Why is that it is so easy to give advice but not accept and apply our own?? Why do u think that is?

Question

isn't it funny that many of times when we come in a problem, we are so quick to give advice, that when the same problem comes our way we feel like the world will fall apart?


&just wanting to get into your head please don't be rude

Answer 1

Very good question! I have a problem with this myself sometimes. I think it is just because it is easy to say "YOU need to change." but when it comes to "IIIII need to change" We're like...Oh no. We're all afraid of change, we like the familiar...even if it isn't the right thing to do. Telling others to do something with their life, and not truely caring if they do it or not is different than making ourselves becoms something more. Eh :]

Answer 2

A good solution and applying necessary changes is two issues.Its more easy see the solution then actually do a change which is in turn is dependent on if you
are ready to change status quo, or not.
An this applies whether you give a advice or got one-

its never clever give a advice to fast to person, even worse is applying own solutions or persuade,in most cases the answers is in the head the person, with more or less help with reflection - only the person who need a change knows ALL relevant facts.

Answer 3

I think its easier for an individual not directly involved to make an observation forming a Conclusion from a third party state of mind. Its confidence building to convey a logical and sensible remark or statement especially when there is nothing to lose, or gain. Sometimes its a way to receive attention and to express oneself's view indiscriminately. To impress maybe with the ability to derive a logical explanation for something. To help someone make a decision or to hear themselves talk. The answers are quite endless.

Answer 4

When you look at someone else's problem, you can see it objectively and clearly. When it comes to your own stuff, feelings get in the way. In addition, you know all the nuances of your own stuff.

When someone talks to you about their problems, you know they're going to present it to you in such a way that you will give the answer they want. For example, "My husband is such a jerk. He looks at other women, has cheated on my 10 times and he hits me."

What do they want to hear? LEAVE HIM!!!

When you're "talking to yourself" about a similar situation, you're weighing everything. You're thinking, "But we have kids together" or whatever. Emotions get in the way.

That's why it's easier to be objective with others but not ourselves. We usually know what's right and wrong but it is SO hard to actually take action.

Sometimes the problems of others look so black and white.

Answer 5

because the most hardest thing in the world is understanding ourselves from our own observation, the biggest chatterbox in the world that doesn't stop talking to you is YOU, thats the complication. with others its easier to understand them and quick to give them advice because we cannot hear the in depth detail in their head the way we do.

Answer 6

well it depends who you are refering to doesn't it?
most (or a lot of women ) can accept advise cant we
its the male who is good at dishing out advice & he cant take advice himself especially from a woman
& yes when we give advice when people are hurting etc its more or less like a comfort thing isn't it ?

Answer 7

because we can often see from the outside, to assist someone with a problem is always a noble cause, we can see things that they overlook, but I agree with you, I cant solve my own and most of the time I make things worse for myself

Answer 8

It's easier to examine others than it is to examine ourselves.