He wants to terminate his rights to get out of paying child support, both he and his mom wanted me to terminate and as they said "get rid of this kid"! He also had a party at our house where I found a bunch of stuff including condoms, candy thongs, booze we don't drink! I am hurt beyond belief! I am 22 also and I am giving my baby every chance. The thing is he makes a good living! Any advice please?!
2007-03-28 09:25:29 · 14 answers · asked by . 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell him that you'll see him in court. He can't impregnate you and just leave as if nothing happened.
2007-03-28 09:28:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
.I'm not a lawyer, but I'll bet there are some legal answers to the support questions.
On an emotional level, I think you and your new baby are much better off without this JERK (and his 'jerk mom!) in your lives!
I know you are very hurt right now, but keep your head! This hurt will eventually fade away. You have to be strong.
Find a place with a relative, a friend, some place safe to get through the pregnancy and have the baby. Work as long as you can and live frugally. Save all you can!
Call 'Family Services' or get on the Internet and do research. There are thousands of women who find themselves pregnant by a creep...every year. Sad...but true. There has to be answers in 'cyber-space'!
You can turn this around! Stay on the pill! Do not get pregnant again until you are 40!
You got caught up with a loser...walk away quietly. No name calling, no scene. He and his mother will stick together and create more misery for you. Just leave.
If you do know of an attorney, give him a quick call. good luck!
2007-03-28 09:49:53 · answer #2 · answered by Eve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live together, kick his *** out!! You dont need that behavior around a baby!
Talk to a family lawer about this. Just because he terminates his rights doesnt mean he doesnt have to pay child support. If he IS the father, he has to pay you monthly. An if he makes a good living, thats all the more money for your baby.
Get him away frmo you. Hes a jerk and doesnt deserve you.
Go get a place on your own or with your parents or a good friend. Have the baby, and either give it for adoption or raise it on your own.
Either way, your life is better WITHOUT him in it.
2007-03-28 09:39:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change him or make him grow up. I am sorry that things didn't turn out the way you had hoped.
Since you are going to have your baby it is time to focus on what's best for the baby. Establish a home and hire an attorney and establish child support and the payment of medical bills beginning immediately at birth. He cannot terminate his parental rights to get out of paying child support. It's not an option.
Move on - you'll be fine and you will have learned a lot from this situation.
2007-03-28 09:30:29 · answer #4 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can say and do plenty! Take him to court and sue his despicable sorry hide for all he is worth and for all that you rightfully have coming to you. He got you pregnant and now he wants you to abort this helpless child? That makes him the lowest form of life on earth crawling around in his cesspool of his own selfish irresponsible demands. His mommy isn't much better than him for endorsing this debased action; she's just as big of a scum hole as he is.
He says he isn't ready? Well he was more than ready to have sex with you so now he better get good and ready very quickly whether he likes it or not. Since he makes a good living that's all the better for you so don't cave into any of his, or his mother's, demands and don't take any of their stinking filthy abuse. Make him step up and pay through nose and see that he keeps on paying for as long as he is legally responsible to do so. While you are at it, think of getting away from him and try to be with someone who can help take care of you because it's certain that he isn't concerned about what is in your best interests. In the meantime tell him tell him the party is over and there will be no more of that debauchery happening under your roof. You're more than justified in wanting to have and give this child every chance that you both deserve. But since he is so morally inept and wants no part of his responsibilities doesn't mean that you have to settle for less than what you are entitled to. So pull out all the stops and use anything and everything that is at your disposal to insure that you and your unborn child are able to have a good and decent life for yourselves; a life that doesn't include being stepped on by such a self serving mommy boy who's only desire is to run away and hide like a coward.
2007-03-28 10:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for him. You should have kept your legs closed or been on some form of birth control. Now your pregnant and your kid is going to suffer the consequences of your actions. You can't blame "the guy" because your pregnant. Walk away and live to love someone else. He doesn't want you or the baby you choose to have. At least to his credit, he realized his limitations. Did you think having a kid would make him love you more. Did you think having a kid would keep him with you. Stupid girl. Don't raise your kid to think like you or you will end up raising a kid who will perpetuate your ridiculous mistakes and then blame some one else for them.
2007-03-28 09:41:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not his choice to give or not give child support. He already made his choice when he slept with you! Knowing that it COULD result in a pregnancy. It is his choice however, to be or not to be in his child's life. It is YOUR choice to have this child or not. It sound like you already have made your choice of keeping your baby...good for you. You will not regret it. It will be the most rewarding experience of your life...with or without a baby daddy. A lot of women have done this and so can you. Contact a lawyer. Unless your loser boyfriend quits his job...he has to pay child support.
2007-03-28 09:37:02 · answer #7 · answered by pride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl if he is the father then he has to give some money up i mean how is he not going to even care.if he does not want to have no realationship with the baby then he has to give some money up.because you will be the only one taking care of the baby and you would have to work and make money and that will be hard to do all by your self.you should go to school and get educated and find yourself a man that wont chicken out and will love him as if he was his child.
2007-03-28 09:34:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and the baby have rights...he can still terminate his rights to seeing the child that you have no control over it's his choice....and his loss if he decides to do so......but for the child support...it is the baby's right and his responsibility to provide support........you should talk to a lawyer see what can be done.........tough place to be in hopefully it works out for the best
2007-03-28 09:31:48 · answer #9 · answered by mystic_whispers_of_my_soul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to court and make him pay child support what you are doing is right he is the one acting like a jerk and i really think what you are doing is so brave
i admire you for it and he needs to pay child support so dont get rid of the baby but do get rid of him except for his money
2007-03-28 09:32:25 · answer #10 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say anything, it's just as much your fault as his. You are the one who decided to make a baby with a cheating loser, what should he say to you?
If you want the child, let your lawyer do the talking. Forget him is the best thing you can do, that and make better choices in life partners.
2007-03-28 09:32:18 · answer #11 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋