Please help me make a good decision. I met a 34 year old Latina lady with whom I became friends.?

Question

We met in a salsa dancing class. We were spending a lot of time together and things began to heat up a little bit. We did not kiss but we would exchange hugs. I wanted to kiss her but I was not sure if I really wanted her. She told me she had feelings for me and I was ok (it made things easier) with that so we started dating, assuring each other if things did not work out we would have no regrets.

She told me later that she would like it if I did not dance with other people anymore. Dancing with others is common practice in the salsa dancing circle. I agreed to REDUCE my dancing with others because as a couple I should pay her the most attention. But from time to time I would see my friends with whom I would want to spend a couple of dances with.

She wanted me to eliminate that too. I felt that I have already made a lot of compromises that I was OK with but to completely eliminate dancing with even my friends (and they are JUST FRIENDS, older, younger, whatever).

She has told me that she does not want to be my girlfriend anymore because both of us refuse to change. I think I changed a lot and she will not change her preference.

We recently broke up and I am wondering if I did the right thing by agreeing to break up. I mean should I have given in all the way?

She said she thought that love conquers all, and that I should have given her the attention she needs, and that the feelings of love would make me not care about dancing with my friends.

I do not agree with that. I think love conquered me that I changed my ways a LOT but ignoring my friends would make me live a life of resentment.

By the way in hispanic culture this is common - for couple to stay together in social scenes like that. She says that "Yes we (hispanic women) demand a lot, but we give a lot back as well." This is true because when we are alone she is extremely attentive to me.

Have I done the right thing agreeing to walk away? Should I reconsider?

Please help me decide. I would like to get a voicemail on this if possible. My voicemail is 602 ; 457 ; 1577

I need to hear it from someone and not just an email.

Answer 1

You did the right thing.