What should i do i pregnant and dont know what to do>?

Question

I am 18 yrs old. Senior yr is almost over and i was planning on going to college after. I am pregnant tho. I dont kno what to do, weither i should get an abortion which i dont want or have it. I could never think of adoption. Im scared that if i do have it my life will fall apart and i wont have a good job and wont be able to go to college. But also i dont want to have an abortion.. So i am stuck and dont know what to do.

Answer 1

You said you don't want to have an abortion and you could never think of adoption...that leaves you with keeping the child. You should talk to a counsler or pregnancy crisis center and go over your options again. I hope you figure it out soon.

Answer 2

Abortion is your best option. There are risks though.
However, most authorities will tell you that the greatest risks are found in having the baby.
If you believe in God, I suggest you pray to God about your need for an abortion. If God says it is right then you should ignore everyone else.
If you do not believe in God then your only choice is to determine on your own if abortion is right. I hope I can help.
My belief is that if you want an abortion, there is no Biblical, moral or legal reason that you should not have the abortion.
With the concerns you have, you should clearly consider your options.
These are the true facts:
There is nothing in the bible that says abortion is wrong. Phrases such as "I knew you in the womb" don't do the trick because God kills over half of all fetuses even though he knew them in the womb. Stories about men fighting and killing a fetus don't work because it is the men that kill the fetus without the consent of the father or woman.
Those who say that abortion is murder are saying that God is a murderer, because, it is God that invented abortion and uses it every day in the form of miscarriage.
There is nothing in the Bible or in science that says that killing a fetus is "killing a human soul". In fact it is clear to most people that a fetus is not a human. If you think about it for a moment, it is entirely possible that when a fetus is terminated, the soul of the fetus is not killed, but re used. Otherwise, the Bible would have called it killing and it doesn't.
If you do not believe in God then you can deal purely with the facts on a moral plane. If you have the abortion, it frees up resouces that you can use later to raise a child. It also allows you to better prepare for a child. Or if you choose, the money it cost to save the fetus and raise it can be used to help 12 other children in a third world country. Adoption is a foolish option, by keeping the fetus, you bring another child into the world. There are already millions upon millions of children needing adoption. If you bring the fetus into the world you are causing the demise of one of the other children that need help. Your last option should be adoption.
I believe that if you think clearly about the options, pray to God or seek advice from an Intelligent person you will choose abortion. It is the best option in the Christian sense in that it potentially saves other lives and it avoids the forced adoption of a child.
My advice is to have the abortion, and go on with your life.
God bless you.

Answer 3

Today is my son's 13th birthday!!! I had him a month after I turned 18. I never wanted to go to college though, ironically though now after years of waiting tables, then hairdressing, now I'm starting school again. To the person who thinks every young unwed mother lives on the welfare system, know that, not all do. I didn't.

To have the baby or not is your choice. I had an abortion at 15, I don't regret it. At 17 before finding I was pregnant, it was still the option of choice in my mind, until I found out. I knew I'd be keeping my little guy, despite arguing with my family right up till the cut off time, them wanting me to get an abortion. They told me I had my whole life ahead of me, and I would be throwing it away. Only my father supported my decision, he was terminal with cancer and died when my son was 5 months old. The rest of my family was wrong. Life may be different than it might have been. It may be a thousand times harder. But the way I see it, it's a thousand times better than it might have been. I can't imagine how I ever thought I had reason to live before my child was born.

I wound getting married and it turns out my husband and I after all these years just can't stay pregnant, so now I've been through losing a desperatly wanted baby, a few times. I don't really regret any of it. Life pretty much turns itself upside down on a regular basis anyway, so it's best just to learn how to deal with what it throws you. If you know for certain you don't want an abortion, or adoption, then you've answered your own question. There is no guarantee that your life won't fall apart with or without a baby. My life didn't even really begin until I had mine. So happy 13th birthday to my one and only little guy who's quickly turning into a man.

Answer 4

I'm gonna give you my honest opinion. I got pregnant during the summer between my junior and senior year of high school. I had my baby when all of my other friends were planning their graduations, where they would go to college, etc. I am now 33 years old. I am going back to school finally after 15 years of raising my children. I have had a really rough life. Don't get me wrong, I love my children more than anything in the world, but I really wish I would have waited. I haven't been able to provide my children with the kind of life they deserved because I made a choice. I had sex before I was ready. I didn't take the proper precautions. I don't regret my decision to keep my baby, but I don't wish the hardship I've had on anyone else in the world. I won't tell you what to do. I'm telling you what happened to ME. I hope you have someone to talk to who's close to you and can help you through this, because I didn't have that. And it was so hard to deal with alone. Good luck. You'll make the decision that's right for YOU, no one else. Oh, I must also mention that I had a best friend who also at 18 got pregnant. She went to college when her children were 3 and 4. She is now a teacher, owns her own house, and is truly happy. Not to mention, her kids are very happy and very well-adjusted teenagers. So it works both ways...

Answer 5

First of all, turn to your mother or closest relative for help, they will be the only ones who will stand by you no matter which choice you make. Having a baby can be the most beautiful thing in the world but it may also be the most difficult, especially at your age. You have to make sure that you discuss your options with the person who got you pregnant. Having a baby at a young age will set you back a few years, but if you are a determined girl, you will get through it. You can still have the baby, still go to college, and still have a normal life. Don't think that because you will have a baby, your life will be over. You will just have to put some things on hold for now, but the reward in the end will be so much better. Trust your instincts, becuase you are the only one who has a final say in this situation. Don't give up your dreams, just think of it as a delay for a little bit. Once you have the baby, you will want to work a million times harder at school to provide the best for that little boy or girl. I have many girlfriends who are in college and have children, some already graduation this year, if they got through it ....anyone can! trust me!

Answer 6

Go with your heart love. You said it "I dont want to have an abortion"., so don't do it!! I had an abortion when i was younger. Now that Im older, I do regret it - ever so often I think about the ordeal and what could have been. You may struggle at first, but all will be well if you put your head to it. Im sure you can do all those things you really want to do!! But just remember this - TAKE TIME AND THINK ABOUT IT FIRST. I hope you are not alone and have either a partner or close friend, relative who you could speak to. Take care!! This will be the hardest decision you will ever make - trust me I know!

Answer 7

As a single, unwed mother, I know that you can be a success in life even with a child. Having a baby doesn't mean that you have to be a failure. You can rise above all of the stereotypes of ending up on wellfare, and not doing anything with your life. It will be a hard road, trust me, I know, but you can do it. It will just take time, and there is no shame in getting help, as long as you don't make it a lifestyle. I was a little older than you when I got pregnant (I was 20), but I think that it doesn't matter how old you are, you can do anything you set your mind to. If you want to go to college, do it. There are programs out there to help you with your education. Personally, I don't believe in abortion, and from what you said, that isn't what you want to do, but you do have a choice to make, and it isn't an easy one. Like I said, I am a single mom, and I know how hard it can be to raise a child on your own, but I have found that it is worth it and I know I couldn't picture my life without my daughter.

Answer 8

I have been in this situation before. My boyfriend tried pressuring me into abortion. But I told him that I wouldn't do it. Well, I had the baby, and my boyfriend and I are still together. We are both in college, and work. I am working at a day care center, and doing my classes online. Sure, things get a bit crazy...but they could be worse.

I am anti-abortion. I think it is murder. And as for adoption, I think that if you KNOW that you can't give the child the life that it deserves, then you should give it to someone who can. Is there a specific reason why you wouldn't consider adoption? If you like, you can email me to explain. I would love to help you.

Answer 9

no easy answer to this; only you can decide; I became pregnant at the age of 38 by a man who did not care for me.My small business had just gone bust; I was in debt up to my ears; I was so poor, I could not afford to buy mt eldest daughter a pair of shoes so she could attend school. She was being bullied by others because of the state of the shoes she had.
I had four kids from a broken marriage between 9 and 16, all dependent on me. My ex was not paying maintenance; my partner had simply said,"get rid of it."
Yes, abortion seemed like the answer. There was no way i could care for a baby; I couldn't even care for the ones I had. But I decided I needed time to think; I asked my partner to leave me be for a few days; he went crazy, said there was nothing to think about...it was abortion or nothing. Now, I just hate it when someone backs me into a corner.
the only reason I didn't have an abortion was to p**s him off.
He stayed with me because I told him I'd give the baby for adoption. He went into the delivery suite with me to make sure I did it. As I held my baby son in my arms, I knew I had made my choice. My partner saw my face, and got up and walked out.
tomorrow, my lovely boy is 15. Yes, it has been so hard financially. Yes, I had to put my life on hold again. but I am so proud of the young man he has become, and I know I did it; his father had no part in his life.
your life may fall apart for a while; but you are young, very young. when you are thirty, and still a young woman, your child will be ready for secondary school; they only need you for a few years; your time will come around again. There are such great possibilites for single mums these days.
I wish you well with your decision. In my case, I made mine in a conservative climate; lived in a conservative neighbourhood; there were not the support systems out there then. I have no regrets.

Answer 10

Hi hun listen please please please do not listen to these people that said you must terminate this baby its murder!!!! I was 18 and still in school too when I fell pregnant and my thought on it all was if I was responsible enough to make this child I will take on the responibility to look after it I know people that have had abortions and they regret it sooo much to this day it kills them and you dont wanna get eaten up by guilt I still got to work and finish my studies pregnant and all and today I have a beautiful daughter with no regrets there is always a way to make means I am now 25 and have another son as well and happliy married and I truelly feel blessed with that child I also thought my life was over being 18 and in school but if I could have my life over I wouldnt change a thing please have that beautiful baby there is a purpose in this world for that child or it wouldn't be there you wont regret it I promise unless you got rid of it Good luck and thing long and hard Im talking from experience and fom being in the same shoes as you oh and also look up abortions on the net and you will change your mind very quick and youll have that baby its a promise. Good luck again hun and do the right thing xxxxx God Bless! :)

Answer 11

If you don't want an abortion then don't get one. You may be able to start college as soon as you like but in time you will be able to as your child gets older. Some colleges also have online classes that you could take and still be able to work or stay at home with your child. Also, I know a few girls who were pregnant in high school but now have went to college and have a good job. You can do it! It may be hard but don't give up! Good Luck.