A little background: In 2000, I left my husband because of repeated domestic violence, In 2002 our divorce was complete during those two years I was repeatedly harassed, threatened, and mentally harmed by him and his parents. In 2005, I took the ex back to court for a modification and again was assaulted by the ex and his father with threats to myself, my children, my fiance, my employment, and anything else you can imagine. The modification was complete in 2006. Now today, I have received yet more threats from the ex's father, threats of arrest, of taking my children away from me now that my ex is getting remarried, threats to my employment, threats to my wellbeing etc., I mean my God it's seven bloody years later and that old b@$tard is still doing this, I finally got smart and filed charges against him today. He is such an idiot, he called me at work and left a vile and threatening voicemail which has helped me to press charges, is every post divorce this bad or am I just lucky
2007-03-28 09:23:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No. Why did you put up with his verbal abuse for so long? Still want to be the victim? I will share this with you - you will always be the victim until YOU decide to stop being the victim. I guess you finally got tired enough to finally do what needed to be done years ago.
I would suggest some counseling for you as the chance of finding another relationship like this one is high unless you can figure out what it is you are doing to yourself.
This may sound harsh but it isn't meant to be. It's meant to help you stop making the same mistake over and over. It starts with you. And you are worth the time and money it takes to attend therapy until some issues are resolved in your life.
2007-03-28 09:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is supposed to be an end to all the problems that you had with the other person and his family. I have been divorced since 1998 and thank God I don't have to go through that anymore. I had threats made to me while I was married. Your not lucky and not every divorce is like that.
2007-03-28 16:56:49 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not all. But I am very concerned about your safety. I would pick up an move. Put some miles between yall. And apply for the right to hide. Meaning your information will never be given out. You may even qualify for a name change for you and your children.
Let me know how you are.
Good Luck!
2007-03-28 16:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex wife harrassed the daylights out of me after the separation. She would come to my apt and beat on the door so loud that other tenants would come outside to see what was going on.
Finally I went to the DA about it and had to take legal action.
Some people go biserk after a divorce/separation. Even only in boyfriend/girlfriend type relationship.
People simply flip out.
2007-03-28 16:39:33 · answer #4 · answered by James R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, unfortunately you are living the worst case scenario and for that I am sorry. I'm very proud of you that you are pressing charges and I hope you follow thru with them. Sounds like your ex-father in law deserves the same. Stay strong, as you clearly are, and hopefully things will calm down.
2007-03-28 16:29:23 · answer #5 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
unless you share custody of the kids I would save and look for a job else where. they never have to know. I know my ex and I still to this day hate one another.
2007-03-28 16:34:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No hun, they are not all like this. Get a restraining order on grandpa! He has no right to even be involved!
2007-03-28 16:28:15 · answer #7 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know *drags leg behind her as she hobbles over* we can be hired for..riddance.
2007-03-28 16:33:06 · answer #8 · answered by Becky: Caffiene Achiever 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋