i believe one should wait untill marriage for sex. do you agree? i think you should because
(A) the bible commands you should (so that the bed can be undefiled)
(B) your sex life will be so much bettter when your married cause there will be no thoughts like "well he/she was better. . . "
(C) STDs
(D) you should be able to control your body, and not be a mindless animal
do you agree??
2007-03-28 09:22:24 · 24 answers · asked by SwordDancer 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I agree. And, my wife and I both waited. It's something special. And, you should treat it so, not give it away like free samples at the grocery store.
2007-03-28 09:26:24 · answer #1 · answered by aj1964 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I must say I disagree. Sex has very little to do with marriage. In western culture, we have been taught that one of the reasons for marriage is to legitimize sex. As in, pre-marital sex in inherrently immoral. I don't believe this is true. Marriage is a legal institution which serves a range of purposes in our society. I don't believe wrangling our guilt regarding sex and our own bodies should be one of them.
Allow me to address your reasons:
A) I am not a christian, so I feel no need to try to live by the Bible's teachings. I'm not saying its teachings are wrong, just that I refuse to use the Bible as supporting evidence for or against any behavior.
B) I don't believe this to be the case. It's been my experience that no one is really "good in bed." Rather, myself and woman A might be rather sexually compatible, while myself and woman B might not. Even if this is the case, two adults are certainly capable of learning over time what his/her partner likes in bed, and adapting technique to accomodate.
C) Again, any reasonably intelligent adult is capable of taking steps to avoid STDs. Two people who love each other are perfectly capable of refraining from going outside the relationship. Marriage does not make this any more or less difficult.
D) Having sex before marriage does not make one a mindless animal. As human beings, we are 50% divine beings (for lack of any better term), and 50% animal. I believe that, for each of us, we live up to our greatest potential when we embrace both sides of our nature, rather than deny one or the other. Our bodies and minds are effected by sex in ways that doctors and psychologists are still struggling to understand. Our bodies really do require it. We can of course survive without it, but as adults our bodies are built with sex in mind, and can become unbalanced when it is absent for a long period of time. I'm sure you wouldn't argue that consuming vitamin C is meant only to be done within marriage.
2007-03-28 16:45:40 · answer #2 · answered by yossarius 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What does "the bed undefiled" mean? Sounds like a touch of nonsense to me. How the heck do you figure your sex life will be better when you go into the marriage bed without a clue as to what to do? STDs are easily avoidable - very easily! And who are you to call another an animal? How dare you! That's the sin of self-righteousness, and that's one of the deadly sins. You take your twisted, soulless ideas on human sexuality and go away - far, far away!
2007-03-28 16:30:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I don't think the bible commanding you should be a reason that everyone in this world has to wait until marriage for sexual intercourse.
I think, if you are ready for sex, mature enough, careful, use protection, and be SMART about it; you should be able to do as you please.
By the way, I'm 18 years old and I am a virgin. By choice. Not for the sake of any religion, or lack of people wanting to have sex with me.
2007-03-28 16:28:31 · answer #4 · answered by ♦ Tiff ♦ 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
If you can then it probably be a better idea. you list some good points above. but there are some neg points that are not listed, such as you can also feel that you have missed out with other people. if she is willing to pleasure you the way you like. these are some things to think about. But i don't think is right to call others mindless animals. look all people are not religious and do not have the same feeling you and I do. but we should not insult them just because there views are different then ours
2007-03-28 16:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by whynot 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If I agree with you then that would make me a hyprocite. Being that I can't control myself I will have to disagree with you. But more power to anyone that can wait until marriage.
2007-03-28 16:44:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, not at all because
A) Not everyone believes in the teachings of the Bible (me included)
B) Only insecure people worry about that
C) You can get a STD from your husband/wife, especially if they stray
D) Just because you don't wait, doesn't mean you do it mindlessly!
You are making a lot of assumptions which just apply in certain cases, not the majority of them!
2007-03-28 16:33:45 · answer #7 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I beg to disagree...
a) I don't care what your book commands me to do, and I don't feel that sex "defiles" anything, anyway, so this is a non-starter.
b) You don't perhaps think that the virgin-until-marriage might have their own thoughts? "Is this as good as it gets?" "I wonder if I might have been more compatible with X?" "Am I doing this right?" This is a wash.
c) Condoms.
d) That's exactly my philosophy when _having_ sex. That's why it's so good.
2007-03-28 16:33:37 · answer #8 · answered by stmichaeldet 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I waited till marriage - 27 yoa - didn't hurt me
no STD's, either, 27 years later
sexually transmitted diseases
2007-03-28 16:26:40 · answer #9 · answered by tomkat1528 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I 100% agree with you. You should wait until marriage
2007-03-28 16:26:19 · answer #10 · answered by Ron B. 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋