I have been trying to concieve a baby for 4 years now and have recently went to a new doc and he put me on a low carb diet, because I have pcos. I have went through surgery and been on fertility pills to help me concieve all which has not worked. Now I have lost 30 pounds and am finding myself, thinking that if I dont have a baby its okay. Now I am not sure if I want kids after everything I have been through. Should I quit trying?
2007-03-28 09:09:39 · 21 answers · asked by centwatson 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Nothing will ever completely fill the gap of carrying your own child, but you do have options that will fulfill your needs if you really want to be a mother. Have you ever thought about adoption? I think that you should still keep trying, don't give up miracles do happen. But adopting and raising a child that would otherwise not have a home can be just as fulfilling. You will be able to love a child, even if it not your own. You can still be a mother, even if you can't carry your own children. Another option would also to looking into a surrogate mother. The child would be "your" child, your DNA, it would just be carried by another woman. That is when your egg and your partners sperms is fertilized in a test tube instead on placing it into your womb they would place it into the womb of another woman. Many women have also done this, some will use siblings or other relatives, some will use strangers that they get to know and choose from surrogate programs. You still have options when it comes to raising a child, if you really want it. You can still try to have your own, but don't give up hope on motherhood, even if you don't carry a child yourself. I think that you would be a great mother to any child. Good Luck!
2007-03-28 09:19:09 · answer #1 · answered by MRod 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DON'T quit trying. It will probably happen when you least expect it. Four years is a very long time and you have been through a lot but that doesn't mean you should quit. Obviously you are not infertile or your doctor would have told you that, so it may just take a very long time for you to conceive. Give it another year or so and if still nothing works, then you could always adopt. If anything why not see another doctor and get another opinion on what you should do.
2007-03-28 16:47:26 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the same exact boat! My ex hubby and I tried for 3 years.... Fertility doc's and meds galore! I also had PCOS and lost about 45lbs. Now, 8 years later and new hubby.... Was not trying and even on the depo shot to stop painful bleeding and cramps even though I was told I did not ovulate. I am now 11 weeks pregnant! So, my advice is that if you relax and stop trying it may just happen! It did to me after I was resolved to not having any children and really ok with it! However, I am grateful to God as I feel it is a real gift! I felt just as you did... Just exausted with it all together. Whatever you decide... Best wishes!
2007-03-28 16:17:53 · answer #3 · answered by gracie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the thing is don't mess with what God gives you like pills and things. Maybe that's not your place to have a child. I'm sure you would be a great mother but maybe it's either not the time or you may not be able to have one. A friend of my mom's couldn't have kids so she took pills. She got pregnat and had a miscarrage to me it's better to have no kid then have a miscarrge.
2007-03-28 16:15:17 · answer #4 · answered by Vegaluna☺ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey only you can make that decision it will come when it is your time no matter what you do only GOD can tell you when it is time for you to be a mom. I have a friend who was perfectly normal and so was her husband they tried for 5 years and nothing. Have you thought about adoption there are soo many babies out there who need someone to love them. Maybe that is what your path is to take care of a child who has no other chance. Good luck I hope everything works out for you.
2007-03-28 16:15:55 · answer #5 · answered by mominla 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your significant other isn't potent enough. Quit blaming yourself for a change. Blame him. Then, look into adoption. There are plety of kids out there that have been concieved and born by accident. Don't waste life.
2007-03-28 16:12:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just my opinion, I dont know if you believe in God but my belief is that if you are meant to have a baby you will and God will make it happend sooner of later. That diet just doesnt sound healthy at all maybe you should consult another doctor also.
2007-03-28 16:14:32 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you and your partner can decide if that's what you two want. Obviously at one time a child was a very important to you to have gone through all you have to try to conceive.
2007-03-28 17:49:46 · answer #8 · answered by Sabrina R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a decision you will have to make on your own. Sometimes the pressure of trying to conceive makes it almost impossible. You may want to stop trying so hard for a while and something may just happen on its own.
2007-03-28 16:13:18 · answer #9 · answered by heathyre30 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just let it be and if it doesnt happen then you were not meant to have one. You should adopt instead. There are thousands of kids just dying for the chance to have a normal life. Its also better than stressing yourself out :)
2007-03-28 16:14:02 · answer #10 · answered by melaniejean862209 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋