Ok so here is my situation.
Ex and I broke up 4 months ago after she admitted shecheated on me and didn't want to hurt me anymore. At first like most I was heartbroken (first true love) and angry. I was angry that it happened after I was a great bf.
Anyway by the 3rd month it wasn't too bad. She would contact me once every 3 weeks or so but while I was still a little upset, I didn't truly want to get back together with her. Three weeks ago she messaged me online and we talked and she said I had the nicest lips and that I was a very good kisser (y i don't know?) and that she would "whistle" if I was in the hall of her dorm (she is away at school).
After that I for some reason wondered if she wanted to get back together. Inmy head i didn't but my heart still feels void. Today she called and we talked and I found out she has been (slept) with a guy friend who she likes and may date. (he 19 her 21).
In my head I guess I thought something may happen but it hurts to hear.
2007-03-28 09:49:11 · 8 answers · asked by CJ B 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
While I knew she would eventually find someone, its hard to deal with hearing it. For some reason I think because she was my first love I held out hope that we may get back together even though I knew that the person she had become I was not in love with.
My problem is that I have been so down lately and this has just kicked me while I was down. See I'm a good guy (I like to think) and am caring and sweet but also very shy and have only ever had two gf's and asked those two out. Never asked anyone else out.
I am in that "am i going to end up forever stage" and am not quite sure what to do.
Anyone have any suggestions on where I might be able to meet someone nice, either in person or online, or what I should do.
My friends are all in relationships and I don't go to school anymore so its not easy to really meet people. I met my first gf at school and second online.
Any ideas or suggestions would help.
2007-03-28 09:52:26 · update #1
I understand how you feel. She may be doing that to see if you have feelings for her. I know I am guilty of telling my ex what I missed about him and talking about other guys just to see if I got a reaction. If she cheated on you she doesn't deserve a great guy like you. Find someone who will appreciate it!!!! As far as finding someone, I found my prince charming on yahoo personals. I was really against looking online for someone but one friend talked me into it and I did end up going on some dates with some losers but in the end I found the man of my dreams and we're engaged. Take a look at whats there, who knows, you make luck out too!! (But be careful of the scary people!) Good luck!! Trust me, not all nice guys finish last!!!!
2007-03-28 09:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in your position before. I dated someone off and on for about 10 years and was my first love. We talked about getting married and everyone expected it to happen. But towards the end of the relationship he was going to see his grandmother (very close with his grandma) a little more and more. Later to find out that there was a girl that he was seeing that actually lived by his grandmother. Well that kinda broke everything off. It took me a good couple of years to get over him. He was my life I didn't know where to go. Then one day we had a long conversation about how we felt and why we did the things that we did and on my drive home I realized that I still loved him but no longer was IN love with him. Even though this was 5 years ago and now I am happily married and wouldn't change a thing in my life, I still love and care for him. That person is your first love and always will be. Take it as a learning experience that you can carry to a new relationship.
You wanted to know where you can find someone who would be good for you. Well about 6 or 7 months after everything happened I went to Yahoo Personals. I met my husband there and we couldn't be happier. We have been together for 4 years now and have a daughter and trying for the second one. I say give yahoo a try, its worth it. There is no face to face rejections and you can choose who you would like to talk to. Good Luck and don't worry things will look up for you, just give it time.
2007-04-05 04:37:26 · answer #2 · answered by Kcreek820 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, CJ since you helped me answer my question, I'll try to help you with yours. It seems to me that this ex-gf is not a nice person. I mean if she cheated on you, then that's probably not the kind of person you would want in your life. My advice would be move on. Obviously, she already did if she already slept with some other guy. I know breaks up are hard, trust me. You will get over her though. Honestly, no contact with her would probably be the best thing for you right now. That's what I did anyways. Just curious, how long were yall together? Well, I hope this helps out somewhat. If you want to talk more you can email me.
2007-03-28 10:27:38 · answer #3 · answered by Sammy12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are your hobbies? That can be a great way to find someone of similar interests. I'd suggest dancing (and not clubbing, actual dancing) if you have any rhythm. There are a lot of girls that'll lose their heart over someone who can sweep them off their feet literally. Do be careful of online dating. My husband and I met over okcupid, but we both had gone through a series of really bad relationships through online dating before meeting each other. A lot of predators and leeches lurk online, but if you're careful and cautious you can end out all right and find a lasting love. As for getting past the hurt, all I can say is find something you love to do. For me, after broken hearts I would bury myself into books and read novel after novel until the pain was dulled. I've known people that had luck with exercise to move their minds forward, but I think anything psychological or mental works best.
2007-03-28 10:04:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um well from my point of view if she did it ounce shell do it again sorry... But its hard to get over your first love and there are other fish in the sea. Keep your chin up! you never know the women of your dreams might be just around the next corner.!
2007-03-28 09:55:12 · answer #5 · answered by cassie t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world would you want to reunite with somebody who could cheat on you "when a more desirable prospect comes along?"
Let her date whoever she wants....and find yourself a woman who knows the meaning of the words: HONESTY & FIDELITY!
2007-04-05 08:34:08 · answer #6 · answered by argytunes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey. Forget abt her... if she is really true to you, she will not do things behind you.. U r still young, concentrate on your studies, u wil find your true love... Find someone who can really appreciate your love to her...
2007-04-05 02:11:56 · answer #7 · answered by doraemon11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not give her the chance to hurt you again.I know it hurts but that perfect angel is waiting for you.Go find her.
2007-04-03 15:03:32 · answer #8 · answered by Billy T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋