Ok. in December i moved 3,000 miles away from home with my boyfriend for better job opportunities. he was promised a job by a friend that would pay atleast $20 an hour. well that really didnt work out. im 29 weeks pregnant and have nothing for the baby. he just got a new job making 12 dollars an hour which really sucks compared to 20. we want to go back home but we need new tires for the car ($200) and all of our bills are behind. i would like to know if we should wait till the baby is born or if we should just pack up and go now?? please help
2007-03-28 09:39:23 · 12 answers · asked by kimmy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Things like moving will only get more difficult and more stressful after the baby comes. If you are going to go anyway, go now. Also, if you can't keep up on bills with just 2 there, it will get worse when you add a 3rd. Good Luck
2007-03-28 09:46:15 · answer #1 · answered by First Time Momma 7/26/07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As uncomfortable as travel is while pregnant, and difficult on the financial side, if you can at all move now I would. Travel by car with a baby that far is going to be a nightmare.
On the flip side, any chance he'll get a better paying job in the immediate future? Baby stuff for the first few months isn't very expensive - it's all the frills that are. Breastfeed, second hand clothes, second hand swing, cheap bassinet instead of crib, second hand blankets. Diapers on sale. It's do-able low budget, but not really in a negative cash flow situation like it sounds like you have.
2007-03-28 16:47:33 · answer #2 · answered by melanie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are already there, and you too did the effort to go there, its better if you stay, and start to buy things for your baby, or also you may start to make connections to go back to your place, or find him a job, BEFORE you leave, so you will know you all will have an opportunity to stay better, the thing is stop making bad moves, since you are going to have a baby, you have to think to stay in a place and start a new life.
2007-03-28 16:49:28 · answer #3 · answered by Minnie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call your doctor, moving may be too traumatic for the baby right now, your doctor will tell you. I also want to inform you that there is a site www.freecycle.org. It is a site that you can request free items from others in your area. It may help get you some things you need. Also churches, if you are religious or not, won't turn down a pregnant woman.
2007-03-28 16:45:32 · answer #4 · answered by Spring loaded horsie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have family that can help at home then I would ask my doctor if it is safe first then decide you need to remember that being that far along there aren't many doctors who will take you as a new patient you need to check into that too. Do what is safest and best for you baby and yourself. Good luck I hope all works out for you.
2007-03-28 16:46:10 · answer #5 · answered by mominla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would pack up and go home now. I think it would be easier to do BEFORE the baby comes. Besides, if you're back at home you may have a much better support system (friends and family).
2007-03-28 16:43:21 · answer #6 · answered by LittleRoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are definitely in a rough spot. If you don't want to move right now please check into organizations in your area that might be able to help provide things for you and your baby. You can get diapers, clothes or food vouchers from lots of places and most are confidential.
2007-03-28 16:44:57 · answer #7 · answered by maria_margaret 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go home now!!! Being around family will lessen some of the new baby stress.
2007-03-28 17:07:02 · answer #8 · answered by byou2fulone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will suggest to pack up now instead of waiting because it would be harder to leave everything for last and when the baby is born its a lot of work to be done.....
2007-03-28 16:44:29 · answer #9 · answered by sexxy mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
packup and go honey once that babby is born it's going to put a whole lot more stress for the two of you.
GOOD LUCK
2007-03-28 16:53:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋