I've worked for same place over 20 yrs. but business is & has been bad for last 5 yrs. and worse now than ever. It's so stressful w/extreme financial problems, credit hold, etc. I so want to leave & have been looking & interviewed twice. But, feel so guilty for not trying to stick w/it. I go back & forth EVERYDAY with this - stay - leave - stay - leave. I pray all the time for an answer. I know I have to make that choice but any advice out there ??
2007-03-28 08:19:47 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
After 20 years, looking for a new job must feel like cheating on the person you're married to and love.
Through thick and thin, you have given your all and now are thinking of cheating.
Yet, beyond the guilt , please remember that, just like they must look out for the best interest of their stoclkholders, you have to do the same thing--look out for the inetersts of your family because, if they go under, they will meet you at the door and send you home without severance.
My advice is to interview. It doesn't mean you need to change jobs; it does mean that you are being responsible and looking out for yourself to make sure you aren't caught short.
Good luck!
2007-03-28 12:10:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say what has prompted this thought....I was made redundant after 17 years in one job and although I had moved around within the company it was still hard to start job seeking after all this time. Forunately the law has changed now but I found that some companies were very ageist, plus you have to sit so many different types of tests now and to actually get an interview is quite hard. If you are thinking of moving on please make sure you get a few good books from the library first and perhaps test the agency market. I found a new job after 5 months of trying, I'd love to say that I was happy but I'm not - Good Luck!
2016-03-17 04:00:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I changed careers after 15 years ten years ago. It's the same struggle but at least I'm doing work I'm more suited to.
I've also worked at places that have gone under and believe me that's harder to deal with than making the move while the body is alive but on respirator.
Loyalty will get you little. Even HR people turn it around now days and say why did you stay at a place so long? Are you lazy or stupid?
Take a deep breath and jump. You'll be better for it a lot sooner than waiting and waivering.
2007-03-28 08:30:31 · answer #3 · answered by PuckDat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The writing is on the wall, but if you leave you will not get the type of severance you would be entitled to. Why not approach them to lay you off with a package.In the meantime brush up on your resume and network and start looking for a job.
This is like the deer on the highway with the headlights hit him.
What would you do if you were not afraid???
Who will be moving your cheese?
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2007-03-28 08:23:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your job is causing you so much stress that you bring it home and constantly feel weighed down by it, then yes, switch for your own good. Don't feel guilty, because if you think about it, no matter how nice your supervisors are, etc, if it comes time to cut down, they might feel bad about it, but they would cut you out not based on your personality, but because they have to. So good on you for staying with a place for so long and having that kind of loyalty, but work is work - your life should not be consumed by it. I'm sure with 20yrs worth of experience you have a lot of bankable skills.
2007-03-28 08:24:25 · answer #5 · answered by HappilyEverAfter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You don't think 20 years of service is enough at one spot? Don't ever ever ever feel guilty for leaving a place...you think the CEO will be crying at night because you left? I don't think so. The place is bad and you have the opportunity to leave. Then leave... it's better than getting laid off which is what usually happens in the situation (restructuring to fix their position).
Look out for yourself and not the company unless you will wake up one day feeling sorry that you felt sorry for the company in the first place.
2007-03-28 08:25:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read the book, Who Moved My Cheese? by Spencer Johnson. It is a very quick read. I read it just before I left my job of 24 years. I've been at my new job for almost a year. I look back at the old company and have NO REGRETS.
Most libraries and book stores have the book.
2007-03-28 08:27:32 · answer #7 · answered by moss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have got the Answer,Keep Praying.Put in resumes and applications and then Ask God to help you choose witch Job.I was working at a dead end Job and Prayed and Prayed and I got My Answer when I put a application in and got offered the Job,I love My Job Now.Just because you have been there 20 yrs does not meen you have to stay out of guilt for you Employer.
2007-03-28 08:25:50 · answer #8 · answered by Dew 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you talk to the CFO or anyone else of the company and see what the financial future is - if not then I would really start thinking of your future. Cannot hurt to have something to go to. Good Luck. You have stuck by them for 20 years and you really do not need to stress yourself out and make yourself sick.
2007-03-28 08:24:14 · answer #9 · answered by Feline05 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your company will not hesitate to get rid of you when the time comes. take your experience and make a better life for you. the company is not more important than you, you have given them 20 years of your life now you can go for something you want to do or a more comfortable place for you to be
2007-03-28 08:24:42 · answer #10 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋