My husband and I have decided to start trying for our first child in May of this year. I am trying to get him to agree to April instead. I have tried so many reasons for starting, but he seems to be pretty firm about May b/c we have always planned on May. Does anyone have any suggestions on what I can say that can possibly convince him to go ahead. I am happy about May, but I am so excited that I just don't want to wait. Thanks!
2007-03-28 09:00:02 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
It's really hard to explain, except just to say that my husband and I are planners! We know, however, that you can't plan when we will actually become pregnant. I am on BC and it may take months before we are able to concieve or it could happen first month trying. I think that is why I am so stuck on trying for April. I want to go ahead and start b/c you just never know how long it will take. But at the same time, I am happy w/May and I want to please my husband by just relaxing and being happy. I don't know. I am just so excited I can't wait anymore, you know?! Anyway, I really just had to share this w/others to see what opinions I get. I truly appreciate everyone's advice and ideas. They have been great!
2007-03-28 09:19:32 · update #1
No. 12... Thank you for sharing your story! That is really encouraging to hear that someone else knows what I am going through and is feeling the same way. I appreciate your advice as well and I believe I need to try those things myself! I know it will be here soon!! Thanks again!
2007-03-28 16:14:50 · update #2
At first blush it seems as if your intramural debate with your husband is much ado about nothing -- but that is only at first blush.
Although it may seem as if waiting until May should be no big deal to you, and moving it up to April should be no big deal to him, and that therefore either of you should be able to give in at no real cost to anyone, I've got to admit that your last sentence, where you said, ". . . I am so excited that I just don't want to wait," really got to me.
The fact that you're bubbling over with excitement and anticipation is a great thing, which he should cherish and encourage, not throw cold water on it. But trying to make him feel guilty isn't the answer. Just communicate to him, with and without words, how wonderful you feel about becoming a family of three and how much you're looking forward to it.
Your excitement and joy are contagious. Share them with him!
Godspeed!
2007-03-28 09:17:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Having a child is about 2 people so to me another month is nothing. Here we are in April almost so why not wait till May and just relax. You might not get pregnant right away anyway..Be patient and a little compromise never hurt any marriage. Have you not heard the old saying "convince a man against his will and he is of the same opinion still" Remember a good marriage is "don't sweat the small stuff" Be comfortable, relax and say Yes we agreed on May and so be it.
2007-03-28 16:04:41 · answer #2 · answered by commonsense2265 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i am in the same boat. we decided that in June we would start and I've been trying to get him to do it earlier too! it's so frustrating! what's a couple months, right? well, I've calmed down about it now. some things I've tried are seduction but man is he stubborn. I've tried convincing him it will be a big tax deduction. I've tried convincing him that it will most likely take us a couple months to actually get pregnant anyway. I've tried pouting too. But, after i thought about it i really don't want to pressure him. it's a huge step and it won't kill me to wait a couple months. So, in the mean time i am taking prenatal vit. and exercising to get in shape that way i can stay active when I'm pregnant. just stay busy and the month will fly by. Good luck!
2007-03-28 22:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by no.12 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him and tell him how you feel, he should be understanding but if not then tell him you guys need practice. just because you start trying on a certain day doesn't mean your going to get pregnant that month these things sometime take a long time or it may happen the first time you do it... tell him you need to start in april on trying so you can be good and ready for may. Good luck and Congrats to trying...
2007-03-28 16:05:33 · answer #4 · answered by stephaniedg16 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't really think you can put a date on starting. You might not get preggers right away and might be trying for more then a year. My husband wanted to wait a year to get financially stable and I told him that I was getting off my B/C pills a month before we got married and if he didnt want to have a baby yet it was his turn to use protection or whatever contraceptive method HE could control. We ended up getting pregnant 2 weeks after getting off the pill!!
2007-03-28 16:19:08 · answer #5 · answered by sicilygrl8 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Uh, tell him it should be up to you, your body your pregnancy your physical and emotional pain = your decision to where and when you conceive. Just tell him how you feel about how the feeling of wanting the pregnancy to start immediatly is very different for women. Its like telling a hungry hobo that there is a pie in the fridge just wait a month! Its a hormonal thing in women, when we want to concieve, we are obsessed with it, and then if that doesnt work you start sexing him up everyday he will just say yes.
2007-03-28 17:25:38 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
May is not that far away. Since you both originally agreed to start in May than why not stick to it? On the other hand I'm not sure what difference one month makes. It's a lot of fun making a baby!
2007-03-28 16:05:31 · answer #7 · answered by Just One Girl's Opinion 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well my goodness you've set a month. When my husband and I agreed to start trying we just tried we didnt sit down and say "On labor day we will start trying". Its just a month wait it out if he's so determined to wait til may
2007-03-28 16:04:34 · answer #8 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
WHY IS IT A BIG DEAL TO START TRYING IN A CERTAIN MONTH?? IS IT YOU WANT YOUR BABY BORN A CERTAIN TIME OF YEAR? PERSONALLY I WOULD JUST TELL HIM IT USUALLY DOESN'T HAPPEN THE FIRST TIME YOU TRY SO CONSIDER APRIL A PRACTICE MONTH.
2007-03-28 16:04:54 · answer #9 · answered by got all I need 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Waiting 1 month to make hubby happy? I say just wait. Sometimes it helps them to feel more in control. So... what is 1 month? Good luck
2007-03-28 16:03:06 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋