i don't know what to do?

Question

i have a 6 week old. he is up alot more and paying attention to things also, but everytime i put him down he starts screaming and fussing. i feel bad for him crying but everyone says not to hold him 24/7. i feel like i am spoiling him when i do, but if he screams everytime i put him down what i'm i supposed to do? i always make sure he isn't hungry or wet before i put him down
i have no idea what to do.

Answer 1

There is no way to spoil an infant. When he gets to be 6 months old, then the pampering and constant holding should stop. At this age now he is still learning that you are his mommy and he needs to learn and be assured that you will always take care of him. Holding him when he is upset and picking him up as soon as he cries is how your little one will learn that he can count on your for anything. You sound like you know what you're doing just rest assured that holding him all the time at this age is not going to affect him negitively. My son was the same way, and now hes 3, not spoiled very independent, but he knows if he doesnt feel good or gets hurt he can always come to me and will make him better. If there is any doubt, consult his doctor... just to make suer there isnt something wrong with him (he may be sick without you knowing it). Also, invest in a baby carrier, that way he can be near you always and you can get your work done. So just relax, its ok and normal that he wants you all the time, everything is still so new and scary to him right now... so rush to him and pick him up give him 1000 kisses and let him know you are always there for him!

Answer 2

Hold your baby, you can not spoil a 6 week old. Now maybe when they are 5-6 months then that is a different story. If you have stuff you have to do then may I suggest a baby carrier. I burned a lot of meals until I got one of those. My baby loved it and still loves it, the baby loves being close to you. At some point you may have to let him cry a little bit, you can't hold the baby all the time, but hold him when you can, they grow so fast and then the next thing you know they want to go and explore the world and don;'t want to be held so much. I say hold him as much as you want to. Good luck and God bless!

Answer 3

I don't think you can spoil a baby at this age. If you are able to hold him do it. Before too long your son won't want to sit in your lap, so enjoy it while you can. But if you have something that you need to do, like fix dinner and you know that the baby isn't hungry or wet or in pain, then it is ok to let him cry. Try giving him a pacifier. With both of my kids I had a little stuffed lamb that played Jesus loves me. You could turn that on and set it in his crib to comfort him. It will probably only take him a few minutes before he settles down. It is just hard on Mom to hear the baby cry and not do anything about it.

Answer 4

Honestly, this time goes by so quickly. You're going to blink your eyes and your son will be turning one, cruising the house and emptying out your tupperware cupboard and the cuddles will be incredibly hard to come by. If you have the patience, cherish this time with him. I understand you need to get things done around the house (I remember fitting a shower in was a huge accomplishment), and during those times don't feel awful about putting him in a bouncy seat or swing. Maybe get down on the floor with him and lay next to him on the floor - really get down to his level. Also, you may want to look into getting a sling (maya wrap, ring sling, pouch, etc.) so you can "wear" your baby while you do dishes, vaccuum, grocery shop, etc. - I swear that purchasing a good sling was my best investment ever - it saved my sanity! He may just be a clingy baby - and there really is nothing wrong with that. You cannot spoil him at this age - all he knows right now is you, he needs you and your snuggles.

Answer 5

well i had a teacher in highschool who once told me that you cant spoil an infant. when they become a year or so then thats when they start understanding more and communicating with you and you can more or less figure out if there being spoiled or not. as an infant their just trying to figure out whos who. your mom and they just want your love and to be where theyve been for the past nine months theres a bond there and they feel most comfortable with you. i should know i just had my second daughter shes 2weeks and does the same thing. also they could just be changing their own schedule and gets fussy when you put them down because now thats when they want you to pick them up babies are confusing and unpredictable dont feel like just because others think your spoiling them that you shouldnt hold your baby older relatives tend to think that way because their elders told them that but in the end that baby is yours and ONLY you can do what you want so just love and cherish that baby because they grow sooo fast that one day you wont be able to cuddle with them like you have the chance to do now so take advantage!!!

Answer 6

He is still a newborn and you cannot spoil a newborn baby. I know it can be hard not being able to put him down, but remember the confinement and comfort he came from only 6 weeks ago. He spent 9 months there. It is an adjustment for you both, but it will get better.
Try swaddling him before you put him down, it helps them feel secure.
Try soft music and sing to him. Remember, someday he will push you away when you want to hold him.

Answer 7

The best thing to do is let him cry it out. He will eventually stop crying or fall asleep. You may feel like a bad mom but he will learn. Baby's are smart they know if they cry you will pick them up. This will take some time and eventually he will stop doing this. Another good thing to do is get a bounce that you can lay him in. Especially one that vibrates or plays music. My son and daughter loved them and I could lay them in any room while I had to do my everyday things like take a shower, clean, cook etc.

Answer 8

Don't let anyone tell you that it's colic! Colic doesn't start until around 3 - 4 months of age. What it is, is that your son is adjusting to life outside the womb. Before birth your baby was always comfortable in amniotic fluid. Now he has to deal with adjusting to sound, light, dark, hot, cold....just the reflexes of his arms and legs could startle him and make him cry. My pediatrician told me to think of the first three months of life as "the Fourth Trimester", as it takes newborns three months to adjust to life outside of the womb.

I highly recommend a DVD called "The Happiest Baby on the Block". It goes over the 5 S's.....swaddle, shush, side to side, suck, and swing. Try any of these five and your baby will be off to dreamland in no time. What personally worked for me is swaddling.....like they do in hospitals with a light receiving blanket. He will stay warm and his arms and legs will stay in place so he doesn't startle himself and cry. Try shushing in his ear also. This is called "white noise" and is simular to the noise that he heard in the womb. Do you have a baby swing? Try swaddling and swinging at the same time. Good Luck and I hope that I have helped.

Answer 9

At 6 weeks old, I don't think babies are capable of "manipulating" their parents about holding them often. I think once they get old enough to entertain themselves such as with a baby gym or a rattle or something, then you might want to cut back on the 24/7 holding, but I'd say at this age, it wouldn't hurt to hold him as often as you'd like or can.

Answer 10

You can't spoil a child under 6 months old.

Hold him...this is a big wide world and it's scary.

Sometimes I want my mommy and I'll be 34 tomorrow!