Wish me luck.. give me words of encouragement. It's hard to leave and I hurt for sure, and tomorrow will be even harder. I'll be ok though. I just need a few final words of motivation. Will I be happy in the end?
2007-03-28 08:46:47 · 26 answers · asked by ik ben alphabetsoup 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for all your comments so far! I can't wait to get out. I'm still sad though.
2007-03-28 09:36:02 · update #1
My mom (she's 80 btw) told me that when she got her divorce from a guy that drank and was abusive, it was like she was reborn into a world of sunny skies and dark cloud that was over her was gone. Also a huge weight was lifted off her back. Several years later she married my dad.
I hope you have similar experiences. Everybody should have the chance to be happy. I wish you well. I think you will be very though.
2007-03-28 16:36:21 · answer #1 · answered by bigdaddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard asking for words of encouragement from strangers, but it's even harder being in your shoes. If you are in an abusive relationship, then things will definitely be better when you leave. Just keep in mind when trying the dating pool again, what charactoristics your soon to be ex has and steer clear from those type of men, otherwise you'll be in the same boat again. Cheer up, and remember above all else, God loves you.
2007-03-28 15:52:46 · answer #2 · answered by tigers4010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your going to be happy at the end. Your going to feel like you just lost 200 pounds from your shoulders and your going to realize a lot of things about him and your self, that's if you don't start a new relationship right away. When your in a abusive relationship and you leave it you really need time to yourself. Don't drown into other relationship you just be adding other 200 pounds to your shoulder. Start reading about relationships before getting into other one. Is very easy to get into other one. Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger has some really good books out ten stupid things women do to mess up their lives. I think you need to read that one. It will help you, for sure.
2007-03-28 15:54:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better to leave now than to find yourself physically hurt/injured. Seriously.
I was with an abusive "woman" and I'm a 5'10" @ 188lbs guy. But I donot abuse women. But she abused me.
She ran over me with a car and broke my right foot and damaged my right knee.
I wrote a book, as a part of mental/emotional healing, entitled..........."It Happens To Men Too".
Didn't have the $10,000 that Dorrance Publishing wanted to get the book in stores to be sold. I still have the rough draft on floppy though.
Don't let the situation deteriorate such that someone get hurt.
2007-03-28 15:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by James R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck, and please learn from your experiences. Most guys are pretty good to women, and it won't be hard to find one when you are ready...just look closely.
In the mean time, use the support groups that are out there. There is all sorts of help available in most cities that can make the transition a lot easier. There are legal services, help with utilities, all sorts of self help groups. Just be strong, and never look back...you have no good old days here, and people seldom change.
2007-03-28 16:13:54 · answer #5 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever seen the movie Enough with Jennifer Lopez watch it because I think you will feel different after you leave when you are in it you dont see what is really happening I would hate for something to happen because you didnt leave I will be praying for you if you need a friend just email me ok I am there for you be safe and careful
2007-03-28 15:50:49 · answer #6 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to avopid confrontation
Ask for the help of the Sheriff department if needed
Do not answer his calls, change your number
Be in a place that he doesn't know.
Change your passwords, and pin numbers
Get your mementos, important paperwork and heirloms now befores he trashes them
DO NOT call him even if you feel tempted to.
Do not go back with him.
If he harrasess you or treathens you, file a protective order agaist him to keep him away.
BE STRONG
Power to you girlfriend! Your life starts tomorrow.
Good luck
2007-03-28 16:11:37 · answer #7 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why wait until tomorrow when you can do it today?
How many black eyes do you need to leave him? How many hateful words do you need to hear until you get the message the guy doesn't love you? How many tears do you need to cry because of the hurt and humiliation you're feeling inside?
The person that is responsible for letting him abuse you is YOU. And when your heart and mind are telling you to leave, then do it!
2007-03-28 16:09:47 · answer #8 · answered by Ella 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your really going to be happy once you get thru the feelings your doing the right thing. Any guy who is abusive is never going to change- but you can- hind sight is for sight. Love is waiting around the cornier- just don't fall for the same type- take your time get to know you and love you again. Good Luck!!!!
2007-03-28 16:07:22 · answer #9 · answered by sylviavnpttn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you won't. He'll tell you how sorry he is and it will never happen again and you'll stay. If you were going to leave it would be today not tomorrow. You might get scared and stay because of what you think he would do to himself or to you. I know all about that ****, ny cousin stayed with an abusive man for 21 years. I;ve heard that tune before.
2007-03-28 15:59:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋