I few weeks ago my boyfriend and I had this serious dicussion. Before that we were having pity arguements and they only happen when we was apart (in a long distance realtionship), but when we together everything is cool breeze. The discussion was why we dont do the things we use to do and whats going on with us? We realize that we are matureing and now we dont have that love we started with. Our love is more practical, like your parents love. I guess we been through so much together we grew up out of that faze and making sure we work. In my mind thats a good thing, because we are more in love and understand each other now better than ever before. We are slowly changing, but for the better.
Now here's the question; did/has that happen to you?
2007-03-28 09:44:15 · 9 answers · asked by Miss Keys 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah that definitely can happen. As you mature you have to adapt to each other's changes. My boyfriend & I went through a long period of long-distance (which is not fun at all!) But we got through it, and that definitely made us stronger & love each other more. So stick through it! It's ok for your love for each other to change in different ways, as long as you're open with each other & have good communication. It's good that you realize the changes. :)
2007-03-28 09:53:38 · answer #1 · answered by blondie22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once read a article in a Medical Magazine. That when we have a new relationship and fall madly in love. We first have the pure lust phase. This phase last longer for some couples than others. But the second phase is we are still in love and enjoy our time with our partner but the lust is over. This is hormonal. We have our jobs, children, family. If we continued in the first phase our relationships could not grow. This is all part of a healthy relationship. I am sorry I don't remember all the details it was a few years ago when I read the article but I have all ways remembered this it explained a lot to me and helped me understand relationships better.
2007-03-28 10:00:52 · answer #2 · answered by Janst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it did. I have been married for a little less then a year but been with my husband for 6 years and it has definitely changed. Of course you won't feel the same as you did in the beginning because a lot of that was based on Lust, Fun and Attraction and not actual love. Now you are in a different place with each other and as long as you're both happy and it works for you then you should be fine just make sure you don't take eachother for granted....and always have hot date nights!
2007-03-28 09:53:17 · answer #3 · answered by Sara M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cpl here
we'd like to say that this did happen to us but we rekindled things with each other bc we sat down and talked things out and wondered how we could do things differntly so we could be like the cpl that we once were before and the best adivce to u from us is do the stuff that u all use to do when you werent living togeather we were n a long distance realtionship as well and it was very tough but we pulled thru
just always rember the key word toany realtionship is communcation
2007-03-28 09:52:09 · answer #4 · answered by Angie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have been with someone for 14 years and i can say my or our love did not per say changed it has become stronger and i can say for the first time in my life that when it's real you don't see or feel change you grow in your relationship together and when you look at them when you wake up in the morning and thank god you have another day with them you know everything is right. in 14 years i have never been called a bad name or yelled at or even made to feel anything but love comfort and the best person that could ever happen to me and finally we married last week,
2007-03-28 10:12:37 · answer #5 · answered by PAULINA S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a good relationship the love just gets deeper and more important and special as the time goes by.
That's why I have a problem with people saying they love each other after only knowing each other a very short time.
2007-03-28 09:50:21 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it does because all of romance comes from when you are so excited just getting to know the man and wondering what will happen next. It all settles down and you get comfortable but that isn't a bad thing unless you make it a bad thing.
2007-03-28 09:49:49 · answer #7 · answered by Annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, and I don't like it one little bit. I didn't know being a step-"kinda"-parent would be so hard, cause I'm not allowed to have any say in his kids; I didn't know I had to share him with his ex wife cause she calls about EVERYTHING; I didn't know how much I enjoyed owning my own home, with just me and four kids; I didn't know he wouldn't like my two older boys being there just because they graduated high school; I didn't know I would begin to wish I was still single.
2007-03-28 09:56:13 · answer #8 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean that happens to relationships after a while, especially long distance.
2007-03-28 09:51:47 · answer #9 · answered by ann marie m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋