My best friend and I have been friends for over 15 years. I have stuck with her through everything! She has been married and divorced and through several men but I always stuck with her. Her mother died of liver disease some years ago. Just before her mother died in Hospice, she asked me to take care of my friend since I was the "only true friend she has ever had". For the last 6 months she has been dating a new guy she met on the Internet whom I can't stand. She says she is happy with him but for many reasons I feel that he is not right for her. I told her it was not my decision. She says that they are getting married. Now, due to recent events, including the fact that my friend and I went out to lunch after he told her not to talk to me, she says that she can not stand any more of the 'drama'. I told her that we may need to stop talking and being friends, however, it is really hard for me since we have been friends so long. Your advice is appreciated.
2007-03-28 08:55:43 · 4 answers · asked by Elizabeth H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
things can get very emotional when a new relationship comes into an old one. express to your friend that you two have been through a lot and you hope to go through a lot more with her. it seems that she is "wrapped" up with the new man in her life and has forgotten about her best friend. It also seems to me he's a little controlling. unfortunately sometimes all we can do is watch our friends get hurt and wait for them to come back. real friendships are built by the hurdles that are jumped. just remember that.
2007-03-28 09:06:58 · answer #1 · answered by amandamoose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly talking isn't doing anything but making the matters worst.
I think you should give some space and see what happens.
I've been in this situation before and things will come around.
you may feel hurt at first for losing one of your good friends but good things coome to those who wait.
Or
maybe you should give it another shoot and talk about it once more.
Maybe this time your point will get across.
You may be right about this guy and one day he will get caught up and your friend is goign to need you support.
Your friend does need your support right now you know since her mother and i know how it feels to lose a loved one. So tyr to work it out for her mothers sake..
I hope everything works out foro the better...
Good luck
ps. if you believe in GOD you should pray about it... It works
2007-03-28 16:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by Gabrielle H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy is insecure and wants to be controlling.
if she wants someone to control her life and every move she makes sounds like he is the guy for her. If she wants a relationship with a future she needs to end it now..
i watched by best friend from high school travel down the same road with a controlling freak 20 years ago. she is not happy, never has been, and never will be. you could look at her and see the sunshine now i look at her and all i see is pain.
and finally no man is worth giving up your friendship. keep in touch and support her in her decision i promise you she will need your shoulder.
2007-03-28 16:35:51 · answer #3 · answered by 42beenthere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she loves him, let her go on with the relationship, bt if youre sure his not right, find some concrete evidence to proove it to your friend.
2007-03-28 16:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by pinkyme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋