I am afraid, we will end up in a divorce. There are several reasons that it's not working for me and it is not a surprise the way I feel for my spouse. Anyway, his family have always been great to me since I moved here from another country. Suppose, one of the reasons I am not in a rush to separate now is that I am afraid I would loose them and they will hate me. His mom went to study my language even... I would like to know how did your x-spouses' family reacted?
2007-03-28 09:27:57 · 14 answers · asked by Alyssa Macey 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They pretty much stuck their heads in the sand when it came to her affair, entertaining the other man in their home over holidays while we were still married.
So, even though she had the affair, they sided with her and accepted her broken vow and the married OM as O.K.
2007-03-28 09:33:22 · answer #1 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, let me tell you. I am in my first month of Divorce, and everything has changed. We own a home, vehicles, etc. About 600k worth of "stuff". Her mom was so obcessed with me, always telling me how great i was, etc. etc. we were like best friends. her stepdad was my buddy and we shared stories and beer all the time. well, we have been married 3 years, and Basically we were too different for each other. I couldnt take it anymore, and so we decided to divorce. Well, I will admit its 90% me and 10% her. I dont like being married. sorry. my bad. Antways, back to your question. Neither of her parents have spoken to me since the day they found out. Her mom always brought over Valentines bags full of goodies for all of us, me, my wife and her two girls. Well i got home from work and neatly aligned on the table were the Valentine bags. Guess who didnt get one? Right then and there I knew i was on my own. It is NOW me against them. I am living in the garage and motels. all our photos together have left the walls of our home. Her REAL dad from L.A., a rich man, Has retained her an attorney. I tis now me -vs- wife, two girls, mom, dad, and stepdad. not to mention a gazillion cousins. The only family I have is my Mom and Dad, who live in Oregon, and my Son who just got married and left for his dutie station with the Coast Guard. I am ALONE, fighting for something. Also, when we married, we just added my name to her bank accounts, so she was Primary account holder. I made 20k more a year than her, but that doesnt matter. She took my name off all the accounts. I have access to no funds at all. My parents live on retirement. I am sitting here typing this in a motel 6 as we speak. her and the kids are in our450k home watching our plasma t.v. and relaxing in our spa. So let me tell you this. Theres a whole hell of a lot more to divorcing, than worrying about the parents. I am on the verge of going insane. I am depressed 100% of the time. I cry spontaniously. If our parents would of never gotten involved, It would of been so much easier. I will sit alone, in this crappy motel tonight, and i will cry. So I say SCREW THE PARENTS! BUT, please, please, make sure this is what you want. Because this is truly is HELL....................
2007-03-28 16:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by Paybackisamofo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont have an ex, but my spouses is the godfather to his ex`s sisters daughter. And he doesnt get to see her much anymore because of the divorce. But they seem to have a good relationship when he does get to see him (the sister and him that is)
His family sounds very sweet, and his mother like a dream mother in law. Maybe you should be honest with them before you guys get divorced (with your husbands permission atleast) and tell them your going through a rough time, and really appreciate everything they have done for you. And no matter what happens you hope you guys can still be friends, because you do consider them family. And the rest is up to them.
But staying together with your husband because you like his family is not a good reason, but maybe you should work on it extra hard, Its really hard to find good in laws!!
2007-03-28 16:33:26 · answer #3 · answered by Zenthae 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They blamed me, I actually got hate mail from his closest sister, etc. However, that was because he told a bunch of lies about why we were splitting. He did not want to take any blame so made up stories... to save face i suppose... that's what he says now anyways...
His mom was always kind of nice though about it... we still talked and I sent cards for birthdays, etc...
It gets harder though the more bitter the divorce is... so just split without it getting out of hand, fighting, and bitterness... and maybe you can all still be friends...
2007-03-28 16:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by Steffi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my ex inlaws were also wonderful and great to me. They were there for me more then my family sometimes and much more then he was there for me in the important times. And although we are still nice to each other and exchange phone calls from time to time. It is not at all the way it was. I dont think it is bad.... but just not the same. But that is expected.... Although all familys are different and it may also matter how everything plays in.... why, how, what.... and so on.
2007-03-28 16:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by ww99709 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex's family was very sad we were breaking up, and they said they would love me like a daughter always. They knew he was cheating, they tried to convince me to take him back. I said I would if he changed his ways, but the proof was in the pudding, he could not see the error of his ways. This was many years ago, and we have all been amicable towards each other since. His mother loved me with all her heart, and I miss her so much. It was not their fault he was the way he was. Extend the hand of friendship to them, and if they love you and care for you they will accept your offer to remain friends.
2007-03-28 16:36:22 · answer #6 · answered by Maria A. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Those who liked me in the first place were great and still are 8 years later. There was his mom who was a jerk and I expected nothing less. Ironically, it is her son she stays mad at all the time now. Best of luck to you though.
2007-03-28 16:37:16 · answer #7 · answered by caraanne2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering that my ex-mother-in-law was the main reason we divorced, I would say she was probably over joyed that we were divorcing.
Yep. I lost over 250 unwanted pounds in one day when I divorced him and his mommy.
It sounds like you have a very good relationship with your in-laws and I seriously doubt they would hate you for any reason.
2007-03-28 16:34:09 · answer #8 · answered by Ella 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex's family is from Hawaii and I had only met them twice in the 10 years we were married, so I'm not sure if they even gave a flying crap to be honest.
2007-03-28 16:30:54 · answer #9 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have tried to be a good wife and they know it, they shouldn't misjudge you. If they know your husband is the one who has a problem or is the one not making an effort to save the relationship, hopefully they won't be too mean towards you.
Try to be honest with them if you have the chance.
But you shouldn't expect them to act the same towards you, because obviously their blood is your husband, not you.
Good luck.
2007-03-28 16:36:09 · answer #10 · answered by Nena S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋