serious thought.I hope you and your gf be together for ever, but you must have patience.

Answer 4

You will know if it's right for you when the time comes. 2 years is a long ways away and anything can happen in that time. Also remember that either one of you could change direction in that time and want different things. Just make sure you're both on the same page.

All the best

Answer 5

Good answer. Wait until you are financially stable. Wait, wait, wait. 21 is even a little young. See how things go for another couple of years and then possibly get into a long engagement.

Answer 6

First sweetie love real and true is color blind. That said I believe you should wait to get married.However you can purchase a promise ring .That way when you both are financially stable you can marry.2 years is not long but you'll both need an income.And the ability to get and keep a place of your own. Good Luck

Answer 7

I think you should get married for sure! :) My husband and I got married when we were 18 and 19 years old. We dated for 3 years before we got married. Everyone thought we were too young be we have been married for over 1 year now and still going strong. Don't let anyone talk you out of it. Just make sure that you make enough money so that you don't argue over that.

Answer 8

I'm in love with someone myself, and i've had many problems from poeple around me including my parents, but i've learnt to deal with my own issues and not to listen to someone else, i listen to my parents ofcourse but i try not to let their opinion affect me. I'm engaged to him now and we'll be married in 2 years. listen, don't let poeple put you down if this is the issue. I don't think the black/white thing is a problem at all. you just need to make sure that you truly love eachother, and that you'll sacrafice things for eachother. thats what marriage is all about anyway, and being black or white isn't gonna affect it, unless one of u has some rasicm issues. you said u plan to get married in 2 years so you both still have time to think about it. just don't worry and don't depend on poeple to tell you what to do..depend on what YOU think is good for you.

Answer 9

i became engaged at the same time as i became 24 and married at the same time as i became 26 Our wedding ceremony hues were a lightweight peach and chocolate brown We each and each had our brothers as witnesses (2 complete), it became a very small wedding ceremony (14 human beings were there consisting of us and our reverend) Our reception became held a month after our wedding ceremony, and we did no longer have assigned seating, maximum human beings did not sit, it became a dinner celebration We had a small chocolate cake and then a form of cakes for human beings to be sure, i imagine there have been 5 different selections We went to Maui for 2 weeks We were given married in Gleneden coastline, OR, a tiny city on the coast, only exterior of Lincoln city

Answer 10

Why are you rushing into marriage? The perspective marriage date isn't for 2 more years. A lot can happen in 2 years. Just go with the flow and stop stressing about something that isn't gonna happen for a couple more years.